Thank you all so much for the feedback. It's been great to see that everyone says Aksel - because I have been having real misgivings about it. DH and I have about talked it to death. And I finally realized what's going on with it... I'm not really afraid that other people will mispronounce it... it's me that's mispronouncing it. Not out loud, but in my head, all I can hear in my head when I read the name is Askel.
My dad has terrible, debilitating dyslexia and grew up in an age where special ed and learning disabilities did not exist... and the consequences on his self esteem are permanent. He didn't even want to have children with my mother because he thought he would be passing on "bad genes." Well, I turned out to be an advanced reader (I have a degree in Literature, for heaven's sake) but only recently have I reflected that some word and letter combinations give me trouble. Like when I was 6 or 7, I always read the word "prohibited" as "phorbited" and later, "euphemism" as "euphism". When I got my graduate degree in Education and took special ed. classes, I realized I probably have some really minor dyslexia that I've naturally compensated for my whole life. So I read the word in my head, and hear what I hear, but once I've heard the correct version I compensate and I say it the right way. But I don't read it in my head the right way - in my head it's always wrong. Like a social coping mechanism, not a learned coping mechanism.
Anyway, I've never even told anyone any of this, but Aksel has been giving me PROBLEMS! I've even typed it Askel multiple times in this posting and had to go back and fix it. So finally when DH and I were talking about it (I've been pushing for Axel, he really likes Aksel) all this dyslexia stuff came tumbling out and I'm just so embarrassed, I started crying. I mean it's a freakin' 5 letter word here people! And he was just being so dismissive (before I broke down, not after) saying things that made it sound like only an idiot wouldn't be able to see that it's Aksel, not Askel. Which makes me feel like an idiot, because I say it wrong in my head every time! So yeah, emotional crying fit followed.
Anyway, so he and I think we are going with Axel and not Askel. But it did really help that you all liked the other, because it really pushed me to examine what's going on in my head. Which, these days, isn't a whole lot!
ETA: I just re-read this post and noticed I did it again in the last paragraph! I'm going to leave that there as evidence against myself. Ugh.