I couldn't decide to put this in childhood or here since DD1 is 9, I finally decided here might work best. DD1 is in 3rd grade at a very small school. The grades are spilt so it is a 3rd/4th grade class, she is one of the younger students, and one of the only girls. Out of 16 kids, only 2 of them are girls. The 2nd grade only has 2 girls in it so there are never that many. She has been here 3 years and while the boys are always nice to the few girls, they don't often play together outside of the classroom. Other parents have made me aware of crushes that their boys have had on DD1 over the years, we'd joke about how cute it was and just move on. We have another very recent one, they just "discovered" each other this week, I think this is the first one that is mutual.
DD1 has few friends to begin with, there isn't many girls at school, our neighborhood has few that are her age, she is heavily into sports but her teammates either live far away or are all boys again. She has one boy friend that skis with her sometimes in the winter. DD1 just came out of a nasty snowboard team experience, she was the only girl and I believe the other teammates started having gender bias issues, it started getting nasty before she finally told us what was going on. She has now been switched to another team at a different resort, once again the only girl, but her teammates are nice to her this time. Needless to say, she is one girl surrounded in a seas of boys! I also want to make sure that she moves past her recent experience where the boys really were being quite cruel, and the male coach just ignored her as well. Several of her sports are male dominated and sadly, I know this won't be the last time it happens.
DD1 and her new friend were paired as reading partners, she is dyslexic and often gets a reading partner. They got along really well, he actually assisted her instead of just being there. They asked us (his mom and me) to have a playdate so tomorrow they are going along with his family to a local event after school. Today she came home and talked about how much fun they had at school, they hung out together all day, and she made the comment about how she thought he "like likes" her and she was really looking forward to tomorrow. And now this is the part where I am clueless! I said something about how it was fine if she liked him as well or if she didn't that was fine as well. I don't know what else to say or what I should be doing. I know crushes are normal at this age, I remember having them but I also had far more friends that were girls and rarely interacted with the boys in my class. I don't want to not get them together since she doesn't have many friends. How have you handled crushes in your house?