I need some advice. I have to make a change, and I am not sure what that change needs to be.
My DH and I have four daughters (15,13,3,19mos), and I am 6w pregnant with surprise #5.
The youngest two co-sleep with us and have since birth. With DD #3, I exclusively breastfeed and nursed her thru pregnancy with DD #4 and tandem nursed for the following four months. DD #3 was/is an extremely high-needs baby/child. She has NEVER slept thru the night. I weaned her when I did because I was beginning to resent her and her need for "num-num's" when I was needing to attend to my newborn and my older kids. She still has to touch my breast to fall asleep, and again, she does NOT sleep thru the night. Last night she was awake at least 50% of the night, and she wakes her sister. DD #4 also has never had a bottle, cannot get herself to sleep, cannot get herself back to sleep, etc. I am in tears. I am tired, cranky and pregnant. I am afraid to go down this road again with being sleep deprived and not able to meet the needs of ALL my kids.
I have gotten DD #4 down to nursing at just nap and bed. But, it is for an hour at nap and basically all night due to DD #3. My husband is NOT a nighttime parent, and the only suggestion he has ever had regarding any of our babies is CIO in an another room. :( I am not willing to do that.
ANY ADVICE WELCOME! I am getting desperate.