DD will be 3 in June, and while she has always been a very enthusiastic nurser, I am just starting to go crazy. An hour doesn't go by that she doesn't ask to nurse, sometimes every 20-30 minutes. She will nurse for an hour at a time if I allow it and I can't spend 6 hours a day nursing my toddler. When I say no or even try to delay it (after lunch, after I finish doing something, etc), she will often throw a monster tantrum that includes hitting and kicking. Yesterday she had two 30 minute long tantrums about it, plus a few smaller ones. When she nurses, she frequently tries to twiddle the other nipple (which she is not allowed to do, but then throws the fit when I tell her she's done), pull yank and twist my hair, try to do it standing up and then collapse but tries to stay latched so that she practically rips my nipple off. It makes me feel so angry and I hate feeling like that towards her. She has access to water, milk and food all day and she's isn't very picky, but if I try to get her to eat a snack instead, most of the time she gets angry.
Other than this, she is a very happy little girl. She's outgoing and social, shares with her friends, she's polite, follows rules, gets along great with other kids etc. She is very strong willed and opinionated, and likes to everything herself (much more than all her friends) but I like her strong personality and don't want to squash it. There are things that I really do love about nursing, but I'm wondering if we will both be happier if I wean her. I night weaned about 6 months ago and that resulted in much better sleep for both of us (she woke up every 1-2 hours all night long, now she pretty much sleeps through the night), and gave my dh the ability to put her to bed.
So, I either need tips on how to make our breastfeeding relationship better for both of us, or weaning tips. Has anyone ever weaned a toddler that loved it so much? She makes comments like, "That looks so yummy, *slurp*!" or "Mmmmmm, tasty!" I have no idea how to do it or if I even should. Help!