My 13 month old is constantly following her 3-year-old brother around, grabbing at his clothes, swiping at him, etc... She's not really violent, but she is really annoying. I do tell her not to, and I think she understands, but she's too young to really obey with any consistency. So the 3-year-old is constantly yelling at me to "pick up the baby, she's hitting me!" (or just if he thinks she'll get in his way) and will frequently hit or kick or push her to get her out of his way: "She was hitting me, so I had to push her away!" He's not very violent either, and never causes any actual injuries.
I tell him that hitting isn't OK, and that he can go climb up on a chair at the table to get away from his sister. But I can understand his frustration. She does interrupt pretty much anything he tries to do within her reach, and anything I try to do with him when she's around (read a book, etc...)
Does anyone have any good strategies for either redirecting a 1-year-old, or teaching a 3-year-old how to deal with her appropriately?