Hi. We are ready to start a birth control method for both of my 15 yr old girls.
Condoms always, everytime.
But they want to be doubly protected from pregnancy- what do you all think??
What would be the best choice?
They seemed interested in the Implanon bar- I lean towards pills or patch to start with then maybe the depo- shot??
I want to see how the hormones affect them first- but ultimately it's up to them.
I'm curious about how other have dealt with this either with children or in their own lives.
As a teen i tried the Pill (microgynon) and Depo. I used condoms each and every time too - but to me THOSE were for my health, the BCP's were to be doubly sure about any potential baby's health (by definitely NOT creating one)!
I liked the BCP's, i was responsible enough to take it reliably and it was easy to stop if hormonal issues occurred. The depo shot did NOT agree with me, i spotted all the time and bled on and off and the nurse gave me a second one, telling me it'd settle down. Due to this i bled in total every day for 9 months which a) precluded the NEED for birth control and b) left me anaemic. I would recommend trying the minipill first because if THAT suits then the depo is less likely to cause issues (it's the same hormone, just a lower dose).
As an adult i have had the mirena and the copper iud, both of which i like but neither of which i think i would have liked before my babies had stretched out my cervix.
In addition to whatever birth control method your DD's choose - I would teach them a little bit about their own fertile signs, if you have not already.
Even knowing that certain cervical mucous equals fertility and that sperm can live for 5 days have probably saved me from an unexpected pregnancy or two (wow, honey, this is a really lousy time of month to use withdrawal only….)
I loved Depo, but did gain weight on it. I had increased (and severe) migraines on NuvaRing, but loved its simplicity otherwise. I took Ortho Tricyclen BCP, and found they were fine, but I was bad at taking them consistently so I didn't stay on them long. However my sisters both had no problems taking their pills regularly and are still on them.
Really, it depends on their reactions to it, but I am with you in saying I would try something they could stop if they had a reaction. My one sister had psychotic episodes as a reaction to the first type of BCP she tried. My mom had to take her to the doctor because she didn't remember them afterwards, and wouldn't have known there was a problem without my mom telling her.
I later used FAM successfully for 5 years, then 1 month to conceive, but I am hesitant to recommend it to a teen. But knowing about it may be helpful to them later.
Yes. I learned about it in my teens years - but did not really use it until well into my 20's. I still liked know my safer times, though!
I was on depo in my early 20s and while I loved the convenience of it, I gained a lot of weight and spotted constantly. Very annoying. I was on it for over a year or two and total constant spotting.
In my late 20s I was on Nuva ring and thought that worked the best for me. Once a month convenience without the spotting. Kept the weight.
I definitely suggest the book "Cycle Savvy" by Toni Weschler - it's like TCOYF for teens. I was Charting To Avoid by age 16 (with condoms as well), and it's really easy. As well, it's great to let your girls get to know their bodies - and it's a good way to keep all those artificial hormones out of them. I tried the Pill for a month - it made my moods 100x worse than they were with my normal raging teenage hormones.