I am a regular MDC user, but I know too many people IRL and signed up with a new account just now so I can post anonymously. My DH (45) was diagnosed with prostate cancer last week At first, we were handling things okay, and actually, he still seems to be. I am FREAKING out right now and don't feel I have a proper outlet. My DH is adamant that we not share this news with anyone right now. He told a trusted friend/colleague who went through this a couple of years ago, but that's it. Luckily, this guy hooked us up with a top notch surgeon in a bigger city about 4 hours away. We wouldn't have known about this guy without the recommendation & we are comfortable with the treatment decision. I know I'm rambling. sorry....
So, we're keeping the news under wraps just now. He (and I) tend to be more private about things, so I do get this attitude. Our town is as dinky as you can get and thrives on gossip this time of year--esp this time of year-- so I'm on board with keeping things quiet. We have not told our 3 (young) kids, nor any family members. Quite frankly, my parents will be so over the top with anxiety that they will be just be an additional people that I will feel the need to be be strong and supportive for...I'm feeling that's in short supply just now.
So anyway, PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT tell me about your grandparents, uncles, fathers.... PM me if you have been through this with a DH/SO. Give me some good (cheap! legal!) ways to relax, stress bust, whatever. The sexual ramifications of this disease are really, really hard to wrap my head around. DH and I are really open with eachother about our concerns/thoughts, etc... but I feel like I need to be stronger for him than I actually am. We have to act all normal around the kids...I don't feel like we can even have a real conversation privately.
What can I do to stress bust? I am needing some support, but the forums dealing with prostate cancer tend to be older people and full of stories that are way too distressing for me just now. I fell well informed about the realities, I just don't want to get more worried than I need to be right now.
Thanks for listening to me vent. Believe it or not, just doing this is good.