I'm hoping I can get some input on my situation.
I moved back to WA to be with my son's father 3 months after he was born. When I got pregnant he denied it was his and basically didn't want to have anything to do with me until we could do a paternity test. I moved from WA and eventually ended up in CA to stay with my grandmother for the last 5 months of my pregnancy... After we did the paternity test (one of those IDENTIGENE things from Wallgreens) he convinced me to move back. We made a plan to be out of his fathers house by Feb. Since then he's made it a habit to abuse alcohol, take it out on his brothers in the home, and basically drive me away. I'm done.
My questions are:
Can I leave the state with our son? I grew up in Oregon and really don't want to raise my son here in Washington. I prefer a more laid back and familiar environment. How should I go about filing for child support? Do I have to stay in state to do that? Would I file in WA? Or do I get settled in OR and do it there? Do I have to file for custody? I haven't had a job in over a year; I am the primary caretaker for our son. His father works full time and gives me about $100 a month (which goes directly to his father for rent) and we trade off on purchasing formula and diapers (I also have WIC). We have no set agreements on money or visitation because he gets furious whenever I tell him that I don't want to do this anymore.
I'm not a very good writer so I apologize if this sounds choppy. Please feel free to ask me any questions.