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post #21 of 62

Astraia - wow, that MW was out of line!!  The reason women hire MWs is because they don't want to deal with those attitudes from doctors! 

 

Not sure I'd be doula-ing during pg either, but I know some people do.  I'm also one who loves pregnancy, and I'm really kinda sad this is my last chance.  I enjoy pg far more than I do labor or the NB period, although granted DS' NB period was way harder than normal, so hopefully this one will be easier. 

 

Shasta - hip pain, definitely first place to look is the mattress.  I had this with DS and wound up spending the last trimester on the couch because the bed just hurt too much.  Every morning I'd stand up and be barely able to waddle to the bathroom from the pain.  This time we have the same mattress, but have added a 2" natural latex mattress topper and it's made all the difference in the world.  As for stretches - whatever feels good.  Sitting in the butterfly position (feet together) always felt really good to me - you want something that will stretch without more pain, since you're at the point you can really do yourself some damage. 

 

Since I forgot to grab the template...

I'm 26 weeks, next MW appt is in March.  Still not really exercising. 

Food-wise right now is a grab-bag.  I'm eating fairly healthy, but I'm not eating a whole lot quantity-wise, and it's really worrying DH.  But since I've already gained more weight in this pregnancy than I had with DS by this point (by a pound or two), I'm not too worried about it.  I'm really trying to pay attention to my body and eat to hunger.  I will say though that last night I had 3 bowls of scalloped potatoes, it was just so yummy and satisfying.  1 bowl had chili on top, but the other two were plain. 

 

Body changes - my areolas are still darkening, which is odd.  I don't remember them being this dark with DS.  Other than that, I could really do without the acne, which seems to have exploded all over my face.  Belly still getting bigger.  Some of my maternity shirts are now too short, and some of my pants aren't going to fit much longer.  And these are the same clothes I was wearing at term with DS. 

 

I seem to be starting with the nesting energy.  I never really did it with DS, but then I was in a depression during that entire pg.  I've been decluttering for the last 6 weeks, but yesterday I spent 4 hours cleaning, and today plan to do the same.  DS' therapy comes in handy for something anyway - giving me kid-free time to do stuff like that. 

 

We went to see a good friend the other day, and DH sat down and had a really long (4 hour) talk with her about all sorts of emotional stuff he's dealing with (I was watching her kids while they went out to talk).  He and I have a huge issue with communication, so it was really nice to finally get someone to translate between us.  After he went home she sat down and translated a lot of what he had to say for me, into words that I could understand.  So we're working on meeting each other's needs better at this point, and I'm thinking about finding a conflict resolution mediator to help us periodically, since he's so adamant about not doing couples therapy.  She did make it clear to him though that he needs to take over night-time parenting of DS NOW, so that DS can adjust before baby arrives.  So the last 2 nights have been interesting.  Bedtime has gone fairly well, a few minutes of screaming, but nothing too heinous.  But my body is just so used to getting up at 4:30, that I'm still up at that point.  After lying in bed until 5 unable to go back to sleep, I'm coming out and kicking DH off the couch so he can get 90 minutes in bed before he has to start his day.  It's interesting. 

 

I just finished canning all the asparagus.  A full case gave me 14 jars of pickles, 2 quarts of marinated asparagus salad, several days worth of roasted asparagus with dinner, and I gave away a few bunches.  Not too bad.  Tomorrow I'll hopefully be doing cherry jam.  Slowly I'll find my fridge again.  I found a recipe for tangerine jam, which is tempting in and of itself, but not sure we'd eat it. 

 

Guess I should get back to cleaning. 

post #22 of 62

omg............ this week I am all of a sudden more tired than I have ever been.  It doesn't matter how much sleep I get, I still feel like I am going to pass out at anytime.  What the heck??  It's making it so I can't even do massages at work much because I am falling asleep during them...

post #23 of 62

How many weeks are you?  Right around 28 weeks that's a normal reaction because your blood volume is increasing, but that can cause anemia, which causes tired.  Increase your iron intake. 

post #24 of 62

I'm the same way Janelleody. I only got 4 hours sleep (broken with pee breaks during that 4 hours) the last two nights before and last night I got 7 (also broken with pee breaks lol) and...today...I just want to sleep so much.

I made a good breakfast for the kids, and am sitting here doing homework (already have done two assignments and a quiz today) and I am tired. Going to go get some chocolate to perk up.

post #25 of 62
Thread Starter 

I am almost 30 weeks and just exhausted!  Which sucks cause I had so much energy just a few weeks ago.... I feel like crap.  Just tired... ugh.

post #26 of 62

i am super tired, too. i woke up early today but then i had a long afternoon nap. oh well.

 

 

Name: roxi

Weeks/Days along: 30 weeks!

Appointments: well, i went to the dentist and i have one or two cavities they think, but they're going to wait to do xrays until after the baby is born. i am kinda worried about having them filled while i'm breastfeeding. what will i do with the baby? i need to go to the eye doctor, too, and take care of a few other things (driver's license!!) before term come along (omg 6 weeks!!!)... anyhow, seeing anaesthesiologist tomorrow , and the 'baby bound' nurse as the hospital here, whatever that is, filling out paperwork i suppose. our birth class starts next week, and we meet the doula we picked on friday next. etc etc.

Symptoms:  nothing much, just sleepy, don't like bending down to dig pots out of the back of the cupboard

Food:  still liking smoothies & fruits & cashew butter & honey sandwiches & drinking rrl tea (with nettles--i ordered from mountainroseherbs (ran out of traditional medicinals) and the mrh stuff tastes much better, or maybe it is the honey i put into it... avocados... 

Exercise:  walking, wii fit

Body changes and other milestones:  nothing much

Thoughts: my brother got me an african bolga moses basket for my birthday (in two weeks!) and it came today; i also got some stuff to make a mattress (wool batting, i'll cover it with muslin & quilt it) & bedding (a pul sheet and a fitted sheet) for it, so i will start that soon. i just finished another quilt... excited for spring break so we can go do something. i can feel the baby hiccup sometimes, it's so weird and funny!

 

post #27 of 62
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Originally Posted by shastalily View Post

Is anyone else having horrible hip pain, especially when sleeping?  The last two nights have been bad.  Lots of tossing and turning.  Last night I was up from about 3-4:30 am.  It hurt so much to lay down I went to the couch and propped myself up with my legs elevated and just researched hip pain online.  I even took a warm bath with epsom salts before bed.  I think I'm gonna go get a mattress topper today.  We have a nice, only 1 year old mattress but it is on the firm side.  I also ordered a maternity belt that came a couple days ago but I haven't tried it yet.  I will be trying that today.  I also read that yoga or taking walks and stretching can help.  Not sure which stretches to do though.  Anyone know?  If anyone has any other ideas, let me know.  No way I can do this for 10 more weeks! My 30 week appt is Friday so I will ask my midwife for ideas too.

Yep, its my hips but my back as well. A (thick!) pillow stuffed between my legs does wonders. Sarah, you said the pillow wasn't working for you -- have you tried folding it in half or getting a fatter, fluffier one? That is what made the difference for me. 



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Originally Posted by cristeen View Post

Body changes - my areolas are still darkening, which is odd.  I don't remember them being this dark with DS.  Other than that, I could really do without the acne, which seems to have exploded all over my face.  Belly still getting bigger.  Some of my maternity shirts are now too short, and some of my pants aren't going to fit much longer.  And these are the same clothes I was wearing at term with DS. 

 

 

My areolas are darker as well. I'm super fair skinned, so I feel like they look extra dark with my ultra-white skin. DS saw me get out of the shower and said "wow Mommy! LOOK AT YOUR NIPPLES!!!" At first I was surprised by his reaction -  I hadn't really paid much attention, but when I looked in the mirror I was like, hmm, yep, they keep getting darker. I'm the same way with my clothes as well. My (maternity) shirt kept riding up at work and exposing the bottom part of my giant belly! 
 

 

 

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Name: roxi

 

Thoughts: my brother got me an african bolga moses basket for my birthday (in two weeks!) and it came today; i also got some stuff to make a mattress (wool batting, i'll cover it with muslin & quilt it) & bedding (a pul sheet and a fitted sheet) for it, so i will start that soon. i just finished another quilt... excited for spring break so we can go do something. i can feel the baby hiccup sometimes, it's so weird and funny!

 

That basket sounds neat! Post a pic!
 

 

 

Onemore, I can't imagining doulaing while in the 3rd trimester. I'm so exhausted all the time, I wouldn't be much support if the labor was long. Sounds like you did a great job though even though you were sleepy. I'm surprised by the midwife's attitude!

 

As for me, my belly button hurts!!! It just started today. Perhaps its because it is starting to poke out? It is very sensitive and just rubbing my hand across it hurts. And I think I'm getting a cold. :-( But, on the positive side, baby has been moving a lot today - not kicks, more like stretches, and I love it!!! <3 So in love with this little guy. Looking forward to these next 11 weeks going by quickly!

 

 

post #28 of 62

Meredith, I did try folding it in half but it's a pretty thin pillow.  I'll try one of the fluffier pillows tonight.  I'm looking at foam mattress toppers online right now, but I'm hesitant to spend money on something like that when I'm not sure if it'll help.  Especially when that money could go towards a crib or carseat.

post #29 of 62

psst Meredith - it was Grace/Astraia who doula'd...I was just in awe of her also! lol

post #30 of 62

Hi everyone! I'm 30 weeks today and utterly exhausted. Don't know how I'm going to make it another 9 weeks working full-time and taking care of a three-year-old. Getting really far behind at work with grading, teaching prep, etc. and need to get a ton of work and housework done before the baby comes.

 

I had my 30-week appointment today and the baby kept kicking the doppler. It was sooo cute! I have another ultrasound on March 20th to check the baby's kidney, which still has a lot of fluid, to make sure they don't have to deliver her early.

 

My RCS has been scheduled for April 28th. It feels very surreal!

 

I'm thinking of starting a c-section/hospital birth/medical intervention support thread. Would anyone else be interested in that? I simply adore my OB, and am in a situation where I have to embrace and deal with my circumstances, and it's very, very hard for me to read a lot of anti-doctor, anti-medical stuff right now. I COMPLETELY understand and relate to that perspective, as I avoided all interventions and was with a lovely midwife with my son. However, this time around I need to feel positively about my doctors and nurses, the hospital, and everything, and I wonder if any other mamas might be interested in discussing their planned hospital births, c-sections, and/or interventions. If you think that kind of thing would be out-of-place and/or unnecessary or unwelcome, do not hesitate to let me know, as I don't want to step on any toes or offend anyone. I absolutely support the NCB movement, I'm just in a different place right now.

 

 

post #31 of 62
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Originally Posted by alittlesandy View Post

 

I'm thinking of starting a c-section/hospital birth/medical intervention support thread. Would anyone else be interested in that? I simply adore my OB, and am in a situation where I have to embrace and deal with my circumstances, and it's very, very hard for me to read a lot of anti-doctor, anti-medical stuff right now. I COMPLETELY understand and relate to that perspective, as I avoided all interventions and was with a lovely midwife with my son. However, this time around I need to feel positively about my doctors and nurses, the hospital, and everything, and I wonder if any other mamas might be interested in discussing their planned hospital births, c-sections, and/or interventions. If you think that kind of thing would be out-of-place and/or unnecessary or unwelcome, do not hesitate to let me know, as I don't want to step on any toes or offend anyone. I absolutely support the NCB movement, I'm just in a different place right now.

 

 

 

 I would be up for that!  I have SO many questions about hospital stuff, but sometimes I don't want to ask because I don't want a home birth to be suggested.  I'm definitely not anti-home birth, it's just not an option for us at this point.
 

 

post #32 of 62
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I'm thinking of starting a c-section/hospital birth/medical intervention support thread. Would anyone else be interested in that? I simply adore my OB, and am in a situation where I have to embrace and deal with my circumstances, and it's very, very hard for me to read a lot of anti-doctor, anti-medical stuff right now. I COMPLETELY understand and relate to that perspective, as I avoided all interventions and was with a lovely midwife with my son. However, this time around I need to feel positively about my doctors and nurses, the hospital, and everything, and I wonder if any other mamas might be interested in discussing their planned hospital births, c-sections, and/or interventions. If you think that kind of thing would be out-of-place and/or unnecessary or unwelcome, do not hesitate to let me know, as I don't want to step on any toes or offend anyone. I absolutely support the NCB movement, I'm just in a different place right now.

 

 

Yes!!  I LOVE my doctor also and also would love a thread for us ladies as well :)  Do it!! 
 

 

post #33 of 62

Sandy - I say go for it. :)

 

Where has this week gone? I can't believe it is almost March! 

Swimming went well last night, my back started hurting for a while and then it was absolute relief. I am so glad I went swimming. Baby is definitely active and happy in there. I am trying to get another pair of longies knitted for this fall.

After the daily chores,

I will probably work on some diapers today, or maybe I'll work on cleaning my craft room first. So much to do, so little energy.

 

I hope every one has a great day!

post #34 of 62

Thanks for the support everyone! I started a "Hospital Birth Support Thread" to encompass all types of hospital births, from natural to vbac to c-sections, etc. This is a place to share experiences, advice, and information about medical interventions and birth in a hospital environment.

 

Onemoreontheway, I know what you mean about time going by. MARCH! HOLY COW! I feel like I was just trying to get through the first trimester, lol. Where did the second trimester go?

 

 

post #35 of 62

For anyone else suffering with hip/back pain, just wanted to report that I slept so much better last night.  I ended up getting a gel memory foam mattress topper at Costco yesterday and it feels so much better.  I am still having some pain, but not nearly as bad and not enough that I had to get out of bed.  The weird thing was I kept waking up sleeping on my back, which is weird because I am not a back sleeper.  I guess my hips still hurt enough to lay on that I naturally rolled over to my back.  It worried me a bit and I switched to one of my sides each time.

post #36 of 62
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Originally Posted by alittlesandy View Post

Hi everyone! I'm 30 weeks today and utterly exhausted. Don't know how I'm going to make it another 9 weeks working full-time and taking care of a three-year-old. Getting really far behind at work with grading, teaching prep, etc. and need to get a ton of work and housework done before the baby comes.

 

I had my 30-week appointment today and the baby kept kicking the doppler. It was sooo cute! I have another ultrasound on March 20th to check the baby's kidney, which still has a lot of fluid, to make sure they don't have to deliver her early.

 

My RCS has been scheduled for April 28th. It feels very surreal!

 

I'm thinking of starting a c-section/hospital birth/medical intervention support thread. Would anyone else be interested in that? I simply adore my OB, and am in a situation where I have to embrace and deal with my circumstances, and it's very, very hard for me to read a lot of anti-doctor, anti-medical stuff right now. I COMPLETELY understand and relate to that perspective, as I avoided all interventions and was with a lovely midwife with my son. However, this time around I need to feel positively about my doctors and nurses, the hospital, and everything, and I wonder if any other mamas might be interested in discussing their planned hospital births, c-sections, and/or interventions. If you think that kind of thing would be out-of-place and/or unnecessary or unwelcome, do not hesitate to let me know, as I don't want to step on any toes or offend anyone. I absolutely support the NCB movement, I'm just in a different place right now.

 

 


I don't know how working mamas with little ones do it.  I sit on my butt all day and I'm still exhausted.  I worked full time with DD, but I was a receptionist so I was still sitting on my butt all day. 

 



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Originally Posted by alittlesandy View Post

Thanks for the support everyone! I started a "Hospital Birth Support Thread" to encompass all types of hospital births, from natural to vbac to c-sections, etc. This is a place to share experiences, advice, and information about medical interventions and birth in a hospital environment.

 

Onemoreontheway, I know what you mean about time going by. MARCH! HOLY COW! I feel like I was just trying to get through the first trimester, lol. Where did the second trimester go?

 

 


It's gone by so fast hasn't it?!  It seems like I remember it dragging on with DD.  But maybe it will go slower the closer we get to our due dates?  I just can't believe some of us could be giving birth in as little as 6 weeks!  It's so exciting! :D

 



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Originally Posted by shastalily View Post

For anyone else suffering with hip/back pain, just wanted to report that I slept so much better last night.  I ended up getting a gel memory foam mattress topper at Costco yesterday and it feels so much better.  I am still having some pain, but not nearly as bad and not enough that I had to get out of bed.  The weird thing was I kept waking up sleeping on my back, which is weird because I am not a back sleeper.  I guess my hips still hurt enough to lay on that I naturally rolled over to my back.  It worried me a bit and I switched to one of my sides each time.


I slept much better last night too.  I used a thicker/firmer pillow between my legs and I made sure the pillow my head was on was the same thickness/firmness as the one between my legs.  That's the key!  It was like a light bulb went off.  lol

 

post #37 of 62

The round ligament pain is really uncomfortable today.  Is there anything I can do to make it go away?  I hate just sitting here, but I don't know what else to do.

post #38 of 62
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The round ligament pain is really uncomfortable today.  Is there anything I can do to make it go away?  I hate just sitting here, but I don't know what else to do.


A pregnancy support belt can help.  But other than that, not really.  The weight of your uterus is stretching that ligament out of it's accustomed shape.  A support belt will help relieve some of the weight.  A gentle massage sometimes helps the immediate pain for me, but mostly just give it whatever support you can - pillows in bed, positions that are more supportive, etc. 

post #39 of 62

I'm working on migraine day 2 right now.  DH had to come home early yesterday so I didn't murder the toddler who wouldn't quit screeching.  I'm hoping therapy is a little calmer today than it was yesterday, I don't think I'm going to cope very well if it isn't. 

 

I talked to my MW and wants me to get whatever rest I can, and if it's still present tomorrow she'll come check my vitals. 

post #40 of 62

Hi Cristeen, I am sorry to hear about the migraine. I know exactly what you mean about needing relief to come in before you hit that point!

 

 

Today an investor is coming to look at the house. This has us sooo worried because we don't want to sell the house, but due to estate and my Dad dying without a will - until all of his bills are paid off we have to have the house on the market. We still have 20k left to pay. :( First time someone is coming to look at the house.

I will not even begin to tell you guys how sad/crazy/BAD timing that would be if this guy likes this house.

 

I don't know where we would go even...but all of that is the cart before the horse and its not in my hands to worry about. I know what will be, will be for a good reason and I'll just accept that. :)

 

So, today I have a million and one things to do cleaning wise before the guy gets here. This is a small, rural community and I totally do not want the real estate agent to think we are pigs. lol I have dishes in the sink and beds to be made and probably should steam clean our rug. The girls have to clean the classroom. Ugh..the back porch needs cleaned also.

 

The relief is that tonight will be Sabbath and that means I can have a day of physical rest. I tell you, I need it!

 

Keeping Jynxgirl in my thoughts and prayers today. She wrote a thread in case any one hasn't read it. <3

Every one have a beautiful day,  I will check back tonight!

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