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How are the nursing mamas doing?

post #1 of 14
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How's everybody doing?  I wanted to update with my shock that DD has weaned herself.  I thought weaning would be tearful and traumatic but apparently she was ready.  My milk was gone (and nursing was SO painful) and she basically went down to just nursing a few sucks on each side at bedtime, and then eventually stopped asking for it.  I did encourage weaning a few times later - if she asked about it, I told her "nooks are empty" and she was okay with it.

 

Honestly I'm shocked, I had expected to tandem nurse as long as DD wanted to.  But I'm also relieved to have a little break.  It's nice to be able to let my DH do the whole bedtime routine so I can lie down and get my feet up!

 

I did read Adventures in Tandem Nursing which I highly recommend, it has a ton of info about nursing while pregnant that I didn't find anywhere else.  It was very non-judgemental about whatever your choice might be, and reassuring to me that my supply drop wasn't my fault - it's the hormones.

post #2 of 14

My 3yo is still nursing before bed (but no longer to sleep), during the night, and in the morning. Since my colostrum has started to come in the pain has stopped so I'm not as anxious to wean her as I was before. I AM tired of this night nursing though. She had actually stopped for a bit and then they all got sick and she has been coming in my bed again and nursing during the night. I still want her weaned before I have the baby and would love the get her to sleep through the night again as soon as possible. 

post #3 of 14

My son also weaned!!  It happened sometime within the past month, just around when he turned 3.5.  I'm pretty happy with how it all went.  He finally admitted that there was no milk but every once in a while wanted to check and see.  He would barely even latch on and say something like "yep, still no milk".  He does say he wants to have milk again after the baby is born.  I have a feeling that he has lost his ability to latch though.  Just this past weekend we were staying at my in-law's and he asked for milk at bedtime.  I let him try and he couldn't/didn't even latch on.  So I think he really is done.  I was curious to see if nursing would become less painful after my colostrum came in but I guess now I'll never know.

post #4 of 14

We seem to be a hair away from being done! I'm actually really surprised b/c I thought DS (who will be 2 March 13th) would not be ready to wean, but he really seems to be fine with it. My milk is gone and has been for 8 weeks or so. Now he only wants to do it when he sees me undress and even then he only goes on for a suck or two from each breast. I've always been completely open to what he wanted, and kind of thought it would be fun to tandem nurse. I never pushed him to wean at all. I think I'm the only one who is sad about it...bawling.gif I am just so glad that he seems to be a-okay about it all. Anyone else feel a bit sad about it?

post #5 of 14

Nursing is so painful now.  My dh has been handling bedtime to try to avoid having our 2 YO nurse.  I know that sounds horrible, but it just makes me feel so uncomfortable.  (And I nursed DS#1 until the age of 3!)  When he does nurse, it's usually only for a few minutes on each side.  He seems ok with it, and I'm ready since I feel like it's time to gear up for nursing the new baby.  I won't mind having my body (well, at least my breasts) back to myself for a few months.

post #6 of 14
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We seem to be a hair away from being done! I'm actually really surprised b/c I thought DS (who will be 2 March 13th) would not be ready to wean, but he really seems to be fine with it. My milk is gone and has been for 8 weeks or so. Now he only wants to do it when he sees me undress and even then he only goes on for a suck or two from each breast. I've always been completely open to what he wanted, and kind of thought it would be fun to tandem nurse. I never pushed him to wean at all. I think I'm the only one who is sad about it...bawling.gif I am just so glad that he seems to be a-okay about it all. Anyone else feel a bit sad about it?



I'm definitely sad to have our breastfeeding relationship end - it was such a huge part of her babyhood.  A little sad that she doesn't need me in that way anymore.  Just one more way she's growing up *sniff*  good thing I'll have another newborn soon :)

post #7 of 14

DS will be nursing into his teens, I'm convinced.  (he's almost 2 1/2)  I can't express anything-- no colostrum, nothing...but he still says there's milk.  It's not painful anymore, but after nursing for more than 15 minutes I get this like twisted stomach feeling and have to ask him to unlatch.  Sometimes unlatching is a battle. 

 

We've pretty much night-weaned though-- yay!!!  DH has always been the bedtime parent, so I nurse and either he falls asleep and DH carries him to bed, or if DS doesn't fall asleep (like tonight) he takes one for the team.  Middle of the night screech fests are still not uncommon though, but thankfully DH handles those too.  (so SO thankful for him) 

 

I'm saying "no" to more nursing requests during the day-- DS would still nurse every hour, but I've cut it down to 4-5 times I think...maybe a few more.  My huge concern is how our nursing relationship will interfere with his relationship with this new sibling... I'm going to look for that book SarahDC--  For those of you with more than one child -- How did that work for you in the past?

 

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I did read Adventures in Tandem Nursing which I highly recommend, it has a ton of info about nursing while pregnant that I didn't find anywhere else.  It was very non-judgemental about whatever your choice might be, and reassuring to me that my supply drop wasn't my fault - it's the hormones.

Thanks for the rec! 

 

I think I would be sad if he suddenly did wean... and that's what I try to remind myself when my toes are curling and I'm wanting to hurtle him off my lap!  :) 

post #8 of 14

My son weaned shortly after my first trimester when my milk changed.  I was gone a couple nights before bed and he went to sleep well for my husband and even slept through the night!  We tried changing the routine and he started sleeping through the night in his own bed.  I almost know what it feels like to get a full night sleep, except for the once to twice a night bathroom breaks!

post #9 of 14
My little one night weaned (completely on his own) the week of his 2nd birthday. We still nurse 2-4x a day and for a good long time for at least 2 of those nursings. I would be devastated if he weaned now. I can no longer easily express milk but there is still some.


Doula mama to my nursing toddler Noah
post #10 of 14

DS (2.5) is still nursing once at bedtime.  I haven't had milk since 8 wks or so.  It's painful when he first latches but then gets better.  I don't think I'm making colostrum yet.  I can't express anything.  I ask DS if there is milk and he looks at me funny.  I think that he's forgotten that there ever was milk.  If I made a serious effort, I could probably drop the bedtime nurse because I know the only reason he does it is that it's part of the routine.  But I don't mind it enough to suffer through the change.  I'm going away with my girlfriends for a long weekend in March and I'm hoping that a four night absence helps to break the habit. 

post #11 of 14

We have also cut way back.  DD has night weaned and these days she gets really excited whenever I am not wearing a shirt (milk! milk!-sounds like "malsh"), even though she doesn't really nurse anymore.  She'll latch on for a few seconds, but then is pretty content to cuddle until she falls asleep.  I only ever hear her swallow once, so there is not much in there.  My nipples have started to hurt again, though, for some reason.  Even brushing up against my bra when I put it on is painful.  Like most of you, I am expecting her to wean soon and am sad because I definitely didn't plan on weaning her so early (she's 18 months right now).  But it's her choice, so that's that.  

post #12 of 14

It's really interesting that most of our LO's have night weaned, mine too. Maybe to much trouble, for such a scant reward. I am thrilled this week that my guy hasn't completely weaned himself. He was just nursing to sleep at night, up to a few days ago. We have had a stomach flu storming through the house, since sunday and so far Kian has not gotten it yet. My 4 year old had it last night :(

I'm really praying that it stops, here.

post #13 of 14

Ugh! the stomach flu! We've had to too. :(

 

DS has night-weaned, too but does want to nurse in order to nap. I have given in to this b/c it does help him go to sleep and then I get a nap (which I've been needing more lately!). However, it is a toe-curling experience. I literally ball my fists and curl my toes and bury my head in the pillow when he latches on, but it only lasts for a minute and then I'm home-free to sleep! So it's worth it to me and he gets a little comfort.

 

It is kind of fun now that he and DD are fully transitioned at night for sleeping together in her room and all they need is the nighttime routine which ends in me singing to them. DS just wants to be near me but he is out by the 3rd round! I love that sweet time with them and it helps with the self-weaning for both of us, I think. :)

post #14 of 14

i think we are doing good.  she likes to nurse all the time but i dont know how much milk she's really getting but when i squeeze milk still comes out.  i did work three 15 hour shifts last week and she really only got to nurse 2 times during that time, now she's making up for lost time lol

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