I just love polls and am super curious, lol. Thanks!
Edited by JENinOR - 2/19/12 at 10:01pm
We aren't 100% sure.. Tricare only 100% covers a birth at the military hospital and we really can't afford to pay out of pocket. I did look into midwives but even if we wanted to pay out of pocket the only one that services the area lives over an hour away from us and changes almost 6000 for care. My second labor was only 90 minutes and my 3rd 3 hours. My second by the time I realized I was in active labor the baby was in hands less than 10 minutes later, my 3rd I delivered in the triage room at the hospital but he wasn't positioned properly. The midwife that caught him told me if he had been positioned properly I wouldn't have made it to the hospital..
Problem 2 is that I go into labor in the morning hours. The wait to get onto base can be 1-1 1/2 hours.. If we caught that traffic I would deliver before even reaching the gate given my history of quick deliveries..
So, pay out of pocket when we can't afford it or risk delivering in the car waiting to get on base. Neither sounds like a good idea to me.
Undecided -- and it's starting to drive me crazy!! I go back and forth on a daily (hourly) basis. I almost wish we had a birth center nearby--that would be a wonderful compromise between my desire for a non-interventionist birth experience versus my fear of something going wrong (and in my own home of all places).
With my DS we planned a homebirth, but as I quickly learned birth does not always go according to mama's desires. I ended up at hospital with a c/s for a premature breech when my water broke at 36w. (I still don't know whether to call that an 'emergency' c/s as neither the baby nor I were in any distress at the time, my labor hadn't even started, but whatever...).
The dr. who delivered him is VBAC friendly and was my midwife's backup so I'd met him a few times already and liked him well enough. Even though I remain undecided, I finally scheduled a prenatal appointment with him and they can't get me in until the end of the month.
I sort of feel like I don't have a choice on this one (anyone else?) There are no birth centers in my state. That would probably be my first choice. The nearest one to me is 2 hours away in another state, and neither DH nor I are comfortable with that. There are hospitals in state that I'd rather birth in, but they are also over an hour away. I would seriously consider that if I didn't have an older DS, but I do, and I want it to be easy for him to visit. So I am stuck with our local hospital. It's not the worst ever in terms of natural birth/parenting (they really respect rooming in, EBF, and some patient preference) but it's textbook medical. The only other option for us would be homesbirth with a midwife. With twins, I'm not comfortable doing that, though it's a choice I strongly support.