So, I posted in another thread that ds is currently being evaluated and most likely has aspergers. He is 6 1/2.
He has always had more intense tantrums and melt downs than other kids, he has always had sensory issues (threads on clothes, doesn't like his clothes to even have a drip of water on them) has difficulty transitioning, can get aggressive, nightmares (use to be night terrors), constant rude behavior (calls me names for no reason), does not pick up on social cue's or situations and cannot put on the breaks when playing or upset.
So, we have always dealt with these challenges. In the past they seemed to come in waves. Like we would have a bad day, few days or week or two, but then we would have a week or two of really great behavior where he didn't melt down, much more flexible on issues, not aggressive and very kind, sweet and loving and no nightmares.
For about the past four months (pretty much as soon as fall and winter started to set in) his behavior has been very challenging. Major melt downs every day, very aggressive towards me, dh & his 5 year old brother (not so much towards his two year old sister), nightmares almost every night, very rude behavior, constantly calling me names (fool, idiot & stupid are his favorite these days), pretty much everything we have always dealt with, but magnified and now on a daily basis for months and months. We are so burnt out and heartbroken. It feels like our funny, sweet, quirky boy has slipped away from us.
I think a lot of the problem has been winter. We now live rural where in previous years we were in a neighborhood with other children, our new house is much smaller so we are all on top of each other all the time. This mild winter is worse than one with lots of snow for ds. He will play in the snow for hours, but won't go outside when it is cold and everything is dead and muddy. So he has a lot of pent up energy that he is not getting out.
I'm certain that all of those things are contributing, but I also don't want to continue to make excuses. His brother and sister have been fine in this house this winter.
My question is, is this typical in autistic children? Do the challenges come in waves? Is he just to an age where it is developmentally challenging? I'm terrified that this is the new ds. I'm worried that the challenges are going to overshadow his strengths from hear on out.