Hello. This is my first real post, so please excuse any snafus on my part.
My 4yo daughter never seems satisfied at home. She complains and whines about everything.
Our biggest struggle, however, is the morning routine. My husband and I are both full-time teachers, so our day starts a little earlier than many families'. We need to leave the house at 7:00am. 6:50 would actually be better. We never leave on time. DH and I wake up at 5:20. We each have a few chores to do and then we eat. One of us jumps in the shower and the other tries to rouse DD1 - the 4yo - at about 6:15. We let DD2 keep sleeping. She's easy to dress at the last minute (16 mo.) DD1 hates to wake up. She only needs to use the bathroom, get dressed and brush her teeth and hair before we leave. Breakfast is served at daycare, and she can have a snack in the car if she wants one. She won't get up. She cries and whines. She won't choose when given choices (bathroom first or clothes?), but gets angry if she can't control the situation. We can't make deals with her (we'll read a book and then you have to get dressed) because she breaks them, and then we're running even later. We've tried to move her bedtime back, but she just doesn't seem tired. Lights out is at 8:15, but sometimes she's still awake long after 9:00. They nap at daycare from 1-3, and I think she sleeps most days.
She's great at daycare, and I've heard of no chronic problems. She's also great when she's with my parents. With us, however, the complaining seems constant. It feels as if that's all she does with us. She doesn't want us to do what we're doing the way we're doing it. She rarely throws full-on tantrums; she doesn't throw herself on the floor. Instead she whines and cries. We feel like no strategies are successful, and that we'll just need to ride this out.
Somehow none of this seems to sound as bad in this description as it feels in real life. Any thoughts?