Originally Posted by CDsMom1031
You ladies really have no tips on how to make the sleep better?
This is the thing about sleep. If you have a baby that doesn't sleep "well" there are many things to try. Any one of them has the potential to help or not. You might stumble on something that seems to work for a while and then stops working and you have to find something new. Or your might get lucky and your baby grows out of it soon and starts to sleep great again. But it's been my experience that sleep goes in phases: decent, bad, decent, bad, and so on. There are just so many things that affect sleep that as soon as baby out grows one or you solve one then another crops up. Illness, teeth, travel, stress, growth spurts, developmental milestones, weather changes, etc. etc.
The No Cry Sleep Solution and Sleepless in America are great books for some ideas and background info on sleep. I also have an entire API meeting handout on sleep if you're interested in reading that.... I can copy and paste it here if anyone wants to see it. But, for me, ultimately, I had to wait it out. They all start to sleep better sometime and adjusting my attitude was key. This is certainly easier said than done, especially when you feel like crap all the time and you're trying to balance work and school. But sometimes just letting go and realizing that right now sleep sucks, but it won't be that way forever can be freeing. It's okay that he's not sleeping through the night. It will get better and you're not alone in the sleep trenches.
Just be careful whom you vent to since the vast majority of people let their kids CIO and simply do not understand why in the world you would suffer through sleepless nights when there is an "obvious" solution. The thing is, CIO doesn't work for every baby. Those that are more spirited will simply cry until they vomit. This is not learning to sleep. This is learning the world is full of discomfort and no one is helping me. And they'll just repeat the process over and over and over again. Not every baby can be broken. And not every CIO baby continues to sleep well. CIO parents are happy to tell you that it only took one night or a few nights and it was over. But the reality is that many babies have to be put through the process several times or any time sleep has been altered (like when traveling or after an illness). Basically, the baby has to be "taught" all over again that no one is going to help them.
So, my best advice is to try some different things and see if you have any success. But if nothing is working, try to just go with it and know that it will end. Night weaning may eventually be your answer, but I personally do not recommend night weaning until over one year old.