Hi -- I am a regular MDC user but signed up with a new account b/c I know too many people IRL and need some anonymity just now. My DH (45) was diagnosed with cancer last week. I am trying to process all of this and be strong (for him) and carry on with regular life for our 3 kids. The 'prognosis' is good at this point. We have a treatment plan we are comfortable with right now and surgery will occur in 5 weeks. How do I get through this waiting period? I need help figuring out a way to manage stress in a way that is cheap (free), legal and actually works. The support threads on the cancer forums are just too much for me just now. I can't look beyond his treatment plan. It is a fine line between being well educated and realistic and totally overwhelmed. He is a very private person and does not want anyone to know yet. I am also private and respect that, but I need some support... Not sure where to turn. Our kids don't know yet.
We are focusing on healthy eating, boosting the immune system, moderate exercise, positive thoughts....but all of that goes out the window if my mind has a split second to drift from whatever that task at hand is. There are so many tests and results to wait for over the next few weeks. We are in this weird limbo period.
Anyone BTDT with a DH/SO? I know there are some threads for cancer survivor moms and also moms of kids with cancer...I can't even imagine how I could deal in those kind of situations when I feel so useless and overwhelmed now. Please think good thoughts my way.... Thanks for letting me vent.