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post #41 of 127


I can see it in Cecilia and it makes me even more depressed and anxious, because it's clear I'm affecting her.


Yeap Linos also. Its horrible my hardest dark days he is usually a total mess during too. To be honest, I can't wait to go back onto anti-Ds.. I might talk to my doctor about it again this week.. curious if any are viewed as safe during pregnancy?

post #42 of 127
Thread Starter 

Absolutely. If it's really necessary, better that you take your anti-depressant than not! Talk to the doctor. The most often prescribed one during pregnancy is Zoloft, I think. Here's a Mayo Clinic article that might help too; they talk about the ones that are considered safe for pregnancy.

post #43 of 127

I'm taking Celexa - I was already on it before I got pregnant, and my doctor said it was fine to stay on it, and that she usually prescribes it to others if needed.

post #44 of 127

I called my Dr about it so hopefully I'll hear from her soon.. the last two weeks has felt like a rollercoaster of emotions for me- I wake up really happy and by the evening I am exhausted, filled with rage and sadness. I can't tell how much is hormones and how much is depression however - its not this super dark sadness I am used to with PPD and depression I have suffered with in the past..



post #45 of 127

I have been in denial about it but am starting to admit that I might be experiencing some depression. But like ithappened, this feels different from what I usually feel. Rage is exactly the word! I am so pissed off all the time these days. It's horrible for my son. I have to keep apologizing to him for losing my temper. And I really don't want to do anything about it. Afraid if I talk to my doctor she'll try to push me back on meds, which I don't want to do because of the baby, or into therapy, which I can't afford. I'm just kind of hoping it will improve with the weather I guess.

post #46 of 127

Moremadder, I'm so sorry. I'm not quite in the same situation, but I also really don't want to go on meds. I absolutely DO NOT judge anyone here who is on meds. I just am afraid it would cause me a lot of anxiety and guilt, which I don't think are founded in reality at all. I could afford therapy, but I feel like we should be saving money, and my copay is $40/session. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I understand. I am angry a lot, too. I keep telling my husband I don't feel good about any aspect of my life.

Also, I am feeling confused about who to go to and ask for meds if it comes to that. My OBGYN said to go to a therapist, but no therapist I know will even discuss types of medication. I could go to a psychiatrist, but I don't know if I want to go through going through my whole history, etc. I am considering just going back to my regular doctor and see if he would be comfortable prescribing (or authorizing my OBGYN to prescribe) meds.


I have been on Celexa previously, it works pretty well for me. I am wondering if there's a real advantage to using Zoloft during pregnancy, I know it is proven better for breastfeeding, but I don't know about pregnancy. Unfortunately I've tried Wellbutrin and it made me way too anxious-feeling.


post #47 of 127

I should add, I definitely don't judge anyone who has decided to be on meds! I just don't think I am at the point where the balance tips that way yet.

post #48 of 127
Thread Starter 
Originally Posted by bootsvalentine View Post

Also, I am feeling confused about who to go to and ask for meds if it comes to that. My OBGYN said to go to a therapist, but no therapist I know will even discuss types of medication. I could go to a psychiatrist, but I don't know if I want to go through going through my whole history, etc. I am considering just going back to my regular doctor and see if he would be comfortable prescribing (or authorizing my OBGYN to prescribe) meds.


This is how it went for me before, when I was seeing a therapist and my general practitioner. The therapist did recommend medication, along with cognitive behavioural therapy. She sent her recommendations over to my GP, and he prescribed the Lexapro. So, yes, some therapists will make the recommendations. I should add, she told me that she does think antidepressants are overused, but that in her experience and opinion, she thinks they are very beneficial for people with high levels of anxiety and/or depression who are in therapy to use in the beginning and then slowly wean off of as their CBT goes on.

Edited by Knitting Mama - 3/26/12 at 2:05pm
post #49 of 127

bootsvalentine: Back in the beginning I had a therapist recommend that I talk to my GP about antidepressants and discuss over some of the possible drugs that could be prescribed with me and then the GP prescribed what she thought best. Since then I've just gone to my GP and said I need antid's, here's what I've taken in the past etc. Neither of the two GPs I've seen had a problem with prescribing antid's based on my request alone.

post #50 of 127


Neither of the two GPs I've seen had a problem with prescribing antid's based on my request alone.



Outside of Austria, this has been my experience as well.

post #51 of 127

I'm doing...okay.  Had another appointment with my counsellor, and that helped a lot.  I've also been trying to get more exercise, and spend more time outside.  I realized that I had pretty much shut myself off from my friends...partly depression related, and partly because I was hiding some of the drama in my life.  So I've reached out and explained my situation to people, and have scheduled some visits with different friends.


It's still a day-to-day process.  And since most of this anxiety and depression is linked to my messed up situation with the baby's father, it's not really possible to eliminate the cause.  But I'm trying my best to deal with things.  Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst (raising the baby alone) if that's what it comes down to.


Big hugs to everyone.  

post #52 of 127

anyone tried evening primrose oil? my doctor recommended I try it before going to zoloft.

post #53 of 127

Ithappened: I have used EPO many times (although not when I was getting on zoloft when I got ppd.) that being said it helped tremendously with "pms" if that is what we can call it.


I am currently weaning off my zoloft. Wish me luck, I am scared to death. My midwives suggested to supplement with Sam-e.

post #54 of 127

I had a really bad day today. It's the end of the school year and there's starting to be lots of stress about state standardized tests and closing out all the paperwork for the year. On top of it, we have a a new student, an 8th grader, who was extremely rude and disrespectful to me when I confronted him about profane writing on his desk. Seriously, none of our kids ever write on their desks, and the week he shows up, there's writing on his desk. He was sooo bitchy and rude and kept interrupting me. I talked to him with his home room teacher and while we are usually a very close team I felt like she thought I was being too confrontational and I don't know she really backed me up. This is my fifth year teaching and I have dealt with plenty of rude and disrespectful kids, but we have worked hard all year to get our classes to be how we want them and now we have these X factors of new kids who think they can treat adults with no respect, showing up with 8 weeks left of school. I wish I would've dealt with it differently (it was basically a warning for him since there was no proof, but the writing was not the issue, it was he kept interrupting and was so amazingly disrespectful.)

I am feeling SO negatively about my job lately, the very last thing I need is to deal with being treated like this. I am not satisfied with what happened but I don't think my coworker wants to talk about it anymore. I am thinking of letting my principal know that I have a problem with this kid and if he were to disrespect me AT ALL again, I would be writing him up or kicking him out of my class so fast. At the same time, I don't want everyone to judge me as unstable/unable to handle this, but I feel like this was way over the top.

I don't know, I just needed to vent and it sucks that i feel so fragile right now. I feel like just a little more BS at work or anywhere and I am going to crumble. I just have been hating my job so, so much. I used to enjoy it but I don't anymore, and I don't know how much of it has to do with being pregnant.

I am so busy and so tired, I really don't want to go see a new therapist or doctor. I am still thinking of maybe going to see my GP to talk about depression, but I don't know if he would prescribe anything with me being pregnant (I know my OB would totally write the RX if he just sent her a note, though). I still don't want to go on medication but I don't know if I am going to make it 7 more weeks before summer vacation, it's the most stressful time. 


post #55 of 127

Hang in there, Boots!  8 weeks left - there will be an end!!  But, I know each day can get more challenging as the school year finishes, the teachers stress about testing, the kids get more unruly and you get more pregnant!  8th grade is such a challenging age/group too....it can be soooo hard to keep your cool when those hormones and fatigue aren't helping one bit!  Although having the summers off seems perfect for expectant teachers/moms, you definitely put your time in during the school year being on your feet all day and keeping up your energy and tolerance level for your students....


I would definitely check in w/your doctor(s) about the depression or anxiety levels as they can take a toll on your overall well-being and maybe going on medication can help get you through these final crazy weeks.  Take it one day at a time, and be extra good to yourself when you can - you deserve it!

post #56 of 127

Today is a hard day for me.  I woke up to an email from a woman in my pregnant lady group explaining that she hasn't been to the last few meetings because she lost a baby (she was pregnant with twins).  I feel so sad for her, and it just re-upped my anxiety about my own pregnancy.  Everything has been going fine, but I haven't felt any movement other than a few little flutters two weeks ago, and I just feel so scared that I've done something wrong.  I have an appointment with my midwife this coming Saturday, and I've convinced myself that I won't hear a heartbeat.  I wish this baby would kick me or something so I know it's still there.


I'm meeting with my friend this weekend, and I don't know what to do for her.  I want to help, but know that if I were in her position there's nothing anyone really could do.

post #57 of 127

oh man pennywhistle that is hard and scary for you if you haven't felt movement, it just feeds into the anxiety. I totally get it. I hope your appointment goes well, maybe you can get in earlier? It might be worth calling...



As for me, Im anxiety has been really bad.


My uncle had a heart transplant over the weekend and is in the ICU, one of my friends is currently having a double lung transplant after years of fighting cystic fibrosis, the car my FIL let us borrow he is taking back just when we really need it, the job offer I was banking on fell through, our apartment is a studio shoebox and we can't afford anything bigger right now and for whatever reason I am having a horribly time preparing/nesting for the twins- every time I think about it I just get overwhelmed and panic and end up doing nothing..


anyhow-- nothing feels dependable right now in my life outside my immediate family and even then it often just feels like DS and I.. I just have some days I have no idea how this is going to happen and work and I get paralyzed.


I have an appointment with my doc when I get back from the US, going to consider starting Zoloft again if she will ok it.

post #58 of 127

Made my appointment next week to talk to my GP about meds.  Thanks for the support everyone. It really has helped to have this thread and know that there are people who are faced with the same decisions.


NewMumJoy, I seriously got teary reading your reply to me yesterday. Not too many people are truly empathetic to teachers. Thank you so much. What an awesome lady you are, going to be an awesome mama!


penny, I've been thinking about you today. Have you had an U/S yet? You could easily have an anterior placenta that could account for the lack of movement, plus I think even other women just feel things at different times. I don't think it's unusual to go until 25 weeks without any significant feelings of movement.  If you are getting really anxious about it, and your midwife knows you are being treated for anxiety/depression, maybe you could give them a call and let them know. It might help to talk to one of your care providers. Plus they might just want to see if they could squeeze you in earlier in your schedule could accommodate it. I am sure you wouldn't be the first preggo who stopped in for a quick doppler check to make sure all is well. Hope you find a way to get through until you can get some reassurance. I know it's hard when faced with stories and experiences of loss. Just try to keep your pregnancy and your feelings of sympathy for your friend separate in your mind. I know the emotions are all mixed up together, but I hope you get what I'm trying to say.


ithappened, I think I've said this to you before, but you are dealing with a ton! You are right to feel overwhelmed, so just remember that you're being strong and reacting normally to all the stuff on your plate. With everything else, don't worry about the size of your apartment or the lack of nesting for the twinsies. I am sure that first of all, the second time through even if you're having two at once, the nesting isn't as intense. I am sure you guys have all the love and space two babies will require! I just hope you can focus on what will make you feel better and more supported in your situation.


post #59 of 127


Ithappened, so sorry you're going through all of that!
About the twins though, you really don't need to be worried about space and supplies. I found out I was having twins after the first one was born, and I hadn't prepared properly for one baby either... We got a carseat when we needed one, used hand-me-downs from my older kids even if they were the wrong gender, and had them both sleep in my bed. (I did push two twin mattresses together to make a bigger bed, though.)
It might have been nice to have swaddling blankets (I LOVE the miracle blanket) and a sling earlier on, but honestly twins are an adjustment the first few weeks with or without "supplies." I couldn't think of too many things that would really have helped.
post #60 of 127


Penny - That is tough... bad news like that really hits home for us nowadays and it's hard keep it out of your mind and then start to think the worst for yourself.  Saturday is getting closer though, and maybe you've been able to talk to your midwife in the meantime for some reassurance?


Boots - Hopefully you're feeling better... the week is almost over!


ithappened - Oh boy, you still have a LOT on your plate!  Thinking of you, esp. with your trip to the U.S. - hopefully it'll be more like a fun getaway than work.... glad that you are moving forward with your doc and possible meds, I think that's a very good idea in your case.


AFM, I'm bracing for a potentially stressful next week ahead.  After this weekend in DC, we (DH, dog and I) will be spending the following week visiting w/his daughter and family in MI.  I will be with certain people/dynamics that give me incredible anxiety and whom I cannot avoid.  I was in counseling for most of last year over this.  The fact that I've been away long distance these last 7 months has everything to do with my improved mental health nowadays.  When we visited over the Christmas holiday, I had a few choking panic attacks that got me so worked up I was certain I would miscarry again.  I did a lot of "avoiding" and "walking away" during that trip and worry that it'll be the same thing again.  DH is aware of this and wants me to bring my xanax with me (which I haven't taken since pre-pregnancy).  I'm not sure how safe it is to take while pregnant, but I know my panic attacks are NOT good..... has anyone taken xanax or anything targeted for anxiety/panic?  I KNOW I'll be fine once I get back home and away from "the situation"... it's just a week that I need to keep my nerves calm!!

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