I need help. I said it. :) But i'm not sure what to do. I am fairly picky about raising my kids and somewhat opinionated (though i try not to voice it). But i need help. With my 18 month old.
I have two kids. An 18 month old and a 3 y/o. They are 18 months apart. My 3 y/o is the easiest child ever. Still naps 2 hours a day. Goes right down to bed. Is relatively obedient though he does spend some quiet time in his room for being bad and time at the wall for time out. He is fairly passive. Very independent, but not aggressive.
Now my 18 m/o. He is a totally different story. He is agressive--violently. He learns from his brother and takes it to a-whole-nother level. And it's getting really hard. If i tell him not to hit, he hits more. If i tell him not to bite, he bites more. Honestly, if i tell him anything he does the opposite. No matter how nice or harsh the tone of voice. And i am going crazy. He throws everything--including sippy cups--anything-- and yesterday he MAJORLY connected with my head.
He's getting stronger and i am getting nervous. He is my cuddly boy too so it's a hard mix. He wants to be close, but i am nervous that he is going to eventually get mad and jump on my stomach or pound me--which is something he does.
We do tons of activities like coloring, painting, playing with Bubbles and usually he only watches 1 TV show a day, if at all (though it's been harder with pregnancy. Usually it was once a week... but i am finally feeling better). He wants my attention 100% of the time and it's just not realistic. I mean, i play with them ALL DAY! I haven't even caught up on my laundry from CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am doing EVERYTHING i can.
He doesn't know how to go to sleep on his own which wouldn't be a big deal (we lay next to his crib each night) but now he wakes up for about 3 hours each night and if he wakes up without one of us beside him, he flips out and screams. I have read No Cry Sleep Solution and it worked wonderfully with my oldest... but it's not working with him. He doesn't nap enough. He is ALWAYS crabby.
Anyways... here it is for rambling. I just don't know what to do. I want to raise loving, caring, SWEET, boys. I want them to love whatever they want to love and be happy... but i don't want to raise AGGRESSIVE boys.
Have i ever spanked? Yes. Do i try my darndest not to? YES. I almost never do. I grew up getting spanked a lot and i have NEVER spanked the 18 m/o.
He really is a beautiful and sweet little boy but man i am at my wit's end. I just don't know what to do at all. From my experience children without discipline turn out to be awful little monsters who don't know how to obey their parents but i can't figure out the boundaries. Help me!