I feel it is very important to let my dd (age 8) try different explanations for things, even if they aren't correct, and have time to figure out what is wrong with them. For example why some things float and others sink, or why the flute makes different pitch sounds. Is it vitally impt that she know the correct explanations for this right now?
However, one family member seems to think that I am "not teaching" her. I try to explain that this is my way of facilitation.
She also says things like, “in school you have to give the answer that the teacher says. If you say, no I will think on my own and give my own answer then you will not get marks. You may think you are smart but you will fail. What good is that?”
When she says this she is not merely saying that as a practical strategy you must compromise in order to move ahead. She also seems to value the compromise in itself, as if obedience to authority even when you know it is wrong shows respect for the system, even though it may be flawed here and there. I of course say that if you respect the system then you would hold it to high standards, expect excellence and therefore not accept the flaws. To which she says, you first pass through the system, then reform it.
Edited by amma! - 5/11/12 at 8:32am