I will try to keep this short.... When my second was born my MIL conveniently was evicted from her home. My husband struck a deal with her that if she watched our kids during the day she could live with us. Little did I know he agreed to pay her. So not only do we pay her to watch our kids, she lives in our house completely free. Has been for the last 2 years.
At first I was ok, maybe slightly annoyed, but then it just started progressively getting worse. She tells my 5 year old I have the devil inside me because I won't go to HER church. Then I caught her leaving the house and leaving my two older kids in the bathtub together. She feeds them when we ask her not to, she feeds them whatever they want, so of course my husband and I can't buy cookies and other treats for them otherwise she lets them demolish them.
She has demanded we get a bigger place we cant afford so she can have her own space, yet also has the audacity to ask for more money. My husband and I work our butts off every day to be able to take care of the kids and pay our bills, etc. and she completely takes for granted how much money it is actually costing us for us to take her in the way we are. She is wasteful and she helps herself to my clothes on a regular basis and is demanding that I accommodate her church schedule by leaving my job early so she can get to church on time 4 days a week. Sometimes I think she forgets that her paycheck can only come if I get one too.
Whats worse is this is ruining my marriage. My husband doesn't have the balls to say ANYTHING to her, and its making me the bad guy because I am the one who is continually telling her not to leave the kids in the bathtub unsupervised, or that seatbelts aren't optional and that even though there is nothing wrong with something in her eyes, if I don't want my kids to do something she needs to respect it. Instead she makes me out to be the bad guy with my kids, and even goes as far as telling them their mother is possessed.
My husband agrees she needs to get out but tells me he cant help me pay for day care - total bullshit. If he can afford to buy another gun he can afford to pay part of the day care expenses. He just doesn't want to be the bad guy. So while she still talks to him, she shoots me dirty looks and walks out of the room when I walk in. She won't look me in the eye and she talks about me to my husband telling him I am tearing her from him and her grandkids.
Sad to say, but I am probably going to end up checking out of this relationship if something does not change soon. Ladies.... do NOT ever under any circumstances live with your mother in law. I now hate mine because of it and I completely resent my husband for never stepping in.