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TTA (trying to adopt) Chat Thread - Page 4post #62 of 2626/13/12 at 9:37amQuote:Originally Posted by excitedtobeamom
We were told that we could always say no to a potential match so we left things a bit open and just thought and talked through each situation we were presented with. We ended up saying yes to 4 situations before we were matched with our son. In the other 4 situations they picked a different family He ended up being completely healthy with no risk factors. All the time and thought about different situations and then our son was the easy one. Our agency would call and say here is the situation can we present you. The training really helped us actually understand the checklist better and we became more open.
This is what I was leaning toward. A lot of the questions, I thought to myself, we dont know enough about that to say yes or no. For instance, I understand that HIV is more like a chronic illness than a death sentence. I think I could live with that. Disabilities that restrict mobility would not be a good match for us as we live in a 3 floor townhouse, in a small mountain town. So I think we would like to take it case by case.post #63 of 2626/13/12 at 8:05pmpost #64 of 2626/13/12 at 8:05pmpost #65 of 2626/15/12 at 12:52pm
Hi Everyone, I have decided to join you all!
After 2+ years of TTC, hubby and I are now TTAdopt! We are doing the fost-to-adopt thing as I know some of you are. We are getting the house ready for our state inspection (In CA) which should happen by the second week of July. I've heard the horror stories and I've also heard the good stories as well, so I am trying to be cautiously excited about welcoming a new child into our home.post #66 of 2626/17/12 at 5:54pm
I'd like to join you all!!!! I've been quietly following along for a few days now and figured I should introduce myself. DH and I tried on our own for maybe a year and then moved onto ART. After 3 IUI's we finally got pregnant w/ twin boys, but went into pre-term labor at 22.5 wks and they were born perfect, but peacefully asleep. We tried 3 more IUI's w/ the same protocol once we were ready w/ no luck and then moved on to IVF. Our first IVF we got a BFP which resulted in a m/c at about 10-11 wks and then we did 5 more IVF's (fresh/frozen) w/ no luck. We are now trying to figure out if we are just not ment to have children or if we should travel down the adoption route. So, I just figured this would be a good place to be to learn a little more from all of you that are going through the process.
post #67 of 2626/17/12 at 9:44pm
Welcome to the thread ladies.
We have just started the process for domestic adoption. On Friday we are attending our agency's adoption seminar, as required by provincial law. We are just about done the application, and we will be mailing it in tomorrow. After these 2 things, we will be waiting for the home study. I hope we have the home study done by fall, because as soon as that's done we will be on the list.
I also just wrapped up some counseling to help deal with grieving the infertility and losses I had. I think its very cathartic to do as adoption is not a cure for infertility. I
I will let you all know how Friday goes when I return.post #68 of 2626/18/12 at 9:44am
For those that are starting out or unsure that this is the right path I found this blog had many helpful questions to ask yourself.post #69 of 2626/18/12 at 10:05ampost #70 of 2626/19/12 at 11:56am
Blueyezz4 - It looks like you have gone through so much! I know that roller coaster is tough; I think you are right about reconsidering your options at this point.
Deborah - I've been following a bit of your saga in the IF one thread - I never posted but always lurked. :) I've never been able to make the decision for ART so I never felt right about joining that thread despite my infertility.
AFM - we are done all of our paperwork and classes - we are just waiting on the state and the county to come do inspections. I have already been waiting 2 months for the state - they state on the application that it will be within 30 days. LOL - why even write that on the application. I was told currently there are 1200 kids without beds in foster care in Los Angeles - yet they won't hire extra bodies to get through the paperwork. It is totally crazy.post #71 of 2626/23/12 at 7:39pm
We filled out all our paperwork this week!!! All we have left to do is go get fingerprinted, get our stuff notarized, and then make the call with the adoption specialist so she can come do an in home visit and schedule our PRIDE classes and official homestudy!!!! I am so excited that this is actually happening!post #72 of 2626/24/12 at 10:07am
Rochelle! I am going to be quite jealous when I see how quickly your application process goes! Everything is slower in California. I am excited for you, though and I am going to be happy to have someone to compare notes with on how things work for this journey.
Even though we aren't schedule for our inspection yet, we set up the crib yesterday. We are putting together a couple of ikea dressers today. That is the only furniture we are required to have for our state inspection. The rest is all safety stuff - locking up meds and knives and having smoke detectors and fire extinguishers.post #73 of 2626/25/12 at 5:05pmpost #74 of 2626/26/12 at 12:03pmpost #75 of 2626/26/12 at 11:59pmpost #76 of 2626/26/12 at 11:59pmpost #77 of 2626/27/12 at 5:23pmpost #78 of 2626/27/12 at 5:41pmpost #79 of 2627/8/12 at 5:21pm
I just found out my 19 YO niece is pregnant. You think you are ok but news like this can be a sucker punch in the gut. I am sure she is capable of being a good mom, and I can be there for her as she is estranged from everyone right now, and I think I am the first one to know. But first I must have a good cry.post #80 of 2627/9/12 at 11:55am
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