Onemore, I really, really understand where you are coming from.
With DS, my MIL was supposed to throw me a shower, and since she loves to plan elaborate and huge parties, I was expecting something great. DH's family has tons of money, so we registered at Babys R Us and Target, and we needed everything! Well, the shower was supposed to happen in December, because MIL lives in Tucson and we live in Flagstaff and weren't going to drive down after Christmas. MIL got a bug up her butt that nobody would want to come to a shower right around Christmas, so she basically backed off and said that the family would give me their shower gifts on Christmas Eve.
We got the most amazingly useless crap, nothing nice, and nothing that we had registered for. Some hideous toys that looked like they came from a yard sale, some completely impractical baby blankets and stuffed animals, and a truly bizarre mobile. NO crib, stroller, carseat, onesies, diapers, breast pump, etc. I had expected to get EVERYTHING. I know this sounds very selfish and spoiled and petulant, but we're talking about a family that spends thousands and thousands on furniture and decorations, lavish vacations, etc.
DH and I were in a panic until one of my coworkers decided to throw me a shower and she and everyone I worked with pitched in and bought us a travel system (carseat and stroller). We were SO GRATEFUL. I literally sobbed with happiness, because it was the only time during my pregnancy that anyone got us what we really needed.
DH and I bought an IKEA crib, cloth diapers, and most of the baby clothes on our own. We also borrowed a bunch of stuff.
Fast-forward to this baby, and my same sweet coworker is insisting on throwing me another shower. The only thing I really want this time around is a Moby wrap. I registered for some cheap, cute, useful stuff at Target (a few baby clothes, etc). We are both excited to have a simple get-together with friends, but EVERYONE IS HORRIFIED that I am getting a "second" shower, lol. I guess this JUST ISN'T DONE.
When I hear about women who had "real" showers (cute cake, games, lunch, pretty decorations), I get a little jealous.
I also like the idea of a blessing circle or party, but I know very few people in real life who are like me. Most everyone would find it too hippie dippy.
Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway
I'm a hard to please type of person I think. Can I complain in your thread? I'm sorry in advance.
I really feel a little bummed no one has really offered to do a shower or blessing for me, but then I think well, no one ever pays attention to what I really want/need any ways, so why waste all my time driving and $60 in gas to be around people who are all negative, wind up with different little newborn baby outfits the babe won't wear but for a week (if that) and have to listen to all the self righteous Mommy crap?
Most of my family already regard me as a 'weirdo' anyways, so I guess what do I care?
I put an amazon list together and gave the link to the people asking if I needed anything (ok, only two people really asked...it was kind of a *hint* "hint* thing with the people who asked if I needed anything as the excuse to hand it out)
I put baby socks, baby tees, a tee for me, wool wash, baby soaps, things like that...then I put some diaper covers and a couple wool diaper covers, and a few baby toys on there. Nothing outrageous, every thing (but for a couple things like a rainbow toy stacker and a juicer. total wish list fluff) under $50 and most all things under $25 with plenty in the under $10 range.
Nothing so far and that was a month ago.
Anyways, so I don't know. I would love a henna belly party, stuff my freezer, something. But...oh well. With my first only 2 people showed up (my own mom didn't) because it was near 4th of July, I didn't get one for my second, and for my third I had a good one with my dad and mom and stepmom and a few friends coming...so I guess I shouldn't complain..but 5 years after having my last - I think some willingness from people would be nice. Even if it wasnt about gifts I'd appreciate it!
I would totally just throw my own if I thought someone would come and it be a happy experience...ok now I've depressed myself. LOL