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I recently moved to a new city and there is a large breastfeeding group lead by a LC. She is a NICU nurse, only recently became a LC, and doesn't have children. The group is on Meetup (popular in my city), Facebook, and other media. The name of the group makes it sound like it is support group formed by mothers but if you read the small print it is a group "owned" by the LC. She sends out emails and facebook messages to hundreds of women. She has meetings about once a week. 

 

I am a recently retired LLL Leader (26 years) and live-in grand mother. I went to one Meetup that was advertised as a pot luck, fun evening get to know other breastfeeding families. It really was a lecture/discussion on newborn breastfeeding. All but ont of the people there were breastfeeding toddlers. She got jaundice all mixed up and when I tried to very, very carefully explain physiological jaundice she it didn't exist! I just let it go because I wasn't going to change her mind. She made several other mistakes I was surprised someone that could pass the IBCLC exam could make. 

 

She was very medical oriented and focused on only the nutritional and health benefits of breastfeeding. Mothers talked about doing things with their babies that shocked me and she supported them! One mother was tired of nursing her baby at night so she just closed him in his room overnight and let him scream. It turned out to be really great because he decided to wean and she didn't have to go through that. The baby was 10 months! The LC backed what this woman did! I wanted to take the little guy home with me. 

 

She sends out about 10 emails a day with links to articles and youtube videos. People are supposed to be able to discuss them. She sent one that had outdated info. I was in a hurry and I posted a note saying there was newer info from AAP and posted a link. That made her really upset and she sent me an email telling me the group was her group and I couldn't challenge anything she posted or she would bar me from posting. Wow!

 

It has been a couple of months and I just let most things go. If something is important I make carefully worded posts or add a link hoping I won't get kicked off. This is the only breastfeeding group in the city other than LLL. If there is a continuum I am on one end of the continuum as supporting child-centered breastfeeding and she is on the other presenting only mother-centered breastfeeding info.

 

Breastfeeding sucks in my city and state. There is a state breastfeeding coalition that doesn't do much. I haven't been able to attend one of their meetings yet but I've read their website. So many women have signed up for the LC's group because of the need for MORE but few mothers are active in attending meetings. All that have signed up get the emails and get posts on facebook. 

 

What are your thoughts? Do I just keep correcting misinformation online here and there and inject a little baby-centered philosophy until she kicks me out? I can't go to the meetings, they upset me too much. Do I start a new breastfeeding group? I live in a different part of the city. Do I start an attachment parenting or babywearing group? Neither of these groups exist, they would be child-centered and promote breastfeeding. 

 

This is long. Thanks to all who have read it and offer suggestions.