We are name struggling. We have 3 girls. DH and I each have one sibling. His sister is mid-30's, not married, and most likely will not have kids. So any name carrying on comes to us. I have one brother. He has 3 kids, one is a boy (carrying my maiden name). Our 3 DDs each have a non-family first name we picked. DD1 shares my mother's middle name. DD2 shares my MILs middle name. And DD3 shares my SILs middle name.
This is our last baby, and likely the last grand child on either side. We have a girl name. But we are struggling with naming obligations if it is a boy. Here is what we struggle with:
If we chose a name incorporating one of our father's names, do we then need to incorporate the other as well? Or is that negated by the fact that he would automatically share my FILs last name? Part of the issue is that we have a tough last name. And our dad's names are not likable either...nor are there really any ways to morph them into something likable. So we could pick one of their names for a middle, but then does that leave the other out in the cold?
I feel a bit like FIL gets his stake because it will be his last name carried on, right? DH says, well, your brother has one son that will carry on your dad's last name. Which is true as well. Which then makes me think....screw it, let's name it something totally not family related.
And if you have read this totally too lengthy for the topic post, my question is....
Is there some naming rules we should be following??