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post #21 of 145
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Oh yeah, I never PAID for the game yet she had full access, she learned on YouTube how to play for free which I'm pretty sure is illegal. She didn't understand the problem with pirating,

There is a free version of the game that you can download from the official site. You can build, place blocks, etc but I don't think there are monsters. And you can't play multiplayer or anything.

post #22 of 145
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
Oh yeah, I never PAID for the game yet she had full access, she learned on YouTube how to play for free which I'm pretty sure is illegal. She didn't understand the problem with pirating,

There is a free version of the game that you can download from the official site. You can build, place blocks, etc but I don't think there are monsters. And you can't play multiplayer or anything.

 

 

Pretty sure it was full version, she played with others and there were zombies. She's still ticked at me for cutting her off but oh well.

post #23 of 145

Hi I have become concerned about our 9 year old - he is playing mincraft with every second available - I feel that he is missing out on life and not experiencing being a normal child - we are having arguments about this and I am not sure if I am overacting about this - last night he had such nightmares he said there where wolves chasing him - the wolves from minecraft!!! This is too much for me and I feel it is my fault that he is addicted to this game,

post #24 of 145
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Pretty sure it was full version, she played with others and there were zombies. She's still ticked at me for cutting her off but oh well.

My mistake, you CAN do multiplayer with the free version. It's a full version, just outdated. And it probably has monsters. I was asking ds what the difference was between the free version and the payed one and didn't get the same info as is on the website. My ds usually plays with the monsters turned off...

post #25 of 145
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Hi I have become concerned about our 9 year old - he is playing mincraft with every second available - I feel that he is missing out on life and not experiencing being a normal child - we are having arguments about this and I am not sure if I am overacting about this - last night he had such nightmares he said there where wolves chasing him - the wolves from minecraft!!! This is too much for me and I feel it is my fault that he is addicted to this game,

It's a very interesting and engaging game. Much more worthwhile than many other games, imo. He should be able to change the settings to "peaceful" if the monsters are too scary. There will still be wolves but ds says they only attack you if you attack them first. And wolves can be tamed if you right click on them with a bone.


Edited by 4evermom - 5/19/12 at 7:38am
post #26 of 145
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It's a very interesting and engaging game. Much more worthwhile than many other games, imo. He should be able to change the settings to "peaceful" if the monsters are too scary. There will still be wolves but ds says they only attack you if you attack them first. And wolves can be tamed if you right click on them with a bone.

My 6yo plays minecraft with her big brother and he always changes the settings to peaceful and dd (a VERY sensitive lo) is perfectly cool with it. No nightmares, nothing negative at all. Just lots of quality time with her big bro.

post #27 of 145

I am starting to feel the same way about my 11 yr old son with Aspergers who is obsessed with Minecraft.  He has literally sat in front of the computer for 15 hours in one day when I was down with a migraine.  He'd just get up to eat and go to the bathroom. Now with summer coming, living in Orlando, with the horrible heat and expensive attractions, I'm hoping I can keep him occupied enough that he won't be glued to the computer all summer or throwing a fit! It's NOT a bad game, it's just too much of anything is too much...

post #28 of 145

I am starting to feel the same way about my 11 yr old son with Aspergers who is obsessed with Minecraft.  He has literally sat in front of the computer for 15 hours in one day when I was down with a migraine.  He'd just get up to eat and go to the bathroom. Now with summer coming, living in Orlando, with the horrible heat and expensive attractions, I'm hoping I can keep him occupied enough that he won't be glued to the computer all summer or throwing a fit! It's NOT a bad game, it's just too much of anything is too much...

post #29 of 145

Wow! I am so glad to read this!  My 11 year old plays Minecraft every second of the day that he can! I was getting worried...we have had both the Wii and the xbox for a few years and the kids hardly ever touched it.....Now, he discovered this Minecraft and he cannot stop! I had to finally slow it down...it is easier to say he cannot play for the whole day than to let him play for 1 hour! He gets so frustrated and keeps saying, 1 more minute.....1 more minute!  Now, he has his sister and all his friends playing it at our house.  We had 6 kids over one day and they were all in the basement taking turns playing Minecraft...(2 people at a time on the split screen)  It is addicting to them!! 

 

The funny thing is, there is not really any violence at all...they build things and collect things and whatever else.  I cannot figure out if it is a learning experience or a bad for them!

 

anyway, I guess once in a while is not bad, but, this game is definately addicting!!!

post #30 of 145

OMG I am so glad I am not the only one!  My almost 8 year old is sooo addicted to Minecraft!  I told him I don't understand the addiction and he says he loves to build things.  I have limited him - he gets 1 hour in the am and 1 hour in the pm to play.  However, when I ask him to get off, he is always saying ok hold on, 1 more minute cuz he has to finish what he is building.  Last week his cousin slept over and they were on there for 5 hours straight!  I was ok with that because it was a sleepover.  I am thinking he is going to need glasses soon from staring at the screen!!

post #31 of 145

Glad I stumbled across this thread. My 9.5 year old is becoming addicted. We've never really needed to impose screen time limits because he more or less self-regulated. However, even he admits that he needs us to impose some limits for him, otherwise he's lost in MineCraft for days . . . .
 

post #32 of 145

LOL!  I saw the thread title and thought "I don't remember posting about this!"  My 11 year old wasn't allowed to play at night, only in the morning once he e was ready for school.  But then we discovered him waking at 4am to get more screen time.  Then we imposed a "no playing before 6am rule" and he would wake at 5:45 get fully ready for school and be sitting in front of the screen at 5:59 ready to play.  I figured if he was willing to do that then it did matter to him. It is quite social for him.  He will be on a conference call with friends across the country and across the street and they are all playing together. 

 

It does seem like a fine game but I worry about the time it takes away from his physical activity.  I really think kids (and adults!) should be active (sweaty, puffing, red-faced) for several hours a day and that doesn't happen for him anymore.  I'm making him run 1.4 miles every night (around the block) but that takes 13 minutes and isn't really a substitute. 

 

Does anyone know of minecraft camps, classes, clinics, conferences, etc in New England?  I know there is a minecraft version for schools but I haven't even found any local private schools using it.  I'd love to find him a community where he can have face to face contact with other addicts.  Plus I haven't spent time figuring out how to do mods and he needs help!redface.gif

post #33 of 145
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LOL!  I saw the thread title and thought "I don't remember posting about this!"  My 11 year old wasn't allowed to play at night, only in the morning once he e was ready for school.  But then we discovered him waking at 4am to get more screen time.  Then we imposed a "no playing before 6am rule" and he would wake at 5:45 get fully ready for school and be sitting in front of the screen at 5:59 ready to play.  I figured if he was willing to do that then it did matter to him. It is quite social for him.  He will be on a conference call with friends across the country and across the street and they are all playing together. 

 

It does seem like a fine game but I worry about the time it takes away from his physical activity.  I really think kids (and adults!) should be active (sweaty, puffing, red-faced) for several hours a day and that doesn't happen for him anymore.  I'm making him run 1.4 miles every night (around the block) but that takes 13 minutes and isn't really a substitute. 

 

Does anyone know of minecraft camps, classes, clinics, conferences, etc in New England?  I know there is a minecraft version for schools but I haven't even found any local private schools using it.  I'd love to find him a community where he can have face to face contact with other addicts.  Plus I haven't spent time figuring out how to do mods and he needs help!redface.gif

I'd be interested to know if there is a real life community aspect to MC.  My kids love it, as do many of their friends.  It's really huge in terms of the amount of time you can spend researching, watching youtube videos, creating, etc.  I like it a lot, esp. for one of my kids who loves to build, but the time suck is starting to be an issue.  I am not one to impose limits, usually, esp. at this age, but honestly, we're getting close.

post #34 of 145
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I'd be interested to know if there is a real life community aspect to MC.  My kids love it, as do many of their friends.  It's really huge in terms of the amount of time you can spend researching, watching youtube videos, creating, etc.  I like it a lot, esp. for one of my kids who loves to build, but the time suck is starting to be an issue.  I am not one to impose limits, usually, esp. at this age, but honestly, we're getting close.

 

My DS 11 and his buddies all play. They were friends before the minecraft discovery and so it's something they added to their friendship. This summer, they are spending hours on it daily but typically, they have no time to (all are in theatre, play sports, have active families, ect.)  I'm dropping DS off today at one of their homes and they are all playing together in the same room lol. Next week, I'm taking them all to the beach sans computers and they are just as excited. 

 

During the summer, I really don't care. I mean, school has him sitting for 5 hours a day... so what if he sits for 5 hours on the computer in the summer. He's still playing his instruments, going to basketball practices and games, going to tae kwon do, taking part in family activities, being with friends, ect. Minecraft really helped him make friends at middle school last year.  During the school year, he's really too busy to play more than a couple hours on the weekend... plus... things wear off. I know that allowing him to indulge in minecraft this summer means he'll barely touch it during the school year just like when we first got the Wii. He lived on it for 2 months and not it can go 3 months without even being turned on!

post #35 of 145

My 8 year old is addicted to Minecraft .... he watches youtube videos on minecraft  talks about some evil guy named harry bryant  or something like that ..... wants mods but everytime i try and install a mod on the mac, I screw up the minecraft game. He eats by the computer so he doesn't miss anything. We have to throw him outside because he doesn't want to play with any kids when they come calling on him. Minecraft, Minecraft, Minecraft .... since we found it, that's become his life.
 

post #36 of 145

I'm with Satori.  I feel like we need to pull the plug on the game.  When our 12 yo son cannot stop playing without a huge meltdown.  I think some people (especially those with ADHD, Asperger's, etc. like my son) have a marked tendency for addiction to the game.  Playing in "moderation" does not appear to be an alternative.  The way it was explained to us by our son's counselor and psychiatrist is that the game provides continuous stimulation for the brain (like a drug) and when it is shut off it causes a withdrawal.  Like the brain can't deal without the artificial stimulation. 

 

When I used to read that studies said playing computer games can make people aggressive, I thought that was silly because my kids weren't "hitting" or hurting anyone.  However, with our 12 yo I see that the "aggression" is a surly and disrespectful attitude.  It's making verbal threats like "You better not turn that off or I'll _______." 

 

All I can say is, if I could go back and start my parenting from the beginning again, I would NOT allow any video games in our house.  I know they would get to play them at other kids' houses; however, it would be very limited in duration.  It would be something they looked forward to rather than feel as though it were an entitlement.  It's the same feeling I have when I am around brownies and chocolate chip cookies.  I just can't allow them in the house.  I can only have them when we go out or visit someone.

 

Meanwhile, I have to figure out how to deal with this now living in a very technological society.  Hmmm...  It has helped reading everyone's experiences.  My son was laughing when I read some of the responses on this board because he realized it was all true.  I think it helped him to hear that he was not the only one going through this as well.
 

post #37 of 145

My 11 and 5 yo sons are totally addicted.  My 11 yo got all of his friends addicted, and now that is all that they do!  It's driving me crazy!  I'm glad school starts next week because it will get them away from it, but I know as soon as they walk through the door they are going to want to play it.  My boys get really irritable when I ask them to turn it off. My 11 yo old definitely has an obsessive personality, and when he likes something it is all he talks about.  I didn't mind as much when it was dinosaurs, or the universe, but the video game talk drives me crazy. I have considered taking away video games because that seems to be his only interest.  He is not athletic at all, so is not involved in sports.  My problem is if I take away video games, I feel like I will be taking away his link to his friends.  He is kind of a different kid, gifted and has language and depth of understanding greater than most of his friends.  He loves discussions with adults on science, politics, religion etc.  Kids his age seem to like discussions on video games and sports. Any advice?

post #38 of 145
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My 11 and 5 yo sons are totally addicted.  My 11 yo got all of his friends addicted, and now that is all that they do!  It's driving me crazy!  I'm glad school starts next week because it will get them away from it, but I know as soon as they walk through the door they are going to want to play it.  My boys get really irritable when I ask them to turn it off. My 11 yo old definitely has an obsessive personality, and when he likes something it is all he talks about.  I didn't mind as much when it was dinosaurs, or the universe, but the video game talk drives me crazy. I have considered taking away video games because that seems to be his only interest.  He is not athletic at all, so is not involved in sports.  My problem is if I take away video games, I feel like I will be taking away his link to his friends.  He is kind of a different kid, gifted and has language and depth of understanding greater than most of his friends.  He loves discussions with adults on science, politics, religion etc.  Kids his age seem to like discussions on video games and sports. Any advice?

I have learned with my 10yo son to let it ride. When my son was 8 he started playing WoW with my hubby. He was obsessed to say the least. I bit my tongue. It was amazing what he was learning from playing. He learned how to read fast and comprehend, how to budget his money, how to take lead with a group of people and organize and much much more. There is so much learning going on with gaming. Minecraft is just the same. My 10yo and my 6yo LOVE it!! Especially my 6yo. He plays on the creative side. He is a multideminsional thinker. So, playing this game is helping him learn so much more than anything else I can think of. Perhaps if you look at it as an educational tool? Maybe our boys can play together? smile.gif

post #39 of 145

Kathy,

I definitely see that there is some educational value to it, and I definitely prefer it over some other video games, but I feel like they play it to the exclusion of many other worthwhile activities.  It's so a hard to find a balance.  It's nice that your kids are getting something good out of playing it. We don't let them play online with anyone that we haven't personally met, but thanks for the offer! 

post #40 of 145

As with anything, we as parents need to set limits. If you don't, your kids pay for it in the long run. An adult addicted to Minecraft is far different than an 8 year old. Said 8 year old's brain is still developing and if he/she is playing to the exclusion of relationships, fresh air and outdoor play...never mind chores, homework etc...well, it's high time you all step in! 

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