I'm pregnant with my second child, whose due in August. When I told my OB that I was still nursing my two year old daughter at my appointment yesterday, she happily wasn't at all worried about the effects on the pregnancy. But she went into a whole lecture about how I should wean my daughter at least a few months before the baby comes, as she will feel displaced if I stop nursing her right when the baby comes. My OB is pretty conventional, and I'm pretty sure the idea of tandem nursing doesn't even really register.
Now I could actually care less what my OB thinks about this issue, but my husband--whose opinion I do value, and who I know has our daughter's best interest at heart-- was at the appointment, and afterwards he told me he agrees 100% with the doctor on this, and really strongly thinks we should wean our daughter before the baby comes. (It's unlike my husband to be so direct, so it was pretty obvious that this is something he's been thinking about a lot and very concerned with) I agree with my husband and OB that it is obviously a bad idea to keep nursing DD up until the baby arrives and then stop cold turkey as soon as the baby comes, but I'm not opposed to tandem nursing, so I don't see this as meaning I need to wean right away, and have been planning on just going off of her lead. But my husband thinks that tandem nursing will be disastrous for our daughter, and lead her to just be incredibly jealous and angry at the baby whose taking "her milk." I know that this is a possibility, but it also seems like it could be a helpful thing not a negative in the adjustment to the new baby. So I don't know.
Anyway, I think we could both use some more real life stories (fwiw, I've read, and may try to get my husband to read--Adventures in Tandem Nursing). So, if you've tandemed nursed, how did your older child react when the baby came? Are you glad you decided to tandem nurse? I'd love to hear both the good and bad. I feel at the very least I need to take my husband's concerns seriously, and really have some open communication about the issue.
Thanks for any insight!
(cross-posted with August DDC)