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post #41 of 59
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Is this just the kind that you use while pregnant?



 

No, they're different.  I was just in BRU last night buying a pg support band because I have been in so much pain.  The support band lifts the belly a bit and gives it structural support where the muscles are having a hard time doing.  Just an hour last night in it took care of the muscle pain I was having.  The one I got doesn't actually cover my belly at all - it goes both over and under, and wraps around the back to give me structural support. 

 

A pp band is more similar to an elastic back brace.  It's kinda like wearing a big ace bandage around your stomach - there to apply direct and steady pressure while your organs and muscles recover from all the stretching and displacement they did.  You can use an ace banadage, but it's difficult to get it to an appropriate snugness without being too snug.  Which is the nice things about the premade ones, they velcro on, and are adjustable (to a certain range), so that you can loosen/tighten them as things shift through the day, and not feel like you're wearing too-tight pants.  Just make sure you get the right size for yourself.  I know BRU allows you to try them on (over your clothes), but they don't carry a wide range of sizes.  I got the only size Lg support band they had in the store last night, and the girl said she was surprised because they don't normally even carry that size in-store. 

 

 

 

As for the hospital list (some of which may also apply to a BC), something to keep in mind, aside from everything else is stuff for your DH/DP.  I know the hospital we were in for DS1 barely fed me, they sure didn't feed him.  If we had realized we were going to be there for 3 days, we would have planned differently, but we never even thought about it (and he wouldn't leave my side even to go find a vending machine).  So pack stuff for him too - toothbrush, razor, clean underwear/socks, snacks, water bottle, and a book or two (.  I also would have brought delivery menus from places that deliver to the hospital, since even when they did feed me, it was CRAP (turkey sandwich that was turkey + bread only, salad made of iceberg lettuce, "soup" that just plain canned broth, pasta that was so overcooked it was mush (and microwaved to boot), etc.).  Oh, and bring at least 2 sets of pjs/clothes/whatever you plan to wear both before and after.  I know at one point I stepped out of the shower (better for me than the tub), and was hit with a bout of vomiting, and vomiting while pregnant typically causes me to wet myself, so the clean PJs I'd just stepped into were covered with pee and vomit.  Glad I had another option of something to wear. 

 

Oh, and another thing not to forget is chargers.  Cell phone, ipod, CAMERA, anything that needs a charger that you may want to use, bring it.  We didn't think to bring the charger for the camera and we ran out of battery long before we ran out of a desire to take photos. 

 

Another thing to remember about the hospital visit - they charge for everything.  Pads, tissues, tylenol, diapers, etc.  So any of those things that you might question wanting/needing your own, or even if you just object to the markup on it - pack it.  I know some insurances don't nickle and dime, but most do, and if it's going to wind up coming out of your pocket in some way or another, that's something to keep in mind. 

post #42 of 59

I keep thinking about this "what do I need" thread and thinking I must need SOMETHING, but I don't think I care that much... Or we have a lot of it already.

 

I need:

 

pads and/or depends. I like to have 2 for just after the baby, the first night in bed, JIC the bleeding is heavier. Less worry. After that I feel fine in a regular pad.

 

food. I'm always STARVING about an hour or two after baby is born, so having a big hearty easy to reheat meal available immediately after is good. I'm thinking stew, a loaf of pumpkin bread, and some soup. I can make ahead and freeze it, and just pull it out when things get rolling so it's ready to eat when I'm ready to eat it!

 

Other than that... Eh, not a lot I need. I've always hated peri bottles, we've got tylenol, I don't feel the need for ice packs or frozen pads, I have tucks left over from the last baby, I don't need breastpads, I'm happy to use a regular pillow for breastfeeding... Eh, whatever. I figure if I desperately need it after I can send DH out but I don't feel an urgent need for anything.

 

For my hospital bag (in case of transfer) I'll pack lots of socks, comfy changes of clothes, things to wear other than a hospital gown, chapstick, snacks, etc. But I really don't expect to need to transfer (which is maybe naive, but oh well) so I'm not going to bother with a lot.

post #43 of 59
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post

I keep thinking about this "what do I need" thread and thinking I must need SOMETHING, but I don't think I care that much... Or we have a lot of it already.

 

I need:

 

pads and/or depends. I like to have 2 for just after the baby, the first night in bed, JIC the bleeding is heavier. Less worry. After that I feel fine in a regular pad.

 

food. I'm always STARVING about an hour or two after baby is born, so having a big hearty easy to reheat meal available immediately after is good. I'm thinking stew, a loaf of pumpkin bread, and some soup. I can make ahead and freeze it, and just pull it out when things get rolling so it's ready to eat when I'm ready to eat it!

 

Other than that... Eh, not a lot I need. I've always hated peri bottles, we've got tylenol, I don't feel the need for ice packs or frozen pads, I have tucks left over from the last baby, I don't need breastpads, I'm happy to use a regular pillow for breastfeeding... Eh, whatever. I figure if I desperately need it after I can send DH out but I don't feel an urgent need for anything.

 

For my hospital bag (in case of transfer) I'll pack lots of socks, comfy changes of clothes, things to wear other than a hospital gown, chapstick, snacks, etc. But I really don't expect to need to transfer (which is maybe naive, but oh well) so I'm not going to bother with a lot.


Are you having a homebirth?  If we have our second at home it would be so nice to not worry about having to pack up all of the stuff I'm thinking I might need!

 

post #44 of 59
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I bring virtually nothing to the hospital because I get out of there ASAP, and it isn't worth it to lug all that stuff there to lug it out. The last hospital I delivered my LO at was known for its good food, and you could order off a menu at almost any time of day or night.  I did bring some snacks, but I didn't end up eating them.  I don't mind wearing the hospital gown for the 3 0 hours or so that I am there--less laundry for me to do when I get home, especially if I am getting blood on it, etc.

 

I'll bring a camera and an mp3 player, 3 changes of clothing for me and 3 for baby... flip flops, a robe... soap/shampoo, tooth brush, chap stick, nursing pads, and something to read... But that is about it.  Baby's car seat will be installed in the car, and I'll have a going home outfit for baby (or actually 3 of them) and one for me.... but that is about it! 

 

If need be DH can run home and get anything else for me that I might need since it is very close to our home. 

 

So I kind of mentally separate hospital bag and postpartum needs... the later being more extensive then the former!  I want to get out of the hospital ASAP.

post #45 of 59
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Originally Posted by casmer View Post


Are you having a homebirth?  If we have our second at home it would be so nice to not worry about having to pack up all of the stuff I'm thinking I might need!

 



Yup. My needs are pretty minimal, I think, and even in hospital my first focus would be baby, food, and getting out! I'd rather not lug in a lot that I have to bring home again.

post #46 of 59
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post



Yup. My needs are pretty minimal, I think, and even in hospital my first focus would be baby, food, and getting out! I'd rather not lug in a lot that I have to bring home again.



My plan is to limit everything to one suitcase (although I could probably easily fill four, haha).  I originally told DH to get our big suitcase down/out of the attic and he was like "whoa!" so I guess I should limit the stuff to our medium size suitcase.  So hopefully we're just pulling a suitcase and possibly bringing the birth ball.  I don't think the hospital provides birthing balls, likely due to sanitation concerns.  I also don't know if our chosen hospital will charge us for every single little pad or mesh underwear I need.  If that's the case, I'd rather bring my own and not find out if insurance is going to cover that stuff.  Speaking of getting out, I've heard that if your insurance will cover  say a 48 hour stay, then the hospital will try and keep you until then!  Hopefully, if we are ready to go home sooner I'll be able to get a hold of my doctor...ugh!

post #47 of 59

My first two were hospital births, and the thing I remember the most was how it felt like I had taken a huge trip when I finally got home.  There was all the stuff to put away...and it was the important stuff I needed, but it was all jumbled up in my bag, all the crazy hospital paperwork to decide what to do with, and meanwhile, I was trying to enjoy my baby and recover. 

 

The thing I thought was amazing after my first homebirth was the lack of all that "recovery from a trip".  I remember holding dd2 when she was about 12 hours old and feeling like I'd had her forever.  It took me a long time to settle with my first two, and I think it was from all the distractions in the beginning.

 

So, now when I pack a transfer bag, I try to pack duplicates of most things, so I don't have to unpack until I feel like it.  (Like, toothbrush, etc.)  And keep the clothes to a bare minimum.  Camera, phone, and chargers would be pretty high on my list, just about everything else I'd just wait until I got home.

 

And, actually, for my two homebirths, I put all the things I would need at a hospital in an open suitcase (clothes for the first few days, etc).  Then I could easily pull them out for home use, or zip it up and go to the hospital.  That way I didn't have to double plan. 

 

I've not read through the whole list, but has anyone mentioned taking something for bigger kids to do?  It was good to have a few special snacks and activities for dd1 when ds2 was born. 

post #48 of 59
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All my hospital births never had itemized bills--it was a flat rate, so it didn't matter if they gave me extra undies, pads, etc. I don't think the nursing staff even kept track of that stuff, honestly. But I guess that depends on the type of insurance you have and how it will be billed...

 

Also, every hospital I've been at has had birth balls as well... so I would check and see if yours does. 

post #49 of 59

ok I have to say this cause now I'm curious.

 

Every birth I have attended in the hospital has *not* had the birth ball handy it was 'in use' by someone else. I've only been to 4 hospital births, but still...it left me scratching my head wondering where the mysterious birth balls were kept. LOL

post #50 of 59
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ok I have to say this cause now I'm curious.

 

Every birth I have attended in the hospital has *not* had the birth ball handy it was 'in use' by someone else. I've only been to 4 hospital births, but still...it left me scratching my head wondering where the mysterious birth balls were kept. LOL


LOL that's funny! Maybe the nurses are sitting on them or something.  I think I'll just lug ours in.  I'll make sure to write our last name on it...it's a weird name, so I don't think it could easily get confused.

 

post #51 of 59
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LOL that's funny! Maybe the nurses are sitting on them or something.  I think I'll just lug ours in.  I'll make sure to write our last name on it...it's a weird name, so I don't think it could easily get confused.

 



LOL!  My last 2 births we at times when the hospital was pretty empty in Dec... not many other mothers giving birth... so maybe that is why?

 

This new hospital has water birth, which I am very very very excited about bouncy.gif

post #52 of 59
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Originally Posted by casmer View Post
Speaking of getting out, I've heard that if your insurance will cover  say a 48 hour stay, then the hospital will try and keep you until then!  Hopefully, if we are ready to go home sooner I'll be able to get a hold of my doctor...ugh!


Yes, that was pretty hard with my first birth. I had told them I'd like to leave quickly, but they insisted on the pediatrician to come by first, which of course is not available at 2am, except in real emergencies, then breastfeeding wasn't easy and I was told the best help I could get would be the hospital, which was not true.

 

I guess I could have fought harder, but I was tired and didn't have the energy.

 

 

Regarding Birth Balls, I was told to ask for a towl to sit on, so you don't sit with you naked butt on a dirty ball.

 

post #53 of 59
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Originally Posted by maryamrose View Post

I really have to get myself organized for postpartum. I've done very little to prepare. it's just hard to when I have so many immediate school/work responsibilities. luckily, I'll be done with all that on the 24th. hopefully that gives me enough time to prepare.

 

so far I've identified wanting:

 

a fitness ball (also for birth)

a glider or comfy rocker 

postpartum pads (which I custom ordered from my favorite pad-maker, and received the other day!)

lots and lots of food (Masel - fruit salad sounds amazing!)

lanolin and nipple cream

some kind of postpartum band (persephassa- the one you posted looks really cool)

an iPad (haaah)

comfy cotton clothes (pants, dresses, tunics with button-down fronts)

underwear - I only really have thong underwear, which obviously won't work here

a couple more nursing bras

a stretchy nursing wrap in case I don't want to fuss with woven wraps at the beginning

either to find my camelbak or to buy a new camelbak bladder so that I remember to hydrate

have to research herbs for milk production

 

it looks like my birth kit (which I ordered, finally) has a peri bottle in it. I might get an extra.

 



That's so funny!  My mom has one she uses when she's kyaking.  I thought about getting one for the birth (kind of joking, but it is a good idea!). 

post #54 of 59
Wow. All these lists made me panic just a little bit! I haven't given much thought to any of it yet! Probably need to get myself out of denial mode about having to leave my girls and be in the hospital for a day or two (I really just don't even want to think about that. boo.). smile.gif

For the hospital - my list is pretty standard.
- chapstick
- socks
- flip flops (a second pair for the shower because...ewww)
- towels (seriously, whoever said hospital towels are tiny - you FTM's, take heed!! I did not bring any with DD1. They're absurdly small and rough! With DD2 I brought one or two of my own and that first PP shower was so much nicer!), snacks (food at the hospital where I'm delivering is gross at best), stuff like that.
- comfortable, soft loungewear nighties and/or PJ sets (nursing tank plus bottoms) and a robe because no, night nurse, you are not taking my child to the nursery for a bath at 3am without me. (Not kidding, this happened with DD2. 3 in the morning! Oh! She's been in the world for 12 hours, must give her a bath NOW. So I hauled myself out of bed - yay PP adrenaline - and went to the nursery with her)
The hospital provides peri bottles (I love these things and already have two from my previous births) and pads and those great mesh undies, etc.

For once we're home:
- Soothies!! Again, FTM's, take note! I am a huge fan of breastfeeding. Huge. Nursed both kids for 2.5+ years. But I nearly wanted to kill myself during the first few weeks of bf'ing DD1 thanks to the pain (and I was not "doing it wrong" - I even saw an LC). I heard about soothies (gel pads that you put in the fridge and then put on your boobs) right before DD2 was born and let me tell you, I was outraged that no one bothered to tell me about them before (and I worked for an OB office! You'd think one of the multiple nurses on staff who gave breastfeeding advice every freaking day would have thought to mention them to me!). They're lifesavers.
- More comfortable loungewear and nursing tanks (or just regular ones, I didn't buy them with the other kids and unless I can find them cheap at Target this time, I'll skip) and some easy to throw-on coverup sweaters for when MIL or relatives drop by
- Tucks (I didn't need this with previous deliveries...but you never know...good to have on hand)
- Lasinoh
- Nursing bras and pads (I don't leak that much but lanolin stains clothes like crazy)
- Breast pump...just in case...and probably just a hand one since I cannot handle the idea of shelling out $300 for an electric one right now. With DD1 I had issues early on with oversupply (it was bad. she was miserable, I was miserable. We nearly gave up), and a pump to just pull off a bit in the beginning and give her more steady flow saved our breastfeeding relationship.


Other stuff
- I have mother's milk tea (never used it last time)
- I'd REALLY love to get a belly wrap/PP girdle/lose the belly tummy contraption thingee this time around, but that's subject to budget considerations and may very well be sidelined in favor of other, more pressing needs.
- I'd like to get another carrier, but for immediately PP I'm planning on just using my Moby wrap. It's great for newborns (even if it is a pain to put on), cozy and gives some nice compression. And I already have it - one less expense FTW.

And there we go...Once again, I so love this DDC, at the moment for helping me remember that I don't need to freak out about PP needs. And helping me plan ahead just a little bit. smile.gif
post #55 of 59

Socks. That reminded me. What I really wanted both times at the hospital was slipper socks. These are socks that have some sort of non slick surface on the bottom. DD1 was born in December. The floors were very smooth and I was afraid I'd slip with just socks on but I didn't want to bend over to always be putting slippers on. It should be warmer in May but my temperature sense has been wacky since DD2 was born. 

post #56 of 59
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Socks. That reminded me. What I really wanted both times at the hospital was slipper socks. These are socks that have some sort of non slick surface on the bottom. DD1 was born in December. The floors were very smooth and I was afraid I'd slip with just socks on but I didn't want to bend over to always be putting slippers on. It should be warmer in May but my temperature sense has been wacky since DD2 was born. 



me, too!  with previous pregnancies I would be hot all the time... with this one I suddenly get *freezing* and need to put on a jacket and sweater. cold.gif

 

Its so weird because I will be the only one who is so cold, everyone else in the house if fine... Many times you can request those from the hospital, too...

post #57 of 59

have you used an herbal sitz bath? i am thinking about buying loose herbs to mix together & looked up some recipes--it seems less expensive to order the herbs (no place to buy them locally) than buying a premade bath... i will probably order from mountain rose herbs (i got my RRL and nettle from there, tastes so much better than the traditional medicinals kind) or monterey bay spice co.

 

so, i think i'll get 4 oz. each of comfrey, uva ursi, yarrow, witch hazel, lavender, and calendula. does that sound about right? that should make enough for a few days of baths.

 

anyhow, i have our hospital bag pretty much packed... i just burned some cds with thunderstorms and hypnosis tracks and stuck those in--i just have to find my husband's bathing suit, wherever it might be. & i froze a bunch of pads i squeezed witch hazel onto and wrapped in parchment paper for when we come home :) 

 

 

 

 


Edited by persephassa - 4/8/12 at 11:27pm
post #58 of 59

I am fullterm so should probably go out and get some stuff!!!  I just washed all the baby gender neutral stuff I have (which is not a lot!  But I figure once we find out what we have I can have my hubby wash the girl or boy stuff... my sister just had a girl so currently has all my baby girl stuff).  I need to go out and buy some baby socks, because I never save those.... matching and saving baby socks is just not high on my priority list, haha!!

I need to go buy some good disposable nursing pads- I have a very overactive letdown so I need me some good "boob diapers" as I like to call them.

 

We just moved so I need to find a bikini top to wear during birth, since I'm having a birth photographer I'd be more willing to show pics if I'm not completely naked.

 

I need to order my homebirth supplies

 

Finish unpacking our house!  

That's pretty much it.... I already have things like a sling and cloth diapers and nursing pillow.  I do think I should invest in some good freezer meals from trader joes since I don't have time to make anything myself.  I know there will be a meal train after the baby is born, but it'd be nice to have some go to stuff for the days nobody brings us a meal.  I'm not sure my husband will get any time off work.  We'll see.

post #59 of 59
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Originally Posted by persephassa View Post

have you used an herbal sitz bath? i am thinking about buying loose herbs to mix together & looked up some recipes--it seems less expensive to order the herbs (no place to buy them locally) than buying a premade bath... i will probably order from mountain rose herbs (i got my RRL and nettle from there, tastes so much better than the traditional medicinals kind) or monterey bay spice co.



This is the recipe I recommend to everyone, and the one I'm planning on using. :) http://www.familyherbalremedies.com/sitz_bath_recipe.html

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