I just wanted to second the recommendation for Green Mountain Diaper prefolds, we use them and they are awesome. And indestructible (we have to handwash our diapers most of the time--no washing machine--so they get scrubbed with a hard-bristle brush every day), which might be good in your situation if you end up boiling them a lot!
I know you hate prefolds but did you try using a Snappi fastener? My DH was really dubious about prefolds because of the diaper pins, and the Snappi made all the difference to him.
So sorry you're having dipe troubles! What a drag.