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[Mom2SammyJoe]

Bag- I have a bag from BRU that was not super cute but very functional. I used it with two kids, and with a good washing it would keep going. Some time before I got pregnant, I said to a friend, who loves Vera Bradley, that it I ever have another baby I would love a Vera Bradley diaper bag. They are just so pretty. She kept an eye on the clearance page, and she bought me my diaper bag! I have had it since before Christmas, and I can't wait to use it. It doesn't seem quite as practical, but I love it. I hope it is big enough for CD. I haven't carried a diaper bag for at least 6 months, just a medium sized purse. So hopefully that helps me not cram a bunch of unnecessary junk in there. And I should only have to haul stuff for the baby and not the older kids this time around.

cseky- I really like those Columbia backpacks. I had been thinking about one of those as well, but I also remember how ofen I grab something out of my bag while it is over me shoulder. I thought it would be harder with a backpack.

Pampering- I have never had a pedicure, but I am thinking about it for the end of pg. DH is on spring break when I am 38-39 weeks, so maybe I'll go then when it is easy to get out by myself. I have been really blessed with massage this pregnancy. My insurance covers chiro and massage, 38 visits a year. So I go every other week for an adjustment and 1 hour massage. For the week of spring break I scheduled a 90 minute massage.

Now a random story. Nothing like this has ever happened to me before.

I had just finished checking out at Wal-Mart last night. I had my big winter coat on, zipped up. I notice this lady walking by. She glances over me, and without really stopping or making eye contact, she says, "It's a girl."  I'm sure I made a confused face, so she stops, points at my belly and says again. "It's a girl. I'm never wrong." We don't know what we are having, so I unzip my coat and keep talking to her. She touches my belly and looks some more, and says, "this one is tricky. but I say girl. I'm never wrong." And we go on our merry way. It was so strange, but I was totallly okay with it. With my last 2 kids, we did not find out the gender, but I "knew" with each one, and was right. I have had no sense of knowing with this one. A friend was with me and thought I was completely nuts!

[justKate]

Mommy2SJ, I had something similar like that happen with DD, before I knew from the u/s.  Some people have a gift.  This girl was a clerk in a coffee shop with a reputation for knowing things.  I asked her, just for fun, and she looked at my face and said "well I really haven't had time to talk to you, but I'm going to say girl."  I love that some people are in touch like that!

[chiromama01]

mommy2sammyjoe--thats crazy.  we had something like that happen too.  a self proclaimed psychic on an airplane met my husband, and in the midst of conversation she told him that his wife was expecting a boy in the spring... and sure enough, thats what we're having.  at the time i was only a few weeks along.  we weren't even really telling people yet...some people just have a sense i guess...

[Thursday Girl]

wow, those stories are cool.  I had some lady in a store during one of my pregnancies tell me I was having a boy, she was positive, she just knew these things. BUT, I have 3 girls. Oh well. Hubs once had a dream (3 days before we found out we were pregnant the first time) that we had twin boys, and the thing is 3 days before  Sept. 11th he had a dream that a plane split in half and one half hit each of the world trade towers. so it kind of freaked us out a bit. Of course. Like I said we have 3 girls and are now having very positively one baby who is probably a girl. shrug.

cravings- not sure how much milk I drink, I know my whole family drinks through it like crazy, I SO wish we had a cow always but yeah i think I do drink a bit more than usual.  I had a can of fruit cocktail the other day and now I just keep wanting more, so I am having fruit cocktail out of a can for lunch. lol.

pampering- thanks to friends I am getting a massage tomorrow (a friend is a massage therapist) and this weekend I am having a mother blessing and they are going to all henna my belly to bless, me the baby and the pregnancy.

I had my midwife appt today. measuring right on, heartbeat great she continues to stay in a great position. I had the GBS swab and they did one for a yeast infection and bacterial infection b/c things have been funky. She also thought my husbands male nesting 9cleaning the backyard b/c I said I want to have the baby in the backyard) was cute. I felt a bit whiny b/c so many things are happening that aren't fun with my body and I sort of feel like the crazy pregnant lady b/c of the anxiety attacks I had earlier on in the pregnancy and when she asked about them and I was telling her how I don't have much anxiety anymore b/c at Christmas when i was having them and just didn't know how anything was going to work out that a whole bunch of amazing people stepped up and hel;ped make Christmas happen, helped with baby supplies and helped by giving me some breaks and that now I know that we have amazing people in our lives and if we are ever truly in need of help again I know that kindness will come around. But I started crying while I was telling her and honestly I am not good asking for help or showing weakness and luckily she knows that about me and didn't try to hug me or anything.

[ReadingRenee]

Wow can't really catch up so just jumping in.

Re milk: I ALWAYS crave it when Im pregnant and when Im not pregnant I almost never drink it.  Im trying to go easy on it this time though because my last pregnancy I drank GALLONS of it and dd2 had reflux and dairy sensitivity when she was born.  I don't know if it was my milk consumption or what but I don't want to take any chances.  I still drink it just not TONS.

Re grapefruit:  I LOVE grapefruit!  I have had a whole grapefruit every night since about 14 weeks.  I crave it something fierce when Im pregnant it seems.  It also helps a lot with all the colds and sickies going around lately too.  My throat always feels better and less sore Im getting sick after I eat my grapefruit.

Re: crazy stories.  Not really crazy but with my first I didn't find out.  Everyone around me thought she was a boy (or wanted her to be a boy)  I got crazy amounts of blue at my baby shower! which is fine blue is my fav color and all my girls wear blue.  But I knew she was a girl.  I was in a resale shop and one of the old women who worked there asked what I was having and after I told her that it was a surprise she told me it was a girl with no doubt.  She said she was never wrong and my baby was absolutely a girl.  And of course she was!  I wanted to go find her this pregnancy before we had our late u/s and ask her again! 

[Fern5Fern]

I have a funny gender guessing story too, the day after I had my 20 wk ultrasound with DS (we'd just found out it he was a he) this little old man in our town who everyone calls "Rat" came into our store and looks at me and says, "so you're havin' a boy, I can tell how your carryin' " in his THICK downeast maine accent.  At first I was like, wow, word sure does travel fast in a small town, but he hadn't heard it from anyone else, just could tell.  I actually carried really different with DD so he was onto something! My initial dreams in first trimester have been right gender wise with all three babies too.  

Well it seems like my return to morning sickness this week was actually a touch of the stomach flu since DS woke up the morning and threw up all over the bathroom floor.  This is our 4th round of stomach flu this winter, and I bet in the past 5 years we've only had the tummy flu once or twice.  So weird.  And neither kid has had a real cold the whole time, even weirder (knock on wood).  I'm wondering if it is a function of the strangely warm winter we've had.  At least this means that I hopefully will get over the pukey feeling soon.  

[flavorfull1]

milk consumption- with DS I had to have it every night no matter what and I liked it ice cold!  This time, I am not sure I have even had a full glass of milk? I just don't want it and usually drink soy or rice milk but I don't really want a cup of any of it.  I do crave apples and oranges- that I have to have every day.

diaper bag- I have never had one, I just used a bigger purse for DS but since I will have two in cloth diapers, I am thinking about it. It is one of those things that I am ok with just waiting and seeing if I need it. I honestly didn't carry a purse until DS was born so it was a small adjustment.

pampering- I go to chiro twice a week and I attribute still feeling awesome and having energy to that. My back and belly hurt so much by this point with DS and it is nice to feel pretty good now. I can actually turn over in bed without it being a huge ordeal lol.  I also got my hair cut a couple of weeks ago and I will dye it with henna a little closer to april.  My sister is flying up to do my mother's blessing around 3/24 and I can't wait!  I have also decided that I will paint my toenails, or have someone else do it, before DD comes.  I am not that into a pedicure or else I would do that, I am just weird about people messing with my feet.

crazy story- those are great stories!  I had countless people come up to me and guess DS was a boy before I told them what I was having.  I also had a million random strangers tell me I would never make it to my due date and they were right, I had him at 38 weeks.  I wanted to punch them though because I was hugely pregnant and the only thing they could be saying was that I couldn't get much bigger lol.  Plus, it hit a nerve (one not there anymore) about my capability of being able to carry a baby 40 weeks. Who would have known I would have been sensitive about that then?  I have people telling me all sorts of things with this pregnancy but interestingly enough, no one guessed I was carrying a girl.  Everyone has a comment on if I am big or small and I get equal input about both.  There is much less touching of my belly though by strangers. I wonder if that is because of the whole stereotype being up north as opposed to south thing?

AFM- DS is sick with a high fever.  He started being really clingy on sunday but was still happy and then yesterday afternoon he just fell apart at anything, he felt a little warm before bed then woke up at 4am so hot with fever.  I wasn't able to get him back to sleep until 6am when his fever went down from meds.  today has been a little trying but I have tried to just take it slow and snuggle him. I am really not looking forward to tomorrow through sunday because DH will be out of town for his job interview.  I definitely do not like parenting solo and really don't like it with a kid who has a fever. I just get more worried and then the whole exhausted thing too.  He is just so sad.

courtney- glad you are feeling better with knowing the support of friends around. It makes a huge difference knowing you can count on people. I am sure your mw understood. You have a lot going on too, I swear you are always doing ten things at once. I would be tired and emotional too! I had to laugh about the comment about no hug.  Asking for help is hard but it is nice to come to the place that you at least realize it is hard to ask for. I was horrible at asking for help postpartum with DS and I have had many conversations with DH about how he needs to specifically check in and ask what I need help with often and then make it happen. I was so tired and in pain that I had to just focus on feeding DS and getting through each day that actually reaching out was too much to do.

[Thursday Girl]

sorry for the sick kids, it is no fun and just sad to see our babies not feeling well.  Oddly we haven't had much sickness and I think it is b/c the winter has been exceptionally mild as we usually get more sickness and it always happens when we get cold fronts. No cold fronts here though, just heat, tank tops and AC in the house (thank god we have Ac in the house now) and one pregnant momma thankful I have never had a baby in the middle of the summer!

[flavorfull1]

ok anyone else having a ton of braxton hicks? they aren't painful but I have them very often and last time I barely had any. What is the point anyway?

[ReadingRenee]

Originally Posted by flavorfull1 

ok anyone else having a ton of braxton hicks? they aren't painful but I have them very often and last time I barely had any. What is the point anyway?

I have them more and earlier with every pregnancy.  This time around they started pretty early AND they were painful so my mw had me start taking a cal/mag supplement and that really helped.  Now I have them less often and they aren't usually painful.  But I have noticed them getting more frequent the past couple weeks.  I think its just your body's way of gearing up for labor.  I call them "practice contractions". :)

AFM:

This morning I somehow pulled something and got a "round ligament pain" on one side so bad that I couldn't walk.  Thank goodness for my almost 9 year old dd who managed to get breakfast for her and her little sister and get everything ready to go to take her to school.  WOW was it crazy how painful it was.  It lasted for probably 10 minutes.  I have had trouble with that side ever since my last baby and am prone to pulling it so I guess it is just easy to stretch it too much or too fast.

eta: I guess it only went away while I was sitting down.  It actually ended up being where I couldn't even walk for like an hour.  My mw is going to loan me a belly support belt which she says will help.  I can hobble around but can't do any major walking and definitely no lifting right now.  So annoying.  

Edited by ReadingRenee - 3/1/12 at 8:06am

[prettyisa]

I don't have any crazy prediction stories yet, except that my coworkers (usually the ones I don't really know, but see in the halls from time to time) have taken to yelling out their predictions at me. It's weird, but not particularly jarring. And so far I've only had one belly touch incident, and it was really early on (maybe 18 weeks). I'm tall and the belly isn't terribly big, so I think that sometimes people can't tell if I'm pregnant (when I'm wearing a coat, especially). Either that or my 'don't mess with me' look is working...

My feet have been getting all swollen lately, so last night i finally bought some compression stockings and tried to lie down as much as I could with them up. It's such a weird position! Of course tonight DP wants to make it up by going CLUBBING. Seriously. What kind of almost-9-months-pregnant woman heads out to the bar on a thursday night, after birth class? I guess this one does. She makes the good point that this is probably the last possible chance to go out on the town like this for the next, oh, 5 years or so, so I'm going to let her drag me out, as long as she promises we can leave good and early.

[adoremybabe]

I'm sorry that I haven't been keeping up this week but I wanted to chime in.

I just went to my 35 week appointment. I can only pray that I allow myself to have a peaceful birthing experience. This is my first time with this OB and was soooo happy with my old family physician/ob. So I keep comparing the two.

I had the GBS swab. I decided to go ahead with it without doing anything beforehand to try and help along a negative status. During my two previous GBS+ births I didn't have enough time for all of the antibiotic anyway. So.... he did the swab... vaginal and then a swipe to the rectum. I questioned him on the rectum before he did it. I'm pretty sure that he thinks that I think too much about stuff.

It's also this practice's policy to check for dialation at this point. I let him this time but if it's their "policy" to do so every week I will refuse. He also told me that he can't tell me if baby is posterior unless I am dialated. Yes baby is head down but I wanted to know where the back was. He could vaguely tell me that baby's back is on my left side. It was previously (by my own determination) on the right side or completely to the back.

I just don't get it though.... he really wouldn't have been able to tell me if my baby was posterior???? 

Am I freaking out because I am out of my comfort zone with this doctor? Good Heavens it feels like it's going to be a long several weeks. I do have a good friend that is an OB nurse at the hospital where I will be delivering and I plan on asking her what kind of opposition I will be up against when I refuse, Hep B, eye ointment, and possibly vit K depending on how the birth goes.

I hope that everyone here is as well as could be expected!

[thomatuttle]

Adore- your doctor should be able to tell whether or not baby is posterior before you have dilated. I asked my ob about it because DD was posterior and I would like for this one not to be when I go into labor. He said that you should be able to tell by the shape of the plates on their head. He said that sometimes they can get it wrong because sometimes the shape of the front feels more like the back and vice versa. I was expecting the rectum swab too when I had my gbs test, but he just did a vaginal one. I don't really remember what he did when I was pregnant with DD though.

AFM- the cervical cramping seems to have lessened. I think that he has dropped a bit though, because my crotch just feels a litle more full I guess. I'm also definitely waddling. My hips ache, my back aches, everything aches! Last night I was up every hour! Went to bed at 11, up at 12:30 with DD who had a bad dream and wanted to cuddle in our bed. Put her back in her room sometime after 1, up to pee at 2:30, up with a cat who wanted out at 3:30, up to pee again sometime after 4, up with another cat at 5:30, woke up to DD whining at 6:30 (luckily she fell back to sleep on her own), and then up for good about 7:45. I'm tired, and I have to work today. It seems like the nights I have like that are always the nights before the days I have to work.

On a positive side, DH's cousin and his wife had their baby boy this morning! She's in the last picture with me that I posted in the baby belly thread. She was due on Monday and for some reason they induced her yesterday. She ended up having to have a c-section this morning. He was only 6#2oz, so I'm thinking he just really wasn't ready to come out yet and that's why the induction turned into a c-section. But I really don't know the specifics behind the past few days, so maybe there was something else going on. I know that this really wasn't the path that either of them wanted to take. I really want to know the specifics, but don't feel like I can just ask. Maybe later when we seem them and introduce our boys for the first time.... I just wish they didn't live 5 hours away, so that our boys could grow up together since they'll be just about a month apart.

[jess in hawaii]

Aloha everyone!

I haven't been able to get on much and keep up, so I'll just jump in after skimming thru-

I don't drink milk, don't like it, but have craved it periodically throughout this preg anyway. I have been eating way more yogurt though.

I still have my "diaper bag" from my last... it's a black canvas Betty Boop messenger bag, bought at Target for $5.

As for random gender guessing, the consensus is Boy, which of course i already know, but it's interesting how often someone will tell me, usually because of how I'm carrying.

My prenatal last week was good, the midwife I saw (who was the same as the appt, before but not the one i saw the first couple) was very understanding about my ambivalence about birthing there, and completely supports my choice to continue going for prenatal care but birth at home, and recommended a midwife who might be open to exactly what i want (show up for the birth itself, stay long enough to make sure we are both totally good, and charge me very little or barter somehow). I haven't talked to the woman yet, but i am feeling more positive again.

[Thursday Girl]

oh god, my moms friend called to tell me that at my mom's probation appt tomorrow (DUI) that she has to pay $1000.oo and only has $200 and will probably end up being violated and put in jail. AWESOME! I have no money, we have over due bills and stuff we need to get for the baby and the kids so I can not help her out. I have tried to call her and figure out what is going on, right now her phone picked up but she doesn't know it and I am trying to figure out what the heck is going on. someone else  is talking of she's made sacrafices for her daughters and they should help her out and someone saying they would bail her out and I think my mom is crying. So I guess this is true which is totally weird that she hasn't told us because she comes to us with every problem trying to get us to solve it for her.

GAHH, I have to go lead my daisy troop soon so I can not deal with this at the moment.

[ReadingRenee]

I am so sorry about your mom.  My mom so far (knock on wood) has managed to stay out legal trouble but has other issues where she needs help and I cannot help her and she cannot help herself.  So I know a little about how that feels.  Im sorry you have to deal with this right now.

[justKate]

Courtney, if it's misd. probation making a small payment before her court appearance might really help show the judge that she's trying...when I did it in KW I NEVER violated people based on an inability to pay alone.  Can she show that she's done her other stuff?  Will her PO tell the judge/pros that she's working hard and just needs more time to get the money together?  Fingers crossed that it goes better than she's expecting.  Keep in mind its not you're job to fix her problems!  You don't need this right now.    And honestly if she can get one or two days of jail (and it would end up being waaay less than 48 hours by the time she was processed in and everything) it might be worth it to make the $800.00 problem go away.  So sorry you have to deal with the extra drama.

[Thursday Girl]

well she has already had court and everything, the DUI was a long time ago. so she is supposed to be finishing everything up. She has done all her community service and then needs to pay the fine. SINCE this happened she has had a lot of health problems and is no longer working because she is on permanent disability so i don't know how she would even be able to come up with the money. My sisters with money are not answering their phones and maybe she didn't tell us because we are all sick of helping her. They have already said they will not give her any more money. I kind of don't even want to call her tonight and ask her about it b/c then I will have to listen to her moan and I just don't feel like it today. I am hoping b/c she has done the other stuff and has some of the money then they will just work something out for the rest of the money. I think she was hoping to use her tax return but it hasn't come in yet. I don't even want to start thinking about how she will probably be homeless soon so I won't. I'll just pretend she can work this all out on her own. I have declared myself turned off for the night and Hubs is entirely responsible for the kids now if I can just turn this off and relax and enjoy the massage I got earlier today we are all good.

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Courtney: ::hug:: Sorry you're dealing with this, that just sounds like a giant PITA.

[Marnica]

Geez - your mom sounds like my mother in law (minus the legal trouble). I see what it does to my DH and im sorry you have to deal with this while pregnant no less.