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[thomatuttle]

Originally Posted by hazelbranch 

It makes me want my little guy to come already.

I hear you on wanting baby to come already! I'm 36w2d and he can't get here soon enough! It doesn't help that DH's cousin and his wife just had their DS on Thursday and another extended family member and his wife just checked into L&D this morning. I have a friend who was due on the 2nd, so I'm expecting that announcement anytime now and an old co-worker is due next week too. All these babies being born right now and I have to wait 4 more weeks! I really do hope he waits too, because I still have a ton to do. Thankfully I've been working hard at getting all his laundry done. I've gotten so many hand me downs that I have had to start boxing things up to store until he is able to fit into them! Now I just need to scrub my house from top to bottom before my mom gets here in 3 weeks and finish DD's room, and I should be good to go. DH said that I should just wait on finishing DD's room until spring break when mom will be here and he can help. I snippily reminded him that DS is due during spring break so that is not even an option. If I don't get it done before DS comes, it's not going to get done. The annoying thing is that next weekend is the only full weekend that I have off before DS comes too! So much to do, so little time!

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

It sounds like there's quite the theme going on this board. I'm at 36+1 and had my first round of regular (mild) contractions last night. Apparently they turned him to the ideal starting position (LOT/LOA) and he's dropped. I'm also doing the prelabor "clean out" which has been SO much fun let me tell you. Everything seems ideally lined up for birth so I just want it to happen before it all goes to pot again.

In other good news, my FIL sold his house today! They first started trying to sell it about 2 years ago and it languished on the market, eating up their retirement savings. They took it off, regrouped for 6ish months or so, put it on 2 weeks ago and as of this morning they have a contract. We're really happy for them and for us. We've been lending him some money off and on, and won't have to (barring another catastrophe) since they'll now be running in the black.

Ok baby, OUT!

[CarlyVHT]

I"ll break the trend and say I am NOT ready for baby to come yet. I am only 33+5 right now so really want this guy to hold out another 4 weeks or so. What I am REALLY looking forward to is April 1st, when I can close down one of my restaurants and my work load lightens up a bunch. I have never really worried about pre-term labor and I'm not really worried now, but having LOTS of BH, baby is sitting way low and in position, and my cervix is SUPER soft. I never experiences any of this with my DD, so I'm hoping it is all just normal for this stage and not a sign of him wanting to come early.

We're pretty much ready for him otherwise (stuff at home, etc). Just a few details to take care of but I'm mostly just waiting to be full term and done with some projects at work and then we will be truly ready.

[ReadingRenee]

I am not ready for baby yet either!  So much to do, so little time!

My home visit with my mw is this week so Im looking forward to that.  Not sure what to expect.  Yesterday and today I started feeling crampy and like the baby was really low when I walked and just generally YUCKY for no reason I could pinpoint.  But Im 34 weeks 1 day today and 36 weeks is the cut off for homebirth.

Im expecting to go late so I would be surprised if I went early.

Also been throwing myself into my hypnobirthing Cd's and relaxation practice full force.    Yep definitely not ready for baby!

[dealic]

I am also not ready for this baby to come. I am 34+3 and I need AT least 3 more weeks. I stil l have almost 2 weeks of work left, and a lot still do do to be ready for both the birth and the baby. I am getting a lot of BH's but nothing more. On that note, all you who have kids, want to reassure me that when I have "real" contractions, I will know the difference? I always assumed I would but I am getting less sure, the more BH's I have.

[chiromama01]

deliac... i don't think it's likely that you'll "miss" the fact that you're in labor ;)  You will know the difference between bh and the real deal.  the "real ones" are concentrated lower, or at least thats where i feel them, and they last longer and are more intense.  trust your intuition.  you'll know ;)

I'll say i'm *getting* ready for baby to arrive.  we finally finished out master bath.  yay.  it was a modest redo but seemed to take forever.  dh took a day off from work to finish the job (something he's never done, in the 10 years we've been together) so i was astounded and oh so grateful.  he managed to finish it up yesterday so we could have the family day i so desparately needed today.  I guess he can see i'm getting anxious about the birth and the idea of having 2 kids, so he gave me the mental day i needed.  we took dd to a wild animal conservation called global wildlife where you take a 90 minute tram ride and feed the animals.  it was perfect and she loved it...and it was much easier than trekking thru the zoo...  i feel like our house is pretty ready for baby to arrive, now i just need to install his carseat and get the bags packed for the hospital.  i'm 36 weeks today so i feel like we're pretty much out of the woods as far as preterm labor goes.  YAY!!   I think i'd like another few weeks though before he comes.  My family and friends are already looking at me like a ticking time bomb, so, although i don't think i'll go past 38 weeks, i keep telling everyone that he'll probably stay put till 42 like his sister, just to get them off my back!!! anyone else already getting "the look"??? 

anyway, hope you all had a wonderful weekend ;)

[justKate]

Courtney, LOVE your photos.  I didn't think about the fact that we're so close EDD-wise, we could have babies the same day!

35ish weeks here and definitely not ready for baby to arrive before 39ish weeks.  DD was pretty small at 40+2 and I want this little one to get as big as she likes.  And I'm trying to keep the energy/will to be pg up because I know those last two weeks will just be torture!

dealic, I kind of wonder the same thing about contrax because I only had back labor last time.  I mean, I KNEW the back labor was real labor once it got started, but I wonder if I'll be able to tell the difference between BHx and "real" contrax if they're up front.  Of course eventually it will be obvious!

sunflwr, I think having a clean, organized house and a stocked fridge/pantry will somehow prevent me from going in to labor.  Because that would just be too helpful, you know?

[dealic]

Thanks for reassuring me. I was sure it must be obvious, but I think I was startled by the strength of some of the BH's, so I started to wonder. Plus, I sometimes get them regularly for an hour or two, so again, I wondered how I would know when it was real. So far, I knew it wasn't but still.

Chiro, I have had coworkers tell me I won't make it to my last day, that I am huge and going to pop any second. I ignore them, because the other half of my coworkers is busy exclaiming that I am tiny, and how did I manage to stay so small... I chalk it up to everyone needing to have an opinion, and I still expect to see 41 weeks. I am trying to think that now, so I am braced for it and don't get impatient when 40 comes and goes.

[justKate]

Okay someone help me out.  I could have sworn someone had a plan for making a simple hospital-type gown to labor in, but now I can't remember where it was or who said it.  Sunflwr, was it you?

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Nope, not me.

As for BH vs. real labor, I don't get excited until I get interesting discharge (plug, show, water).

[Thursday Girl]

dealic- yep best to mostly ignore contractions until you can't ignore them, especially if it is evening. Sleep! I was worried about not knowing if I was in labor the first time and was timing everything. I had consistent BH all day long, went to the hospital 2 times and "no progress".  You'll know when they can't be ignored anymore. For me it's having to sway and rock and vocalize through things. I have no water and no show until right before the end. I still fret over am I calling the midwife too soon? and I am sure I will wonder that again.

Ready for baby- NO! I would like baby to stay in until March is over.  My house is not ready, but really just needs to be cleaned...again. God, my kids mess it up fast! It's not about not being ready we can get everything how it should be in half a day so it's not about that.

Had my mother blessing today(yesterday since it's 4am) - I now have an obscene amount of newborn/small diapers, truly! I have way more than I could use. I guess that's what happens when so many people's stashes get combined. there are literally over 25 newborn covers not including the ones I just put back into the bin to give back to my friend, just the ones I get to keep (which will go on to my twin sister).  I got my stash back, which I wasn't sure if I would, plus the stash of covers I made for a friend who didn't end up using them, plus some new ones from friends plus some hand me downs from another friend. It's sort of overwhelming. So if I sew any more diapers it NEEDS to be mediums since that is a stash I gave away that I am not getting back.

So like I said I had my mother blessing today (yesterday) and pictures of it were posted on facebook and this lady i have met and hung out with a few times commented on one of the photos " oh you had your shower? would have been nice if I got an invite" or something like that. I think she is kind of toxic. She thinks everyone hates her and her kids.  it's this whole woe is me thing. It kind of permeated every encounter I've had with her. We just didn't click and for me I usually click very quickly with the people who come into my life and into my inner circle of friends. I have invited her places b/c I feel bad but I find it uncomfortable..mostly due to her negativity and the need you feel to respond to whatever she says on facebook lest she is sure people are so horrible. Her status update, about "those peace, love and happiness hippies are all snobbish and stand offish" I think involved me, although I don't drive a prius. I would have deleted her a long time ago but, I don't know, you feel bad for her sort of.  But really it was a mother blessing, I invited some of my closest friends only. People I feel a connection to not just a bunch of people I know, I left off a lot of people I feel quite a bit closer to than her. gah, I hate guilt.

and in Happy news my oldest daughter is 9 today!!

[RosieL]

Originally Posted by CarlyVHT 

I"ll break the trend and say I am NOT ready for baby to come yet. I am only 33+5 right now so really want this guy to hold out another 4 weeks or so. What I am REALLY looking forward to is April 1st, when I can close down one of my restaurants and my work load lightens up a bunch. I have never really worried about pre-term labor and I'm not really worried now, but having LOTS of BH, baby is sitting way low and in position, and my cervix is SUPER soft. I never experiences any of this with my DD, so I'm hoping it is all just normal for this stage and not a sign of him wanting to come early.

We're pretty much ready for him otherwise (stuff at home, etc). Just a few details to take care of but I'm mostly just waiting to be full term and done with some projects at work and then we will be truly ready.

Me neither! I want this baby in April, not in March, no matter how my body feels. (Right now, it's feeling pretty okay.) 

Originally Posted by ReadingRenee 

I am not ready for baby yet either!  So much to do, so little time!

My home visit with my mw is this week so Im looking forward to that.  Not sure what to expect.  Yesterday and today I started feeling crampy and like the baby was really low when I walked and just generally YUCKY for no reason I could pinpoint.  But Im 34 weeks 1 day today and 36 weeks is the cut off for homebirth.

Im expecting to go late so I would be surprised if I went early.

Also been throwing myself into my hypnobirthing Cd's and relaxation practice full force.    Yep definitely not ready for baby!

I could write this post. I'm LOVING my hypnobabies tracks, and just finished our last class last night. I listen to the scripts more to unwind from school work than for birth prep, it seems. 

Originally Posted by dealic 

I am also not ready for this baby to come. I am 34+3 and I need AT least 3 more weeks. I stil l have almost 2 weeks of work left, and a lot still do do to be ready for both the birth and the baby. I am getting a lot of BH's but nothing more. On that note, all you who have kids, want to reassure me that when I have "real" contractions, I will know the difference? I always assumed I would but I am getting less sure, the more BH's I have.

I'm gearing myself up (visualizing)  to be so "late" that I sometimes I worry the same. Thanks for asking the question.

Originally Posted by Thursday Girl 

dealic- yep best to mostly ignore contractions until you can't ignore them, especially if it is evening. Sleep! I was worried about not knowing if I was in labor the first time and was timing everything. I had consistent BH all day long, went to the hospital 2 times and "no progress".  You'll know when they can't be ignored anymore. For me it's having to sway and rock and vocalize through things. I have no water and no show until right before the end. I still fret over am I calling the midwife too soon? and I am sure I will wonder that again.

Ready for baby- NO! I would like baby to stay in until March is over.  My house is not ready, but really just needs to be cleaned...again. God, my kids mess it up fast! It's not about not being ready we can get everything how it should be in half a day so it's not about that.

Had my mother blessing today(yesterday since it's 4am) - I now have an obscene amount of newborn/small diapers, truly! I have way more than I could use. I guess that's what happens when so many people's stashes get combined. there are literally over 25 newborn covers not including the ones I just put back into the bin to give back to my friend, just the ones I get to keep (which will go on to my twin sister).  I got my stash back, which I wasn't sure if I would, plus the stash of covers I made for a friend who didn't end up using them, plus some new ones from friends plus some hand me downs from another friend. It's sort of overwhelming. So if I sew any more diapers it NEEDS to be mediums since that is a stash I gave away that I am not getting back.

So like I said I had my mother blessing today (yesterday) and pictures of it were posted on facebook and this lady i have met and hung out with a few times commented on one of the photos " oh you had your shower? would have been nice if I got an invite" or something like that. I think she is kind of toxic. She thinks everyone hates her and her kids.  it's this whole woe is me thing. It kind of permeated every encounter I've had with her. We just didn't click and for me I usually click very quickly with the people who come into my life and into my inner circle of friends. I have invited her places b/c I feel bad but I find it uncomfortable..mostly due to her negativity and the need you feel to respond to whatever she says on facebook lest she is sure people are so horrible. Her status update, about "those peace, love and happiness hippies are all snobbish and stand offish" I think involved me, although I don't drive a prius. I would have deleted her a long time ago but, I don't know, you feel bad for her sort of.  But really it was a mother blessing, I invited some of my closest friends only. People I feel a connection to not just a bunch of people I know, I left off a lot of people I feel quite a bit closer to than her. gah, I hate guilt.

and in Happy news my oldest daughter is 9 today!!

I want to see more of the photos! Sorry for the weird toxic lady. It's *really* hard to figure out what to do with really negative people. On the one hand, they are toxic. On the other hand, they need positive people in their lives and it feels like a good deed to help them and try to let your own positivity rub off. Happy birthday to your first baby girl!

 Advice question: I have a mid-term March 27th that I have every intention of taking on schedule. If for any reason something goes wrong/early, my professor wants me to take an oral exam no later than THREE WEEKS after the original test date. Is it worth it to protest and ask for another week, or should I go ahead and just say fine, sign the plan, and continue along since this baby isn't coming until April? I have no idea what the consequences would be if I didn't take the make up. I would be shocked if they failed me, but what else could they do?

[Thursday Girl]

Rosie-is the professor going to let you bring the baby? does the school have any guidelines on the situation? Can you get a note from your ob/midwife saying you need to rest up for at least 4 weeks??

photos- I am trying to decide

http://sweetplumphotography.zenfolio.com/p469442320/h1a5d8f2a#h123dab72

password Pink

and I THINK I have it figured out (which photos to get)

c7
c20
c46
c47
c49 or c14 that's hard to decide (3 girls together shots)

c182

it's so hard when there are so many nice ones

Edited by Thursday Girl - 3/5/12 at 5:51am

[chiromama01]

rosie-- could you take it early and sign a confidentiality agreement?  i've done that before.  

courtney-- yay for your blessing and boooo on the woman who feels the need to be negative. i can't be around those people either.  no advice, just sympathy, really.

AFM...I finally broke down and bought my new diaper bag!!!! (I don't know why this makes me so happy, but it does!)  I got a jujube be prepared one, and can't wait for it to get here!  that was my one big splurge just for me.  I did everything else as inexpensively as possible, so for this one item, I said budget be damned, where's the visa... ;)

here's hoping i don't regret it when the bill comes in ....

anyway, happy Monday :)

[Thursday Girl]

Chiro, I'm glad you did, I think everyone should have 1 splurge item if it's possible.

[flavorfull1]

chiro- awesome!

rosie- what a bummer professor. I would try to do it early like chiro said and sign a confidentiality agreement. It may make this month suck but will be worth it for peace of mind and to just be done with it.  DS came two weeks early and I had totally planned on him coming 40 weeks or after but also kind of felt like he might come early.  What are you feeling?

courtney- yay for the mother's blessing! and the photos are all beautiful! I would have a hard time choosing too.

dealic- I agree, once you can't ignore them, there will be no doubt. I am having a lot of braxton hicks this time, it is annoying sometimes and stronger than others at times but not full on contractions yet.

sunflwer- yay for good position and fil's house! good timing.

well, off to start this week's thread.

[Fern5Fern]

Courtney 7,9,14,20,43 are my favorites but they are all so amazing, I'm envious as I've never had maternity pictures done and I'm jealous it is green where you live!

[chiromama01]

ok so i'm a little nervous... I'm 36 weeks as of sunday, and i have a strong feeling baby will be here very soon.  I never had this feeling with dd.  my bh are getting stronger and more frequent, but never consistent.  my good friend dreamed i had the baby yesterday. I had an exhausting day on sunday (after which i would normally needs days to recover) and got very little sleep last night, and yet i woke up buzzing with energy.  I have a "to do" list 10 miles long and actually feel like i have the energy and mental clarity to accomplish it... all of which makes me think I'll get none of it done because I'll have a baby in my arms VERY SOON... also, i've worked for 12 hours today and I still had the energy to post....  it's a little unnerving... but i could also be totally off base and have another 42 weeker... 

[Thursday Girl]

Maybe Chiro, I've heard of people having babies at different stages in their pregnancies, but maybe it's just an upsurge in energy, those I have actually had.

I got lucky with the pictures because I have a friend just getting into photography so she is doing the maternity shoot, the birth and new baby pics for free to build her portfolio. I'm counting it as my pregnancy splurge even though I'm not paying for it. Although she has little twin daughters and I want to make them each a dress to thank her.