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Older Mums?

post #1 of 22
Thread Starter 

Hello,

I am certainly no spring chicken anymore (42 next week) and wondered if there are any other mums who consider themselves "older" with this pregnancy?

I had my first baby aged 27yrs and was considered an old first-time-mum then.  Since then I've had 3 more healthy babies, the last one was in Oct 08 when I was 38

So far I am feeling pretty healthy with little nausea, manageable fatigue, lots of hunger! but I have little nagging doubts that everything might not be well.  I think this stems from the general belief that older mums have more health risks? gloomy.gif  Do you consider it more risky as you get older?

post #2 of 22

The statistics say it's more risky, but personally, I'm not going to worry. No point in that. I'm 44, this will be my third. My girls came when I was 32 and 35, so it's been a while. 

 

 

post #3 of 22

I consider myself older because it's been a while. I had my first at 24, my second right before I turned 28. This one is due a few months before I turn 35.

post #4 of 22

I'll be 41 when this one arrives.  Although I do get worried at times, I also know that many of the risks have to do with preexisting conditions that increase with age such as type ii diabetes and high blood pressure. I started having children later due to infertility.  My first at 35, second at 37,and third at 38.  I still can't believe this will be #4 after all we went through to get pregnant with #1!  Nice to see other older moms!

post #5 of 22

I had my first at 35, my second at 38, my third at 41 and will be 44 for this one. That's how nature intended it for us. It will be fine.

post #6 of 22
Thread Starter 

Welcome to the thread everyone and congratulations to you all.

 

 

post #7 of 22

Silverbirch -- old at 27 for your first???? Wow! I can't believe anyone would consider that old in this day and age. :)

 

I'm 36 and will be 37 at delivery. This is my first. Hoping for a healthy pregnancy and babe.

post #8 of 22
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Originally Posted by dandylez View Post

Silverbirch -- old at 27 for your first???? Wow! I can't believe anyone would consider that old in this day and age. :)

 

I'm 36 and will be 37 at delivery. This is my first. Hoping for a healthy pregnancy and babe.



That was in Dublin,Ireland in 1997 and everyone else in the maternity ward was younger than me and seemed to be on their 4th or 5th child LOL.

Times certainly have changed though!  my mum says she would have liked to have had a 3rd baby but the staff at the hospital,  when she had my younger sister, told her that she shouldn't think about having any more as she was getting on a bit....again, she was 27!!

post #9 of 22
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Originally Posted by Silverbirch View Post



That was in Dublin,Ireland in 1997 and everyone else in the maternity ward was younger than me and seemed to be on their 4th or 5th child LOL.

Times certainly have changed though!  my mum says she would have liked to have had a 3rd baby but the staff at the hospital,  when she had my younger sister, told her that she shouldn't think about having any more as she was getting on a bit....again, she was 27!!



That's hilarious! I grew up in Ireland, so I can totally see that being said there. My mom had her fifth, my youngest sibling, at age 40 while we still lived there (in 1987). I will now definitely ask her how she was treated as an older mom.  Thanks for the shared cultural connection!

post #10 of 22
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by dandylez View Post



That's hilarious! I grew up in Ireland, so I can totally see that being said there. My mom had her fifth, my youngest sibling, at age 40 while we still lived there (in 1987). I will now definitely ask her how she was treated as an older mom.  Thanks for the shared cultural connection!



:)

Another, non age- related, anecdote is that I was constantly advised to drink Guinness (stout beer) throughout my pregnancy, and I was given a free pint of Guinness each day I remained in hospital after the birth.  I wonder if they still do that??

post #11 of 22

Haha! Yes, that's true! I'm not so sure about suggesting it for during pregnancy anymore, but definitely after the birth!!  It's even recommended now here (in North America) by some midwives after the birth to help the milk come in. I'm planning on having some ready in the fridge for after my delivery.

 

.... oh, and also my grandmother was prescribed a bottle of Guinness a day in her senior years to keep her iron levels and strength up. :)

 

"Guinness Is Good For You!" winky.gif

post #12 of 22

I will be 39 when baby is born.  I have to say I am concerned about the risk of Downs...but hopefully the nuchal test in a few weeks will help quell those fears.  I was 33 when my son was born. 

post #13 of 22

My first was born just after my 36th birthday and I will be into my 37s when this one comes!

post #14 of 22
I will be 36 when baby#3 arrives!! Not worried at all!!

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post #15 of 22
Thread Starter 

I'm booked in for an emergency consult/US this afternoon as I'm now bleeding and cramping :(

I clinging to hope by my fingernails, but generally feeling very pessamistic about the outcome.  I am 9 weeks.

post #16 of 22

I'm sorry, Silverbirch. Thinking about you... hug2.gif

post #17 of 22

Silverbirch, I'm thinking about you today as well.  hug2.gif

post #18 of 22
Thread Starter 

No good news from me I am afraid greensad.gif.   I am out of the October group now.

I wish you all the very best with your pregnancies and births. Much love, Sarah x

post #19 of 22

I'm so sorry Sarah.

post #20 of 22

I'm so sorry :(

 

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