Just wondering if anyone has any recommendations on dealing with a school bully. I have notified the school (as of this morning, via note) and will follow up if I do not hear anything from them.
My daughter is very small for her age, so I guess I always suspected that she could end up getting a hard time about that. There is one girl in particular that is being downright cruel to her, harassing her whenever she has the opportunity. My daughter has been coming home with stories of this girl cornering her and making fun of her for being a "little runt", among other things. She is not in the same class as this girl - this is all happening at recess when they are minimally supervised. The girl is easily twice her size, targets her on the playground, and has even turned two of my daughter's best friends against her. Sigh...I thought they were too young for cattiness. It begins early..
We have had issues with this girl in the past. I am a Brownie leader for my daughter's group, and have witnessed first-hand this girl bullying the younger kids. We have brought it up with her mother, and she shrugs it off. Late last year, my daughter accidentally brought her ipod into a Brownie meeting (I let her bring it for the car ride), and on the way home, discovered that it had been stolen. There was only one girl that had been around the drop-off area during the Brownie meeting - the bully. I wrote an email to the parents of the Brownies, and two days later, it turned up in my daughter's locker (dead - I guess the thief discovered that it was useless without a charger). A friend of my daughter's confided in her that the bully had bragged about taking it.
And this kid has no limits. She's a total jerk to me, too! I've never been made to feel this way by a child before. She is downright mean! I was at the school one morning picking up my son, who was sick. The halls were empty, but the bully happened to walk by. As I know her from Brownies, I said hi to her to be polite, and she rolled her eyes and kept walking. This kid is eight years old! I happened to mention it to her mother at the next meeting (not in a "your kid is a jerk" sort of way, but in a joking - "you'll never believe what happened!" way so that she wouldn't get defensive), and the mother responded "Oh, she's such a character." Um... So although I know the mother well enough, I don't think that it would be effective to discuss the bullying with her. She really doesn't seem to take it seriously. This girl has made some of the younger kids at Brownies cry with her bullying. It's just not fun.
So I guess what I'm wondering is if 1) anyone has any ideas to help my daughter deal with bullying, in general; and 2) how do *I* deal with this? This is a girl I have to directly supervise once a week, and frankly as an adult, she makes ME feel bullied...which as I mentioned, I have never felt intimidated by a child before. I mean, if I feel intimidated by this girl, I can only imagine how difficult it is for my eight year old child.