We are thinking about side-carring the crib. I am not sure though.
Sleeping with baby - Page 2
We gave away our crib (since we haven't even assembled it for the last two children). The babies just sleep in our bed until at least the age of two, then we evaluate from there. Some transition well at that time to a bed of their own, some take a bit longer in the bed with us. DD4 will be two in just six days... and honestly, I can't wait to get her out of the bed (yes, I feel terrible for wanting it so badly )... I'm just ready to have even a few months alone (well, with dh!) before this new baby gets here. Buuuuuut... I have a feeling dd4 will not quite feel the same. In fact, I'm sure she won't (*big sigh* .. I love her to pieces, but she's been my most difficult sleeper of the four thus far... ).
We have a king-sized bed, so it's plenty big for dh, a baby, and I. I prefer not to have two kids in there though... DH is 6'5" and not a small guy anyway... and I'm 5'11" and certainly no petite little being either. I feel safer with just one. And no side-cars or anything either. Just the bed and a baby is easiest!
We do just baby in the bed. With DD1 we had a double bed, somewhat high up. She slept in the middle, and initially I was super careful - staying awake while nursing her, placing her on her back right in between me and DH away from all covers and pillows. She seemed so tiny and delicate that I was worried my arm over her chest might hurt her. We set up a crib, but she essentially never slept in it (maybe for a handful of naps, we never even tried at night). I outgrew the paranoid new mommy thing about staying awake and placing her in the middle within a couple of months (likely sooner, it's hard to remember). As she got mobile, we got bed rails. I loved them. I would lean against the one on my side for back support while nursing. It made the bed feel bigger because we would sleep right up against the edge. We also did some musical bed positions. I would roll DD over my body to nurse, so sometimes she would be in the middle and sometimes on my side. I never worried about her sleeping next to DH. I slept topless (once I got past the leaking milk pouring all over all night phase), and by 6-8 months she could latch on without my help. We slept side lying with her head curled up against my chest, typically over my arm.
When she was about 18 months we got a king sized bed, as she typically slept perpendicular to DH and me, and she kept getting taller. We did a super low bed, which she could easily climb in and out of. When she was closer to two, I started wearing a shirt to bed, and sleeping more on the other side of DH to discourage all night nursing marathons. We still night nursed when she woke and asked for it. I never night weaned. She weaned at 28 months, and continued to sleep in our bed until about 37-38 months (when DD2 was 1-2 months). We fit in the bed with both kids, but it wasn't working out well for everyone to get to sleep.
With DD2, we never bothered to set up the crib, and I never worried about the whole away from my body, on her back thing. She slept snuggled against me from night one. We did have an Amby hammock, which she napped in some in the early months, then there was the recall and I packed it away. She's still mostly in bed with us, but I think she's transitioning. I nurse and rock her to sleep, and lately at her request, I put her down in her bed instead of mine. If she wakes at night, she comes padding into our room, says "Daddy," snuggles up to him, and goes right back to sleep . If DD1 (now 5.5 yrs) wakes at night, she screams "Daaaaadddddyyyyyy" until he gets up and goes to her , so we're especially thrilled with how DD2 handles night waking. I'm also really happy that DD2 is also seeking DH at night now. It should make the transition to having a tiny new baby much easier. DD1 didn't transition to Daddy for night time until after DD2 was born, and it was a hard transition (honestly, I think hardest for me).
I don't plan to set up a crib this time around either. I have the kit designed to fix the issue with the Amby. I may set it back up, but we'd really only use it for naps. I also so this recently at Target and thought it looked like a great idea for naps.
I also so this recently at Target and thought it looked like a great idea for naps.
WOW! I like that. Not sure I need it, but the weight limit is 25 lbs. Which would be perfect for my chunkers who are usually 25 lbs by 6-7 months. Most seats like that have a weight limit of only 15 or so lbs which both of my girls reached by/before 2 months!!! :)
Wee! I just made an awesome kijiji score! I was looking for arms reach co sleepers but found a 2nd hand babybay, which as far as I know you can only buy in Europe. It's going to work way, way better for us! It's narrower than the full sized Arms reach but I think it's wider than the mini and the most important thing for us is that it's height is totally adjustable. With the arms reach we would have been looking at having to raise up the bed 6 or 7 inches. I'm sure the baby will be right in bed with us most of the time but this should give us a little extra space and some protection from the toddler if need be!
Carlin I'm totally jealous!
We sold our crib after DD2 moved out of it (we sidecarred, but she started sleeping in our bed around 4 monthsish). It was one of those super fancy ones that I got as a gift for DD1.
I'm either looking into a cheap IKEA crib, and plan to sidecar it, or will just have baby sleep with us. If baby sleeps with us though, I want one of those Snuggle Nest things. We have a pillowtop mattress and I'm not comfortable with a teeny baby sleeping on it directly. Our sheets fit really tight so they compress it a lot, and I'm more okay with it at 4-5mos old. I'd put the Nest on my side, next to the wall. I'm not too keen on the idea of baby being between us.
I was thinking the snuggle nest could be tricky for night nursing, but I couldn't nurse DD laying down until she was like 6 months old anyways...
My son is 6 months old (and yes im pregnant agian). My son has always slept in a nap nanny (http://www.napnanny.com/) placed in a pack'n'play (yes it says not to place it in the crib but my son is not rolling yet, and just using 'mom-sense' and I think he is fine for now.. Im too worried about stepping on him and night nad if he is on the floor, he doesnt have a clear line of site to me and freaks when he wakes up feeling alone) set to the infant high setting immediately next to my bed and as close to facing me as possible. He has corrective intestinal surgery 5 days after he was born and still has acid reflux from the top of his stomach getting stretched out from his stomach problem and sleeps better when placed on an incline. I tried sleeping with the nap nanny on my bed and me snuggled up to it, because after he was in the NICU for 19 days, I wanted him as close as possible. But I am a very light sleeper and every sigh, twitch, and yawn woke me up. Then I stir and toss and turn and have a hard time getting back to sleep, which woke him up. I also had repeated terrible nightmares that a pillow or blanket fell on top of him. I have my own queen sized bed because my husband and I are both picky sleepers (its always amusing when new people come over to our house to find 2 queen beds with a pack'n'play in the middle of the two beds in our master), and there is plenty of room, but it just created sleep problems with both of us. He is very comfortable with being right next to me. He always sleeps facing me and makes a little "goooooooo" noise when he wakes up to get me up, and greets me with the biggest smile ever!
I think its great to have a goal, but make sure to be flexible to allow for finding what works best for you and your baby. The better sleep you can get, the more you can be there as a mom. I was so tired trying to make it work having my son in my bed that I felt like I was suffering from SERIOUS post-partum depression. My husband watching my son an entire Sat and Sun while I slept all day and felt a million times better. I plan on having my son sleep in our room until he is about 2 years old, and same with our baby #2. I cant imagine not having them right next to me.
On a random side note, we just bought a house. Our realtor got a kick out us because our #1 priority was a master that will fit 2 queens and 2 pack'n'plays. We finally found one! In the town we live in, it is EXTREMELY rare. Most houses we looked at could barely fit 1 queen. Ha ha!