We just began our journey of fostering. We actually had our 1st meeting with our caseworker at our house yesterday. She was impressed that our house was ready, as well as having our paperwork (even our dogs' immunization records) ready to go. She says the next step will be the actual home study done through a private agency.
However, there was nothing in any of the paperwork about choosing what we would or would not accept as far as age, sex, or race. I have no problems with any sex or race (I'm Caucasian and my husband is Hispanic; we have 2 teen girls and a nearly 12 year old boy). The kicker is that I am really hoping for a newborn to 2 years old, with possibly up to 4 years. I mentioned that to her, and she said not to get hopes set on a baby. Several times during the meeting, she mentioned teenagers. I don't want to come off as a bad person for only wanting to help those younger than 4. When she left, I really felt bad and let down. I KNOW we have the final say for placement, and my husband says to drop it until we get certified. Is this okay to do? Not worry about the age until we are finalized?
I'm a RN, who currently stays home. I used to work with newborns and moms. I worked as an IBCLC for 7 years (board certified lactation consultant). My husband is a Paramedic. We both adore caring for kids/babies, and even those with medical issues do not scare us in the least bit. I understand that there may be a wait to match our age preferences. We don't have a time limit; we can wait. I just think that if we turn down whatever they offer us, we will be blacklisted (or whatever you call that) and they won't call again.
Another question I have is, do foster kids stay within their county? We live very close to another county, we are darn near on the border. We have one city as our mailing address; another city as the school district, and we have another city for fire, police, etc. The city for fire, police, etc is in the next county. That county has been in the newspapers recently for needing foster parents and especially for those who are willing to take in newborns. I'm just curious if we could take a child from another county.
I'm trying hard not to feel down, but I really felt like my caseworker popped my bubble!