I'm trying to decide if I'm being silly or unreasonable here. We're considering using a doula for this birth (we did not with our first) because I feel instinctively like I need more support this time around. I had a pretty straight-forward, peaceful birth (except for that whole "nuchal arm presentation" thing, ouch!) the first time, so I don't have any birth trauma to deal with, no reason to think that this will be a challenging birth. I'm using my same, much loved midwife, same hospital but still, can't shake the feeling that I want an extra support person at my side this time. We've been looking around for doulas, but since we're a one income family we definitely cannot afford anyone experienced and their $1200+ price tags. I'm searching for novices or doulas in training, which I feel comfortable with (everyone's gotta start somewhere, right?), since $300-600 is about our financial limit.
The thing is, so many of these doulas don't have children of their own. I respect and acknowledge the training they've gone through, but I can't get past the idea that they actually have no idea what it feels like. My husband thinks this is unreasonable of me, and I wonder if I'm being foolish here. I mean, I would totally trust a midwife who hadn't had children to help me birth my children. How do you all feel about this? Does anyone want to make a case for me why it doesn't really matter if a doula has given birth or not? I would love to be convinced...it would certainly make finding an affordable doula much easier!