I'm planning a homebirth for my first and my midwife asked me at my last appointment to start thinking about who I might want there (besides her, of course). My husband will also be there, along with a second midwife to assist, but I'm not sure exactly who else I want there.
As a midwifery student/doula I've been to so many births and I've seen people have great experiences with huge crowds at their birth supporting them, and with nobody there besides mom, dad, and midwives. I'm honestly having a hard time picturing what will make the most sense for me.
A few factors I'm considering:
1) I really want photos of the birth. We were going to pay someone (who I'm familiar with from a birth I attended) to come, but we're using the money to buy a new car instead. My mom (who REALLY wants to come) has volunteered to take pictures instead. We get along great, she had three natural, hospital births (two with CNMs), but she's only really said she's coming around to the safety of homebirth now that I've told her a few times that I'm nervous about her being nervous at the birth. On the other hand, I'm a huge hypochondriac, and she's usually pretty good at convincing me that I'm not dying when I'm being overly dramatic about something. One of my two sisters might also want to come, and has a similarly comforting vibe.
2) Our apartment is large, but sort of loft-style, with only an archway between our living room and bedroom (no actual door). If we wanted complete privacy, people would have to hang out in our kitchen/dining room (which is also large enough to accommodate quite a few folks), but not as comfortable.
3) I have a few fellow midwifery student friends who live nearby who would love to attend and would be great doulas in early labor before my midwives come by, but I wonder if they might be in the way once the midwives are there?
4) Several of my best friends live close enough that they could probably stop by for part of labor (or we could call them to show up afterward). I have this idea that I want to bake a cake (or have someone else bake a cake) during early labor to have a small birthday party/meal after the baby is born. I would love to have some of my super close friends come by and see the baby then, but I'm also open to waiting until the next day (or some other time)...
Thoughts? Who is everyone else inviting?