I posted something similar on the preemies board but thought I'd ask here as well, in case there are any mothers of former preemies here.
DH and I have been committed to not vaccinating our children (we've been trying for years for a baby and, after six miscarriages, finally got our survivor... who was born 11 days ago at 29 weeks because of severe pre-eclampsia). In a lot of ways, having a preemie has changed everything... e.g., my OB went against my wishes and did not delay cord clamping (I'm still livid/sick to my stomach about that one, since a preemie needs all his own blood even moreso than a full-term baby).
The vaccine thing, we're still 90% sure we want to decline/delay vaccinations, but on the various preemie forums (not here!), you're treated as though you're a mass murderer for even considering it. The general claim is that illnesses that would be a minor inconvenience to a full-term baby, could be deadly for a preemie. Of course, I consider that to be true of the toxins in the vaccines!
If you had a preemie at any point, did you vaccinate at all? Were there a few things that you chose were worth the risk (e.g., RSV) and others that weren't, or did you decline them all?
Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts... I hate being in this spot, because no matter which choice I make, if something went wrong with my baby because of it, I would never forgive myself!