Hi everyone, this is my first post, so let me give a brief background...
My son (3 yrs...almost 4) has been in part-time daycare/preschool for almost a year. We started last summer and ran into a few of the normal bumps while he adjusted, but otherwise he seemed happy, we both liked his teacher, etc.
In the fall, he moved to a new classroom and teacher, and everything seemed okay at first. Not perfect, but good enough. Ever since then, there has been a gradual change in DS's attitude about school. He started off somewhat reluctant to go, and being happy when it wasn't a school day...and now it is to the point where his teacher is having to practically peel him off me when I drop him off. The last two times I've dropped him off, he has been sobbing and asking me not to leave him there, which breaks my heart. :-(
His teacher and I have had several conversations, and my understanding (from her and from things DS says) is that he is in a time-out almost everyday because he can't keep his hands to himself, he wiggles too much, doesn't listen, etc. According to DS, his teacher is "always mad" at him, he is "bad," and none of the other children like him. This coming from one of the most extroverted, friendliest kids I know. I also get the general impression that maybe his teacher just doesn't like him.
There have been a handful of incidents where I'm wondering how much of the situation is DS and how much is the teacher/school. For example, when I picked him up yesterday, two of the assistant teachers were walking the kids to their cars. One of them was the assistant in DS's classroom, and when she approached him and held out her hand, DS put his hands behind his back and said, "No, I want the other one." (meaning he wanted the other assistant to walk him to my car) OK, well, not the greatest behavior he could have shown, but the teacher he refused rolled her eyes at the other teacher and said in an exasperated/sarcastic tone, "Oh, he wants that 'other one'...excuse me, I mean 'utter' one. He keeps saying 'utter' instead of 'other'."
Not cool. I can understand her being embarrassed because DS refused her in front of the other kids and the entire car line of parents, but it really hit me the wrong way that she was making fun of the way my child talks.
Anyway, sorry to write a novel just to get to my question! Which is...I have scheduled a meeting with his teacher for tomorrow morning, to try to get to the bottom of what is going on. Tomorrow is also a school day for DS (no school today), and I'm wondering whether or not he should still go? On one hand, I don't want to be "that" parent who overreacts...and I don't want to put his teacher immediately on the defensive by DS not attending. But on the other hand hand, I really don't want DS to go back until I know more about what is going on. An objective opinion would be greatly appreciated...