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Thought I'd start a new thread beginning tomorrow before another month passes us by... :) 

post #2 of 60

Good plan!

 

I've had a nice day, I got the big kids off to school and Stephanie and I went back to bed until 11. She napped and I read, between talking sessions... she really likes to talk to me now! Then we got up and did some tidying then called DH to see if he was coming home for lunch, which he was so I made us egg, ham, cheese & tomato sandwiches. We watched Misfits together, now he's back at work and we're getting ready to get the big kids. I don't have my after school care girl today, and I've got a card to mail, so I'm taking the kids to pick out a treat at the store. I'm going to be lazy tonight and just make store-bought perogies and chopped fresh veggies for supper. The kids are both banned from the computer tonight for getting in each others hair this morning, so maybe we'll have a game night. They'll want to play Monopoly, so maybe we can let Stephanie be the bank.

 

Monopoly always reminds me of when DH and I first got together... he moved here from Calgary with a job lined up, but found out when he got here that he had an old debt with the insurance company and couldn't get a BC license (he moved out of BC 15 years before, so it was tons of interest.... stupid thing is he was totally findable in Alberta and could have paid it before he moved) He still had his Alberta license and insurance, so he could still drive but the place couldn't hire him because he needed a BC license to qualify under their insurance. Hand found a job delivering chinese food, since he'd be driving his own car he could still work for them. Then he rear-ended someone. That night he came over and a friend and I tried to get his mind off his financial problems by... playing Monopoly! Ha ha, he totally smoked us both, too... he says it's the only time he's ever won that game. Anyway, when we got up in the morning, there wasn't a puddle under the car so he figured it was still drivable, and kept his job after all. he delivered food with a crunched up hood until he got on at the bus place and he could afford to fix the car. Through all that, he still brought us groceries every week, even though he couldn't afford to.

post #3 of 60
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It's always fun to reminisce about the old days, huh Mummoth?  Cute story.

My little guy is already 12 weeks.  Tuesday he will be 3 months!!!  Crazy.  We made it through the "4th trimester".  My husband and I have joked that we'd have a lot of kids if we could get them at 6-12 months old :)  Our first two were more challenging than Oliver.  His insane sweetness and mild temperament just may lead to more children after all...  :)  I am so in love with him!!!    

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My baby girl will be 3 months next week too:)  Time is just flying by.  It's funny, my second (also an Oliver) was a super happy and mellow baby.  It definitely pushed us in the right direction for another one:)  And our third, Harriet has been so sweet too, it's hard to say no to having another one!  Right now I really feel like we could handle a fourth (in a couple of years of course), and a few years ago I didn't know if we would ever have children at all:)

My husband works from home, and is able to help out so much during the day, I'm very lucky.  He usually wears Harriet in our wrap for a couple of hours in the afternoon, and gives me a chance to get stuff done, and play with the boys too.  I think if he were to change jobs, and I was suddenly home alone with three kids, I'd go into shock! 

Right now, the big debate in our house is whether to homeschool or not.  My oldest should be starting kindergarden in the fall, and I'm not sure what to do.  My hubby really wants to homeschool, and I'm worried that we might be taking on too much.  The break would be nice for him too, not to mention his almost 3 year old brother!  They play really great together, but when my oldest is at preschool, he really enjoys the quiet.  Any thoughts or ideas?  I know I should be researching and reading more about home schooling, but who has time right now.

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Monopoly always reminds me of when DH and I first got together... he moved here from Calgary with a job lined up, but found out when he got here that he had an old debt with the insurance company and couldn't get a BC license (he moved out of BC 15 years before, so it was tons of interest.... stupid thing is he was totally findable in Alberta and could have paid it before he moved) He still had his Alberta license and insurance, so he could still drive but the place couldn't hire him because he needed a BC license to qualify under their insurance. Hand found a job delivering chinese food, since he'd be driving his own car he could still work for them. Then he rear-ended someone. That night he came over and a friend and I tried to get his mind off his financial problems by... playing Monopoly! Ha ha, he totally smoked us both, too... he says it's the only time he's ever won that game. Anyway, when we got up in the morning, there wasn't a puddle under the car so he figured it was still drivable, and kept his job after all. he delivered food with a crunched up hood until he got on at the bus place and he could afford to fix the car. Through all that, he still brought us groceries every week, even though he couldn't afford to.


I love this post :) it sounds like you really appreciate him. My DP was unemployed (he's a professor) and recently divorced from a really needy and boundary-less woman when we first got together. And I had a roommate with brain cancer I was caring for. It was hard to get through the early stages of our relationship because our lives were so stressful. But we really liked each other and now he's employed and we live in Hawaii! And the good times are definitely appreciated.

 

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Lisa - I am also thinking about the home school dilemma.  My oldest just turned 4, so we technically have another 18 months to "decide", but my nephew has extreme peanut/tree nut allergies and is due to start school this fall (but my SIL has to work full time).  I am considering homeschooling him along with my son. My sister home schools her children and I feel like I have a lot of great local resources/groups to turn to, but it's a big commitment!  I think it would be nice for my son though to have his cousin around... 

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Lisa, we are in that debate too!!! Right now part of it hinges on me being able to quit my FT job or not, but, also I am really for it and DH is less sure. I was homeschooled and all of my siblings and I think we turned out great lol... my mom "unschooled" so I feel if I even attempt to be organized than my kids will have an awesome education - because I certainly did fine in college and everything! I loved being home schooled so much, so I have always wanted to do the same for my kids...it was just so neat being able to go places and see things, we volunteered different places (actually me and one of my sisters volunteered with living history for several years...we learned a ton about the period, not to mention, cooking/gardening/sewing/public speaking etc!) There are TONS of homeschooling resources, start asking around local mom groups and such because there are probably home school groups in your area and you might be able to join now and start talking to other moms (I just joined one...and I spend a lot of time with one I haven't officially joined because my younger siblings are in it and I take them on some of the field trips and meet them for park days and such).

 

I have another urology appointment tomorrow...I don't think my antibiotics are working because I feel like my infection's coming back..or another stone is trying to pass...but whatever it is hurts. :-/ I called my DH from working crying and he told me to stop being emotional...I am really really really done being sick though!!! Plus my medicade coverage ended yesterday, so I'm just imagining the crazy doctor bill we will get tomorrow (we have insurance, just haven't met the deductable) and on top of that we got our water bill today which was terrable because we had a leaky faucet most of the time, AND we just paid a nasty electric bill because they under-estimated our usage (and of course I didn't realize it was estimated (house had been empty for a while so they were estimating from essentially no usage) and so we budgeted off the first 2 bills we had)...oh well, thank God for tax returns...of course, since we spent it on the minivan we now need to hurry up and sell our car!

 

 

Naomi had speech today with 2 new therapists and they gave us some new ideas to improve her suck....it uses both my hands! It's great though because it forces me not to play on my phone and just to look at my gorgious baby :-)

 

One other happy thought...daffodils in my lawn...even though they will probably get frosted it sure gives me hope for spring!!!! :-) Happy March!!!

 

Oh, and I am just DYING for my friend to have her baby already!!! She's not even due yet and its killing me lol...I'm just so excited to be the experienced mama friend...she really seems to have saught me out (them as a couple to us as a couple) and it's been so fun as they have been so interested in everything we do and they are really educating themselves well (reading and such)...I just can't wait to have a mama friend at church who is like minded again...the other ones I used to hang with moved and its been lonly! That and she looks so darn uncomfortable and it hasn't been long enough for me to have forgotten that stage lol...I want her to feel better! And I want to bring her a meal...and give her Naomi's teeniest clothes she's outgrowing....umm ok, maybe I'm getting carried away...but, I have really a different mindset since having #3...I just suddenly realized mamas were coming to me for advice and such...and I remember being that first time mama and seeking the same from mamas with 3...and I still love those mamas so dearly...so I am just so excited to be that mama!

 

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Hi ladies.. I haven't been on here forever!
 

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My baby girl will be 3 months next week too:)  Time is just flying by.  It's funny, my second (also an Oliver) was a super happy and mellow baby.  It definitely pushed us in the right direction for another one:)  And our third, Harriet has been so sweet too, it's hard to say no to having another one!  Right now I really feel like we could handle a fourth (in a couple of years of course), and a few years ago I didn't know if we would ever have children at all:)

My husband works from home, and is able to help out so much during the day, I'm very lucky.  He usually wears Harriet in our wrap for a couple of hours in the afternoon, and gives me a chance to get stuff done, and play with the boys too.  I think if he were to change jobs, and I was suddenly home alone with three kids, I'd go into shock! 

Right now, the big debate in our house is whether to homeschool or not.  My oldest should be starting kindergarden in the fall, and I'm not sure what to do.  My hubby really wants to homeschool, and I'm worried that we might be taking on too much.  The break would be nice for him too, not to mention his almost 3 year old brother!  They play really great together, but when my oldest is at preschool, he really enjoys the quiet.  Any thoughts or ideas?  I know I should be researching and reading more about home schooling, but who has time right now.



We got my oldest into a charter school for kindergarten. I know my limitations, and I don't think I would be a good homeschooler (unschooler, maybe, because I wouldn't have to plan any lessons, LOL). Have you thought about charter? The one that he is going to is one of the best in my state :) Very hands on, and individualized learning. 

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Hi ladies.. I haven't been on here forever!
 



We got my oldest into a charter school for kindergarten. I know my limitations, and I don't think I would be a good homeschooler (unschooler, maybe, because I wouldn't have to plan any lessons, LOL). Have you thought about charter? The one that he is going to is one of the best in my state :) Very hands on, and individualized learning. 



YAY!!!! So good to see you back...we've been thinkiong about you!!!

 

post #10 of 60
Obviously we're nowhere close to schooling age, but we plan to go the unschooling route also. So cool that you're a grown-up unschooler, lilmomma! Such big choices these are, aren't they?

So...anyone thinking yet about more babies in the future? I am, I can't help it. I think about a month ago I finally got to where I could say that getting this wonderful boy out of that traumatic birthing experience was worth it, that even if I had to do that again to get another lovey baby, I would. I'm imagining my busy, happy, delightful life with 3-5 little ones. I've never really thought about wanting a large family since I was a little girl, but now, I'm in. I think it would make me oh so happy. I'm imagining Winter growing up into a big brother, a calm, quiet, wild guiding boy. So I talked with DH today about our family, and he's in too!

Also, we're a family now. Wow. Thats seriously amazing. I finally feel like I belong somewhere, with these people, and not like I'm just a floating 20-something. What a good, warm feeling.
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So...anyone thinking yet about more babies in the future? 

 

Ah, yep.  Never even wanted one, now I want ... well, not many, but definitely more than one!  I don't even know who I am anymore.  geez.

post #12 of 60
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Good to see you SierraBella, we were starting to worry!  ;)  We have started to all connect on fb too - if that's your thing.  See last general thread for the group details and some of our "real" names.

 

Azadeh - this is the soonest I've been thinking about the next baby.  It usually takes me about a year (and until I'm fertile again) to be clear about the idea :)  Not that we would want the next spaced any closer than we have been letting nature decide with the previous children (just under 2 yrs apart)...but we aren't so resistant to the idea like we typically are these early months with a new babe.  I too am more firmly planted in motherhood and content in my obvious role in life finally.

 

Cwill - interesting how thing change, huh?  And amazing how these little beings influence so much! 

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I'm pretty sure I am done with birthing babies.  I always planned on 2 and I am okay with 3 but 4 is, well, too many for me.  (And with my luck I'd have triplets or something).  I love being a mom but I my career outside the home is really important to me as well (plus I make a lot more money than my dh).  I am glad to be back at work though I am also completely exhausted.

 

Our older daughter is 2.5 and I am not planning on homeschooling.  In fact I would love to support our public schools but they are so atrocious here in the city that I don't think I will be able to do that.  Maybe we will move before she is in kindergarten to an acceptable school system because private school is so expensive.

 

I am so tired today.  I got home from work last night at 12:30a and nursed the babies, Max woke up at 5a (which was a great stretch for him) and then slept til 8a - Audrey slept even later (a full 8 hours straight!).  Of course my older daughter woke me up a 7a (boo) but dh was nice enough to get up with her so I got up with max at 8.  Luckily I am off today.  Right now dh is putting all 3 kids to bed while I wash the dishes (I did them really fast so I could relax a little, wish there was a glass of wine).  It is really funny that neither of my babies nurse to sleep.  I think I will go to bed really early - maybe 9 though dh wants to watch a movie...

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Ashley I feel the same way! I wasn't too sure about having a 3rd and Naomi was a "bonus baby" lol but now that I have her both DH and I feel like we could totally have more kids - and we WANT more kids!

 

How do you all respond when people ask if you are planning more? I can't stand that question. I think it's worse also because I'm one of 8 and DH is one of 5 so people always say, "so you going to be like your parents and have a ton of kids?" The truth is that I have no idea how many kids we will have..I'm takign it a day at a time. Sometimes we'll say, "we are leaving it in God's hands" but, to most people I think that says, "we are going to have tons and tons of kids" I just think that is such a personal thing, it really offends me when people ask...and not a lot offends me...that's just one questions I really have a hard time laughing off!

 

DSB Naomi doesn't nurse to sleep often either...she does if I lay down with her, but, otherwise not.

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I hate that question, too. It's so hard to say no, we're not having another one. Like, I almost cry.

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How do you all respond when people ask if you are planning more? I can't stand that question. I think it's worse also because I'm one of 8 and DH is one of 5 so people always say, "so you going to be like your parents and have a ton of kids?" The truth is that I have no idea how many kids we will have..I'm takign it a day at a time. Sometimes we'll say, "we are leaving it in God's hands" but, to most people I think that says, "we are going to have tons and tons of kids" I just think that is such a personal thing, it really offends me when people ask...and not a lot offends me...that's just one questions I really have a hard time laughing off!

 

DSB Naomi doesn't nurse to sleep often either...she does if I lay down with her, but, otherwise not.


Well, I respond usually by saying "it's likely".  Part of me would love to leave it all in God's hands.  There is something really powerful about letting go of control in that department, but with that said, I don't know if my husband and I are quite there yet spiritually ;)  I figure though since I'm 30 years old and have been super fertile so far we are likely to have at least one more

(we are not keen on anything permanent or hormonal); we plan on using the NFP if we do want to prevent a pg (or space them just a little further apart).  I just have a hard time resisting any more of these beautiful creations (and not enjoying sex the way nature intended - who wants to abstain/use a condom when you're ovulating LOL)!  I don't know...it's not like every aspect of pg, birth, raising children has been a walk in the park, but I don't want to regret anything either from basing our decisions on what seems more "appropriate" in our society.

 

Oliver falls asleep often while nursing, but doesn't have to nurse in order to fall asleep like my first two.

 

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There's a teacher's strike here, so the big kids are home Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. DH is taking DD out to see Secret World of Arrietty tonight. DS is invited too, so he may decide he's going last minute but as of now he isn't interested.

 

I think Stephanie has a word for her dad... sometimes when I can't get her to settle and she won't nurse, she says "Yaaa yaaa yaaa!!" and today she stopped it when he came near for a minute, and started yelling it again when he walked off. She's asleep on his chest now :)

 

 

 

post #18 of 60

Tenley is only our first, but yes, definitely more. At least one, maybe two. DH is only this week though saying that he's open to a second. Those first month and a half were so rough that he was saying absolutely no more, because he didn't think we could go through it again. Now that Ten seems to be calming down though, it's easier to see doing it again in the future. 

 

I want DD potty trained before the next one comes. DH says that he needs to get on with his preferred career before the next one. That works for me, because I think he'll get the job before DD potty trains. 

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We homeschool and are pretty committed to keeping our kiddos home for several reasons. Some days are better than others. ;) I love the bonds our children have and consider every day together a learning experience. 

 

And, yes, we have talked several times about more children. I was in freak out mode about a month ago about what we need to think about for birth control. My hubby looked at me and said, "10 years from now, we'll have 5 more kids and we'll look back and laugh about this conversation." I have been getting rid of maternity clothes and newborn stuff over the past two months. I guess I'll be shopping when we are expecting again, some day. We just do not feel like we should mess with our bodies and God's plan for us biologically. Each child is certainly a blessing.

 

Our little Eli will be three months tomorrow and he is still just a total doll baby. Nurses and sleeps often, probably 18 hours out of 24, at least. He is more awake in the morning, but is fairly content to sit in the bouncer while we work on school. He is napping now and will go back down in the swing by 9pm tonight. He wakes around 1am and then again around 4am to nurse. I love him! And he is HUGE! Photo to come soon.

 

Fun to check in here and catch up. Maybe some of us will be in the same DDC in another year or two. :)

I still cannot believe I have 5 kids and that my hubby will be ready for another before I know it! 

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Hi ladies! I've been gone :forever:... DH was suddenly called away on a work project of undetermined length, so Norah and I packed up and went with him. It ended up being a month, so I'm glad I didn't stay home! Anyway, I was computerless for a month. It's wonderful to be back home... but yikes, I have soooo much to catch up on! I worked on house stuff all day yesterday (and was completely exhausted by 6 pm!) and felt like I was going in circles. It didn't help that Norah sees home as yet another unfamiliar place and needed to be held and cuddled a lot (and barely napped). I got a good night's sleep last night, though, so hopefully today goes better.

 

I'll be back soon, but I wanted to jump in and say hi. I've missed you all!

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