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post #41 of 112
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I've had a few bouts of nausea here and there, but only very rarely. When it comes, it comes on with a vengeance, though. I've had to leave stores and restaurants a few times because the smells were so disgusting all of a sudden and I just knew I was going to hurl right then and there. Luckily everything's stayed down, though. So sorry to hear that you're still feeling it. Are you still getting sick or just feeling gross in the mornings?

post #42 of 112

Still getting sick some days, feeling gross every day. 

I do get it later in the day if I'm around strong smells, the deli when they are frying chicken makes me want to puke (mostly because I've worked in two delis that served chicken, I am just plain sick of that smell) 

 

We have a Ball coming up on St Patricks Day that we've decided not to go to. My gown still fits from the Ball in November (yay for empire waist), but between my SPD, still getting sick and super easy headaches, we don't think it would be best. I mean, I can't dance (swaying of the hips would hurt quickly), during the pre-dinner "festivities" there is a lot of stand up, sit down, stand up, sit down, stand up, sit down... that would get old fast. Plus being around ladies in ball gowns (aka doused in perfume) and men in their dress uniforms (doused in cologne, strong male deodorant, aftershave) plus that a large portion smoke so I would get the cigarette smoke smell off of them as well... it's just not worth the risk of wasting the $100 our tickets cost.

Next year, though. Hubby wants me to go to his March Ball more than his November one, as in November it's about the entire Marine Corps.... in March it is specifically about his job, the vehicles he works on.

post #43 of 112
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Is the USDA loan the one for buying in "rural" areas?


Yes a "rural development loan". Our area qualifies, but its hard to see it as rural.lol

Would have loved to have a down payment but no way we could have saved, and we were done renting.

post #44 of 112
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Yes a "rural development loan". Our area qualifies, but its hard to see it as rural.lol

Would have loved to have a down payment but no way we could have saved, and we were done renting.


That is so great for you! Where we were living before (small-town MS), I think we could have gotten one of those loans (plus,  of course, houses are cheap!), but we're obviously not eligible here in Portland. (Still much better to be living here, though winky.gif). I don't think we're eligible for any of the other standard no-down-payment mortgages (which are mostly for low-income families, it seems). I'm thinking about maybe just going to talk to a mortgage broker or a loan officer or something to see what our situation actually looks like... We both have PhDs and somehow this whole process seems insanely confusing and complicated--again, it baffles me that almost everyone else somehow manages to do it!

 

 

 

post #45 of 112

XanaduMama - I understand completely.  It's hard these days to know what your options are with mortgage loans.  Any chance you'd be a first time homebuyer?  There are several programs that can help in that case (although I don't know about Portland specifically).  Best of luck!

 

Mae- I hope you feel better soon.  greensad.gif  You really haven't gotten a break from the crappy stuff this time around.  Hugs!

 

lbkw- those dolls are really cool!  What a neat idea.  

 

Baby has been kicking me steadily for the past 20 minutes.  I can definitely tell he/she is getting stronger.  Those bladder kicks are brutal!

 

I'm starting to think about who all I want to be there at the birth (homebirth).  So far on the list, I have my hubby of course, a good friend of mine who had a natural waterbirth herself, and my midwife and her trainee. As for family and other friends, I just don't know yet.  I feel conflicted at times.  Hrrrm.

post #46 of 112
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Mae- I hope you feel better soon.  greensad.gif  You really haven't gotten a break from the crappy stuff this time around.  Hugs!

 

 

 

Sadly, that's nothing new. Actually, I'm a lot healthier this pregnancy than I was with either of my girls. I'm positive I'm having a girl but cant help but wonder if Ro's a boy because I still have morning sickness (got it the entire pregnancy with my son) and have only had one slight UTI... no other infections. With my girls, my immune system dies out and I'm constantly one huge walking infection... but I haven't had to take a single dose of antibiotics, just my cranberry pills. So odd!

No one can remember if I had more headaches than normal with any of my other pregnancies... I know I didn't with Mae, but the other two were 10 and 7 years ago! I can remember still getting morning sickness the morning I headed into the hospital to be induced with my son... I can remember I had a few weeks of sporadic morning sickness with my daughter that was more like a gamble of "will I wake up feeling hungover or will I wake up feeling fine" and then with Mae it was 8-15 weeks. I remember not having SPD with my first, having it towards the end with my second, half the pregnancy with my third and got it halfway through the first freaking trimester this time lol... only confirms that I need to stop having babies after this one!

 

As for who will be at my birth, my neighbor is a very very good friend of mine and will be watching the kids for me... but at her house. We'll have her bring them over to meet Ro after the birth. Otherwise, me... hubby... midwife and either one of her trainee/apprentices or her doulas (I've met all but one so far this pregnancy)

 

I'm so excited over the whole keeping baby's sex a secret, our neighbors just had a little boy on leap day and have a huuuuge blue bow on their mailbox... I plan to buy a huge blue one and a huge pink one and have the neighbor watching my kids run out with it when she brings the kids over... so all the other neighbors know.

post #47 of 112
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We're not allowing anyone at the birth. DP's sister wanted to be there, but I said no right away. It's just going to be me, DP, our midwife, doula and our cats. I feel like this is such a private thing and I already know that DP and I will both be overwhelmed with emotion when the baby actually gets here. I want us to have our own private new family time before anyone else is there. I don't want to have to feel like I can't exclusively use those first few hours as baby bonding time just because there are other people there who are excited to see the new baby. 

 

That being said, depending on what time the baby comes, we'll clean up and then have a few family members over much later that day or the next day to meet the little one. I've already said that anyone who is coming from out of town has to stay in a hotel or with friends. I don't want to have to deal with house guests while I'm just getting used to having a baby and everything that goes with that. 

 

DP is such a pushover, usually he'll say yes to people just to not hurt their feelings or whatever. I'm really happy that he's fully with me on this and has also said no to people coming over during the birth. Though, I have a feeling his sister that lives in town is going to show up at our door if she finds out I'm in labor. She's not even getting in the front door if that happens, though.

 

I so envy those of you that live in houses! DP and I want one so badly. We live in Vancouver, BC, which was just named the most expensive city in the world to live in. Yay, us. We could never even afford to rent a house in this city. As it is, we live on the east side of town, which I love and it's the least expensive neighborhood in Vancouver proper. We're in a small apartment building that has parking and a shared backyard. Both things that are really difficult to find. It's the closest we're getting to having a house for a while, I'm afraid. I'd use the  yard more if the neighbors were better about picking up their dog poop. So aggravating. We really want to move to Ontario to be closer to DP's family, but that's a long way away. They all live in a small town, which I love, but there aren't any jobs there for DP and since I'm going to stay home for a while, we really can't afford for him to not be working. He's 37 now so it's not really all that easy to break into a new career or do construction or something. I really dislike Toronto, but I'm thinking we might have to just move there since DP (or I) could still work there and then it's just a 3 hour drive to see his family instead of a 5 hour plane ride + a 3 hour drive. Things are so much less expensive out there, we could definitely afford a house then.

post #48 of 112

My in-laws will come down and may stay in our house after the birth. Their plans (just like last time) are to head out the moment they get word that I'm in labor, since it takes them 17 hours driving to get here, and they usually split that between two days.

 

I don't mind them staying in our house though... I adore my in-laws, my father-in-law keeps the big kids occupied and my mother-in-law does cooking and cleaning for me for the week I'm here all while saying "no no, you rest" and every now and then "baby's awake but you really need a nap, we'll take baby out to the livingroom for some snuggle time, you sleep. We'll wake you up when baby is hungry again. I get so spoiled by them. I'm just so lucky that my awesome husband has awesome parents (and his mom is soooo totally a hippie. which I love. Not the druggie kind but the crunchy kind)

 

Anyone else? NO. There's a very nice hotel 15 minutes away. Stay there.

post #49 of 112

Wow...most expensive in the world! We live in an expensive area of NY (but not New York City). We are fortunate to own our townhouse, but most of our friends and family own larger, single-family, detached homes. DS has been asking for a home with his own backyard for a long time! Right now DS and DD share a decent size bedroom. We are planning to have an au pair (which is exciting and nerver wracking at the same time) who will live in our 3rd bedroom which is kind of a strange size and shape and not near the other rooms (not great for a little kid). We only kept DD in our room for 3.5 months but I'm hoping LO will stay longer so we don't have to have 3 in the room for quite so long. I use a bassinet (that I LOVED) so it will depend when baby starts rolling over and pulling up. I am not a co-sleeping person. I am lucky DH sleeps in the bed with me! When we had a dog, that was the first rule: no one else in the bed. When I would occasionally bring a LO in the bed for a short piece, no one got any sleep. The kids occasionally try to snuggle up with us for a little bit in the early morning but it only lasts a minute. And I don't care about all of the praise people lavish on side lying nursing. I've tried it (multiple times) and it is not comfortable for me. (I think it has something to do with having small-ish babies and ginormous breasts. I know plenty of people who do it, but I've felt like the latch is not so good for the new baby. I can totally see how it would work for an older child, but I hope not to have as much night nursing by that point.

post #50 of 112
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We live in Vancouver, BC, which was just named the most expensive city in the world to live in.


I know, Vancouver is crazy (but such an amazing city!). We feel lucky here in Portland to be in a sort of oasis of affordability on the West Coast--while it's pricey compared to some places in the South, where we were before, it's soooo much more affordable than LA, SF, Seattle or YVR. We could afford a mortgage payment on a decent house; just that pesky down payment standing in the way! And yes, we'd be first-time homebuyers, but I haven't found any no-down payment options even for first-timers (who aren't also low-income or buying a house in a rural or low-income/HUD area): a lot of these programs went away with the housing crisis, unfortunately for us. Sigh.

 

post #51 of 112
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Oh man--that sounds so amazing (@MaerynPearl)!! I share sjdragonfly's envy of all of y'all: suddenly feeling the house-buying urge so strongly right now (nesting?). A friend of mine who lives in our neighborhood just announced that they're moving to MA, so now I'm obsessed with wanting their house, even though it's way out of our price range (not to mention the fact that we have no down payment at all) greensad.gif We make decent money between the two of us, but we have a ton of debt and one kid in preschool, so there's no way we're saving up $30,000 any time soon (who can? It baffles me how people buy houses these days--does everyone inherit money or what??). So frustrating. I mean, we rent a nice house with a yard in the same neighborhood, so it's not that bad; I just feel like I'm ready to be in my own place after all these years. And more space wouldn't be bad, with #3 on the way.
Sorry. Whine over.


I don't know that we would be able to do it now.  DH and I started saving before we got married and then for the first year of our marriage.  We bought our house just after DS was born.  If we had to do it now, we'd probably try and save all of our tax returns for a few years.  Otherwise there is no way we'd collect that kind of money.  There are people in the general area around here paying more to rent than what we pay for our mortgage.  Obviously there are a few more costs involved when you own, but it would sure suck to pay, basically a mortgage payment, to rent.  When we were saving up, we both worked and our rent was $500/month.  So it was somewhat easy to save. 

 

post #52 of 112
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I just want to rant for a minute. I am getting so unbelievably tired of people asking me with their voice dripping with concern "How are you feeling?" or "Are you tired?". Holy cow, people. I'm pregnant, I don't have cancer or something. I don't know what people expect me to say, really. It's like they want to know that I'm suffering as I'm pregnant or something. I feel great, I have tons of energy and I'm usually only tired at times when anyone would normally be tired. First trimester, now that was tired. All the freaking time. I think partially people are fishing for some way to engage about the pregnancy, but sheesh, come up with something original why don't you. 

 

When I first got pregnant, I made a conscious choice to try and be as positive as possible throughout my pregnancy. This forum is really the only place I ever complain about something bothering me if it ever is just so I have a place to vent, I guess. But, really, I've tried to focus on only the great things that are happening. My back kills me after a full day of sitting in my office chair at work and stops me from doing certain things when I get home because it's uncomfortable to sit at my computer or sewing machine, but that's okay because sometimes I can feel the baby partying in there. And that's okay because then I can take some quiet time and read or sit and watch a movie with DP or make something more interesting for dinner. You know what I mean? 

 

At least I haven't had anymore people trying to touch my belly lately. 

post #53 of 112

Rant well taken...I get the "how are you feeling?" all the time at work. And I kind of don't like when people ask if I feel movement. I guess it's just a way of engaging, but I don't really know what kind of response to give. Just saying yes, seems like not enough. I work with mostly men. Most of them have their own kids but the one who asks me the most stuff has adopted (according to rumors) so I feel like he is not coming from a place of "experience". One of the wives is due next month and the guy and I have shared conversations about bringing a new baby home to older kids, so that's fine. I'm happy to talk about my kids and what we're doing, but other stuff feels like an invasion of privacy.

 

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I just want to rant for a minute. I am getting so unbelievably tired of people asking me with their voice dripping with concern "How are you feeling?" or "Are you tired?". Holy cow, people. I'm pregnant, I don't have cancer or something. I don't know what people expect me to say, really. It's like they want to know that I'm suffering as I'm pregnant or something. I feel great, I have tons of energy and I'm usually only tired at times when anyone would normally be tired. First trimester, now that was tired. All the freaking time. I think partially people are fishing for some way to engage about the pregnancy, but sheesh, come up with something original why don't you. 

 

When I first got pregnant, I made a conscious choice to try and be as positive as possible throughout my pregnancy. This forum is really the only place I ever complain about something bothering me if it ever is just so I have a place to vent, I guess. But, really, I've tried to focus on only the great things that are happening. My back kills me after a full day of sitting in my office chair at work and stops me from doing certain things when I get home because it's uncomfortable to sit at my computer or sewing machine, but that's okay because sometimes I can feel the baby partying in there. And that's okay because then I can take some quiet time and read or sit and watch a movie with DP or make something more interesting for dinner. You know what I mean? 

 

At least I haven't had anymore people trying to touch my belly lately. 



 

post #54 of 112
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I work with mostly men, too. The women that are here pretty much avoid any topic related to my pregnancy at all. Maybe the guys are just fascinated with the mystique of pregnancy or something? Who knows. I am starting to get asked about the movement, too. I usually just say yes and make some comment about having a little partier in there and leave it at that. Though that question makes me think that people are going to start trying to randomly pat my belly, which I am not down with. 

 

Weirdly, DP's sister, who just had a baby last spring, is all over my case about being tired and feeling good, too. I can only guess that maybe she felt tired and like crap when she was pregnant and that's why she asks? We saw her for just a few hours last weekend and I swear she asked me if I was feeling tired lately about 10 times. I just wanted to scream at her that no, I'm not tired and my answer isn't going to change from the time you asked me 15 minutes ago! She's not exactly the healthiest person in the world, though she likes to believe she is, so I think that has something to do with how she was feeling while pregnant. Who knows.

post #55 of 112

I feel pretty much 100% normal myself, and I feel like people don't believe me or something when I tell them that, or that the answer is not detailed enough. It's just that I can't really point to any major symptom that I am having. I guess I'm more tired, but not debilitatingly so.

 

I do always make sure to mention that I have been lucky when asked if I am feeling sick. I really wasn't sick at all, and I know a lot of women have a terrible time with that, so I would hate to sound like I'm insensitive to that.

post #56 of 112

I haven't been keeping up my posting lately - sorry to have abandoned the DDC!  :)  I'm up-to-date now on how everyone is doing.

 

I sometimes don't really know how to respond when people ask how I'm feeling!  Sometimes it takes me a minute to realize they're asking about being pregnant!  I do have more going on that in my life, so it's not always the first thing on my mind!  For the most part, I feel completely normal!  I get sore hips a lot & really like to sit down a lot these days, but that's about it.  I only work part-time, so I don't have to deal with these questions so much. 

 

We're having a hospital birth, so it will be me, DP, midwife, nurses at the birth.  No visitors during labor/delivery (my choice).  I agree 100% about the first few hours being baby-bonding time, adjusting time, etc.  I am trying to figure out how to work out someone to watch/care for DS at our house.  We don't have any family in the same city as us & we only know a couple people here (just moved here 7 months ago).  I think I want my parents to come, but they'd have to drive & be "on-call"  & then they'd be staying in our house while we're at the hospital. So, we'd be coming home to house guests.  My parents are great & would totally stay out of the way, but I have this vision of just our little family being together, but not sure how to make that happen. 

 

We still rent - I would love to have our own house, but it hasn't happened yet.  It's probably a good thing we didn't buy a house, though, b/c we keep moving cities (mostly going back to school-related).  We're renting here b/c we only plan to be here as long as DP is in school.  I do want something that is ours though. 

post #57 of 112

Hi, Mamas, I hope everyone is feeling fine!  I just wanted to share this here:

 

Okay, so I have been a bit worried about my younger DS, who is nearly 3, and the new baby.  Remember, I already had an issue with him jumping on my belly, and he is so big and tough that I have really spent some time worrying about keeping the new little one safe from him.  So, when I was cleaning my sewing room I found this porcelain baby doll that I have had since I was a girl and I was just about to put it in the give away pile when I decided it might be perfect for "playing" with DS.  I introduced it, told him we will have to be careful with Dylan and told him we could pretend this baby doll is Dylan until he gets here.  We practiced holding it and he learned that he can't pick him up, my 10 yo even got into it and asked to hold it and then made it "spit up" on his brother, lol.  So I wrapped him in a blanket and when we were done playing with him, I put him on the changing pad mattress thingy and set him on the floor in my room under the window.  Then I didn't move him and sorta forgot about it being there.  So DS comes in my room with a marble he found and he starts rolling it on the windowsill and it rolls to the other side.  He goes to get it, looks down, realizes the baby is there and steps back and asks me to get the marble.  So, I think the breakable baby doll was a good idea and is working!  And then, I have been cleaning out the 3 yo's closet which will be both younger boys' storage space and I pulled out the pack and play.  The cover was all dusty so I washed it and while it was washing went to set it up in my room. I didn't even remember that that Pack and Play has a bassinet attachment; I don't think we ever used it with DS.  So I set it up and put "baby" in there.  And then I worked more on clearing that closet.  In pulling stuff out, a pacifier must have dropped out of somewhere, because DS later found one in his room.  He came to me saying, "this is for the baby."  I told him yes it was, but I was cooking and didn't take it from him or direct him to put it anywhere.  So I just walked in my room and found the pacifier set on top of the porcelain baby's face.  lol

post #58 of 112

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I just want to rant for a minute. I am getting so unbelievably tired of people asking me with their voice dripping with concern "How are you feeling?" or "Are you tired?". Holy cow, people. I'm pregnant, I don't have cancer or something. I don't know what people expect me to say, really. It's like they want to know that I'm suffering as I'm pregnant or something. I feel great, I have tons of energy and I'm usually only tired at times when anyone would normally be tired. First trimester, now that was tired. All the freaking time. I think partially people are fishing for some way to engage about the pregnancy, but sheesh, come up with something original why don't you. 



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Hey all, I haven't posted much here in a while... It's fun to read how everyone is doing now.  I am sooo tired of feeling tired all the time, I miss having energy to do things.  I am so jealous of those of you who are feeling "normal", I wish I could remember what that feels like.  Of course some of my whining comes from this cold, which is kicking my butt.  

post #59 of 112

Happy Pi Day ladies! I'm making pi shaped cookies to celebrate tonight :D

 

Went to see the Silent Drill Platoon on base today, amazing performance (I've only ever seen videos, it's even more amazing in person) 

 

Snapped this super cute photo of daddy and our girly on the way out:

 

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And now? I'm sore. And dehydrated ... or was. I've drank two entire bottles of water since I got home, about to get a third, I'm pretty sure I've taken care of the dehydration. But I was getting contractions when all was said and done. Should have taken water and a chair with me... was a lot of walking and standing in 80 degrees with a cloudless sky.

post #60 of 112

What an adorable photo!!

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