Edited by JenRave - 5/21/12 at 9:37am
I completely understand your feeling of not wanting to test in case of a BFN.. however I somehow get around that by saying I would rather have the feeling of certainty than that of doubt... Either way (BFN OR BFP) you can start making plans to move forward however you choose to do so :)
But having said that my mother was 41 when she conceived me. She wasn't actively trying or preventing.. Just waiting for either a baby, AF or menopause (she was fairly early at starting).. And she got me.. No problems attached to pregnancy or birth! A few more tests for "just in case".. But no problems..
If it were me I would test as soon as I knew the test results would be most reliable...... But its tricky and I understand your nervousness..
Hugs Mumma with whatever you decide
I agree ^^
As far as testing goes, I planned on testing early this cycle, but I think I'm going to wait it out cause I don't want to see a BFN and i'll need those tests for when I really may be.
Good luck to you and I hope you get your answer soon.
Jen, please don't worry-- or "borrow trouble," as they say! Yes, the chances of Downs and other things go up, but not to 75%, 50%, 20% or even 10%. More like 1-2%. That's a 98%+ chance of everything being fine. In fact, there's not a single woman in my family or DH's that had a baby over 40 and had any issues whatsoever. My mom (40), his mom (43), an aunt (41), cousins at 43 and 44... All the kids are fantastic.