I don't want people coming to visit and see the baby after he is born.
My husband and I both have family nearby. We are not super close with my family, but DH and his parents are very close. DH gets lunch with his dad several days a week and talks to him on the phone almost daily. DH also has his brother and sister, aunts and uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, etc...Basically DH has about 30 family members that live within 20-30 minutes of us.
So, when our last baby was born, we had TONS of visitors right after he was born (at 3am! People came to visit at 3am!!), lots of people dropping by to visit in the first few days after his birth, and while they did bring food and gifts, I felt completely crowded and just wanted them to go away so I could bond quietly with my new baby.
This time, I am already starting to get worried about having people around the baby. We are going to have to tell DH's parents when I am in labor because they are going to take care of our 4 year old during the labor and birth. So, when one family member knows I am in labor, it will be about 45 seconds before the entire family knows and is deciding how to carpool to my house.
Anyway, DH doesn't seem to have a problem with having family and friends over in the first week to see the baby. I have a HUGE problem with this! I would be delighted to have no visitors the first 3 weeks or so. He said "How am I going to tell my friend Mike that he can't come see the new baby right after he is born?". I don't want my own mother around much less your high school friend Mike, honey. ACK!
I know DH's parents are going to have to see the baby shortly after he is born because they will be dropping our other son back off at home, but aside from a quick meet and greet at that time, I don't want anyone to come over. I just want to hide out at home and focus my energy on my new little one.
Am I being completely ridiculous? Please just tell me honestly if I am being a crazy hormonal mess about this, but I seriously don't want visitors at all for a while.
Also, what is your plan for introducing the new baby to everyone? Have everyone over at once? Have a constant stream of visitors come one at a time? How long will you wait before letting other people come over and see the baby?