Re-intro. Hi! My name is Carey. A few weeks ago, I realized I have spent most of the time since my son was born not hanging out with people, and I am lonely, especially being winter and all. I've made a lot of effort, both in real life person contacts and online to get more community in my life. I spent time online while my son is nursing, and somehow found myself at a due date club forum on some random baby site. While it was great reading experiences of other people who had babies about the same age as mine, there was a whole lot of talk about crying it out and other things that appalled me. Then I remembered mothering had a forum with due date clubs, and now I'm here. By all rights, I should be in the Oct. DDC, but my son wasn't born til mid-November.
I've enjoyed reading posts from everyone, and I just finished reading the birth stories thread, which was absolutely fabulous! There was such a variety of experience! I wish I had joined up when I was pregnant, because you all have such a fine community here. Thank you for taking me in and letting me ask lots of dumb questions. :D
I'm 38. I was married a long time and unable to conceive, and so adopted a daughter, who is now 11. I'm now remarried with a surprise baby boy, who is now 3.5 months old, and got his first tooth today! I was formerly a graphic designer, until staying at home took me out of the professional job market. I now work at the farmers market, in season, and I love it. I was also a writer and was wandering into "making it" land when I had a major life transition (moving and pregnancy) and no longer had the time nor the head space to write. We unschool. I like to garden, knit, sew, organize things, hang out, cook, and so on.
My partner is one of the best--super supportive. I feel like I have a second (non-lactating) mom raising our son. He is slinging the baby to sleep right now. DH is a microtonal composer, and made an album last month. For a guy who never wanted kids, he is a terrific dad and a great husband.
I'd love to share my birth story, if I ever get time to write it. The short version is that I escaped an induction at 42 weeks at the hospital and had a lovely empowering home water birth a few days later. One of the best miracles in my life, I think.
As if this isn't long enough...
Can I get some advice on a woombie? My son sleeps so well in the sling, and I think it's because he's all wombed up. But there are several to choose from, and I just have no idea. My son is long, and around 13 pounds,, if that is a consideration.
On the napping thread, my son has a really variable sleep schedge. He'll usually go down hard in early evening, in the sling. He sleeps anywhere from 2 to 7 hours. Then he'll be up every 1-3 hours for more food. At some point when it's early morning (4-6 a.m.), he wakes up, kicking and smiling his head off. Then he'll nap for a while, wake for a while, and keep doing that til around noon. If we're lucky, he'll take an afternoon nap, but if not, he's usually down for the night around 5 p.m. But then there are some days, when he's awake from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and kinda cranky. Fortunately, he usually naps while nursing, so even if he doesn't get a real nap, he'll get some recharging that way.
My daughter hated sleep as a baby, and it was so rough. At first, she slept wonderfully 16 hours a day. Like clockwork, up for two hours, then down for 1-3, until bedtime. Then, she made the discovery that if she screamed, she could keep herself awake indefinitely, and went to sleeping about 8 hours a day. Ugh, that was a really hard time in my life where I feel like most of my regrettable bad mommy time resides. Anyway, slinging her helped. It seemed like the more I focused on her GETTING TO SLEEP DAMMIT!, the less likely she was able to sleep. I mean, I understand, if someone was staring at me wanting me to sleep, and I was having a hard time of it, that wouldn't make it any easier.
My son wakes up if my stomach growls. Seriously. I feel I'm a lot more patient with him, though, and I have this great partner who, when Luca gets grumpy, takes him from my arms, smiles, and tells me to go take a hot shower. Love this guy!
Have you guys seen/heard the Go The Fuck To Sleep book? There's a youtube version with Samuel L. Jackson reading it. Hilarious, and so appropriate given the discussion (and my sense of humor).