I'm not complaining about this or asking for advice on how to "break my baby" from this behavior. I love being close to him and wear him in a sling, co-sleep, etc. But even setting him down to go to the bathroom or change my clothes causes him to squirm and start to cry. He only wants me and won't even tolerate being held by DH for more than a few minutes (unless he's in a deep sleep).
Part of me loves this behavior and I would hold him every day, but realisticly I do have to do the dishes and shower once in awhile. I do wear him in a sleepy wrap when I'm up and about, but there's really only so much you can do with him in the wrap. I feel like I'm pregnant again and can't bend down. Plus he is nursing constantly and it's a chore pulling him out of the wrap and adjusting to nurse him.
For some background, DS was born about 5 weeks early and was in the NICU for 25 days. He's two months old now (3 weeks adjusted). He came home getting ebm from a bottle and after two weeks of persistence he is now exclusively breastfed (yay!). I think that might be why he's still nursing so frequently -- because it's still hard for him to get a lot of milk at a time. Or maybe he's just eating like a 3 week old baby, even though he's actually two months old?? He's gained 3.5 lbs in a month of being home, so whatever we are doing is working.
One little trick I discovered today was to put him down wrapped in the shirt I was wearing. I think the warmth and my scent helped. But once he woke up and realized he'd been "tricked," he starting huffing and puffing and crying until I picked him up. He nursed for 5 minutes and then went to sleep in my arms.
Anyway, the last two months have been a really hard introduction to parenting (this is our first), but we've powered through it. We've moved recently and really don't have any help and both of us are getting worn down. Any advice would be really appreciated. I don't want him to feel abandoned and we never let him cry for more than a few seconds. There has to be some gentle strategy to get him to be content for at least 30 minutes so I can cook dinner!