My son just turned 16 last month. He is adopted, and his biological mom modeled very unhealthy relationships for 14 years of his life. As it is, he tends to not be faithful in the very brief relationships that he does have. He also has no issues in engaging in sexual activity just to do it. His dad and I are not that way, we have been together for 10 years, never cheated. I have only had two boyfriends ever and had sex with only one. My husband has had two girlfriends and sex with two. Our son, on the other hand, has already had sex with two different girls, and is now currently dating a girl, telling her that she is his only, but also hard core flirting and making advances on her enemy. He uses my computer from time to time and has left messages open where he talks to this enemy like she is his girlfriend, saying that they should "hook up" behind his girlfriend and her boyfriends backs.
I don't like this at all. I know that this is what he has seen and this is what he knows, but I hate it. I communicate often with him about healthy relationships and being loyal, and during the conversation it seems to help, but when confronted with it it seems to go the other way. I want him to be better than his biological mom, who lived with about 10 different guys during his 14 years with her, and cheated on them while she was with them.
At times I feel like he will get better, but then I realize that I only have two more years of actually having any control over the issue. Also, his friends are huge impacts on him, and he responds way too much to outside sources. Case in point - the movie Project X. We saw it last night and now he talks about how he no longer wants to be homeschooled because he doesn't have enough friends. Whereas two weeks ago he was singing the praises of his homeschooling (he also goes part time to public school) and how he doesn't need lots of friends, just high quality friends.