This is far from a done deal, particularly because I know so little (ok, nothing at all...) about living in the US. I think I'd love it, but I'm worried this could be a monumental mistake... Please let me know if the following sounds reasonable:
This would be a job transfer for DH, for a minimum of 2 years, but max 4 years. His current salary would stay the same (around $95,000 CA), and after taxes (he'd still be taxed here in Canada) we expect we'd have a take-home income of about $60,000US. Our living expenses would be covered, although only for the first year. I'm a SAHM right now, with plans to go back to work in 2 years, although I don't think I'd legally be allowed to work in the US. I'm ok with that.
Right now, we have a smallish house with 3 bedrooms and 2 baths, plus a nice rec room and family room. Large backyard, AWESOME neighbourhood, safe, walkable, GREAT school for DS1.
Oh, and 2 kiddos: 5 and 2.
Could a family of four live off that income and still live in a good neighbourhood? We'd be renting, probably a small apartment or condo (2 BDR is all we need). We also don't want a long commute (his office would literally be in front of the White House).
Schools are definitely going to be an issue, I know. DS1 is in a French school. I'd be willing to homeschool so that he keeps French as his main language (it's ours as well).
I think it could be exciting, but I worry that my expectations are unrealistic, and we'd be trading a pretty sweet life for a stressful and potentially disastrous adventure.
DH is super psyched at the chance to work in the US again. He's worked in Chicago and Boston before, loved it. I'm not sure he's given much thought to family life though. He's not very career-focused, but this does sound like a great opportunity for him. We're in the same field, and I'd jump at it if it were offered to me, but my mama instinct is putting family and quality of life first.
So we're crazy to even be thinking about doing this, right?