I don't think I am normally overly emotional, maybe quite the opposite. However, I cannot deal with goodbyes well at all. This did not use to be such a problem, but with a sensitive child who watches my every move, I would like to do better.
I do believe in showing my emotions rather freely, especially those of love. Yet, whenever I have to say goodbye to friends and loved ones who I may never see again or won't see until many years later, I cannot help crying... a lot. My reactions seem strong compared to those of others around me. I think this may have something to do with my losses in my early teens, where no one was there for me, helping me deal with the situations, so I grieved alone, feeling totally helpless. It is as if I learned to say goodbye "in a wrong way" while being a hormonal teenager, and now don't know how to reverse it.
An older gentleman once told me that his wife -while she loved me- never cried when we said goodbye, as she thought of my emotions so much more than her own, and did not want to make things worse for me. This makes sense to me, but I am nowhere near learning how to put someone else's emotions before my own in such a way that it would make it possible to control myself better. I just cannot help the tears and would prefer not needing to say goodbye, in person, ever.
What are your ways to cope, when something makes you (what feels like) overly emotional? Is this a matter or learning or maturing, or am I just doomed to be bad at this forever...
I would welcome any thoughts.