I have a 9 year old and I still don't have a will. I so need to do something. I don't know who they should go to and it becomes even more difficult now that we are about to have FOUR KIDS! who the heck wants four kids. Plus we will have no money to offer with the kids besides what social security will give. we think maybe Chris's dad and step mom, but you know they are getting older. then you have my 3 sisters. My oldest sister is awesome with them, but more in a spoiling them aunt sort of way and she has never wanted to have children but would take them. But her physical activity isn't great and there is this reward system and be good and eat all your food and some other image problems. My middle sister would take them but her boyfriend is really pretty sick right now, his heart and he can't do much. It would be hard for them to have 4 kids. She would really like her own kids but the dr's say his heart isn't strong enough to even make them right now. then my twin sister, who's about to have her first but she wants to go back to work after she has her baby and they just have a different standard of living that I am afraid adding 4 extra kids into the mix would ruin that. My mom is too sick and pretty needy overall, my dad is too religous, Chris's mom is sort of crazy, not overly fond of most of my kids (she likes the one that looks like Chris), i think her husband is a weird molester and there is NO WAY IN HELL my kids would even be allowed alone with them. I guess I should talk to my twin and my middle sister.
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February '09 Mamas ~ Childhood Chat :) - Page 6post #101 of 9463/21/12 at 5:23amSponsored Linkspost #102 of 9463/21/12 at 7:53am
Erin: I was thinking about the movie thing. Like I think most of us have seen most disney movies, etc. But I doubt she will. She has seen all the toy stories and cars and maybe a couple other movies. Mostly they are reserved for when she is sick and gets to watch a lot of tv. Also my husband has been known to put one on on his laptop while I nap or something on the weekend so he can nap next to her. But I always feel really guilty letting her watch that much tv in a row without good reason! Haha no reason to worry about your child being culturally deprived. :-)post #103 of 9463/21/12 at 9:58amThread Starter
R watches movies but I'm sort of picky about what he watches. He has seen quite a few though. They never bother him at all, it's me who gets upset lol. I guess it's more that some of them have some scary/depressing stuff going on and I don't really like him exposed to that. But it all seems to go right over his head. The little boys turning into donkeys in Pinnochio was horrible for me.. R didn't seem to care! I don't mind Winnie the Pooh and Mary Poppins. He has seen a number of Disney movies but I'm not sure about those.. Especially the older ones portray women as idiots or just have too big a focus on adult relationships (with the woman being submissive). I should delete them off the computer actually... I think it's safer to stick to shows. His absolute favourite show is Dinosaur Train.
Mal - Those siamese cats freaked me out too when I was little!!! *shiver* Although I always wanted to get the book on tape from the library.. I guess I had to conquer my fear :P
I'm glad to hear about your dads offer!
I just finished my last assignments for the year! Now I just have my exams to prepare for and then I'm DONE! And the closing date for my summer job is on Friday. Please keep your fingers crossed for me that I get an interview! (and an offer...)post #104 of 9463/21/12 at 1:59pm
Movies: F watches a fair amount of TV and movies. She likes shows better then movies usually such as Diego (her fave), Dora, Dinosaur Train, and Wonder Pets. We rent movies on the weekends and make popcorn which is fun. Most Disney stuff is too intense for her but she loves the various Pooh Bear movies from the classic which we own to some of the "newer" ones like Piglets Big Day. We have Bambi which DH was horrified since it "paints hunters as evil". I don't let her watch the "princess" movies though because I don't like them and they seem to have some scary element to all of them- evil step mother, witches, etc... Anyway we watch our share but are careful about what it is she watches.post #105 of 9463/21/12 at 3:06pm
So my friend tells me you can buy a kit online for wills and have it witnessed by 2 people and notarized. Doesn't sound too bad! My BIL and SIL are coming to visit us next months so I guess we should talk to them then about putting them down.
Everr: Yay for almost being done!! What will your summer job entail? Fingers crossed for you!
Cindypost #106 of 9463/21/12 at 4:15pm
That is interesting about the will kit. If you find a link let me know. I think we'll have a lawyer friend here do it for us though. We've decided to ask my sister even though money is sort of an issue. We figure we'll have some money and my parents will be able to help as well. They are just too old to be the guardians though.
Everr: Crossing fingers!!post #107 of 9463/21/12 at 4:35pmThread Starter
I bought a will kit a couple years ago and I'm pretty sure the templates for the will are on my mom's computer, once I find them I will share :)
The job is a student public health inspector position. It's a practicum I need to complete in order to become certified. I can do it next summer but I'd really like to do it this summer! Then I just have to complete my program and pass an oral exam and I will be a Certified Public Health Inspector :)post #108 of 9463/22/12 at 1:48pm
Court, I would take your kids. I've always told you that. I even want to make sure I have enough bedrooms when I buy a house for you all to come visit.
(You're done at 4 right? j/k)post #109 of 9463/23/12 at 4:41am
Everr- good luck!! I am crossing my fingers for you.
Movies- we didn't let Jewel watch princess movies at all or even introduce her to the disney princesses. then she went to school. it was over, her 2 best friends (twins) LOVED PRINCESSES), so Josie was exposed to it right off the bat as was Juniper. Now we don't do so many movies and more shows on netflix. I prefer showing Junie stuff like backyardigans, sesame street, yo gabba gabba, etc. She does sometimes watch things I don't like as much when her older sisters watch stuff, I have absolutely said no to certain things like 6teen and other horrible shows. (in 6teen, I heard them say something about someone being gay,and it wasn't about them actually being a homosexual which I would be fine with if it was dealt with respectfully, it was used as a slur. I was in that living room so quick!)post #110 of 9463/24/12 at 1:45pmTesting tapatalk....
I'm having an awful time getting internet time lately! Aubs is really extra demanding, and I'm trying to cut back on TV since it seems like she can never get enough. I can stand tantruming over TV shows. We like Caillou, Wonder Pets, Backyardigans (love the music), and Curious George. Similar objections to the princess movies, although I don't even know some of them--Tiana, Rapunzel.... I think the last "new" Disney movie I saw was Lion King when it came out. My mom has introduced Cinderella, which is really annoying, but at least we don't have it here. I think I'll download some Diego, because she seems to enjoy that when they have it on at "pre-school."
Speaking of entertainment, I got an app the other day called Pocket Phonics that's sort of neat. It has the kid sound out the letter and trace it with their finger. There's a free version to see if you like it, and then I think the full version is $1.99.
Re. wills, we have "mutual reciprocal" wills--basically they say the exact same thing, that the other spouse gets everything if one dies; if we die in a "common accident" then everything is split between our parents. Really simple. We need to update them to appoint guardians, but really the only people who would be capable of taking the girl(s) would be my parents, and I know they'd fight for it if they had to, so I'm not terribly worried about it (thankfully). We had them done via DH's work, for free--some employee assistance type programs offer them for low or no cost, if anyone has that option. We probably need to do something more elaborate, but bleh. It will get done eventually. We did them right after we got married b/c DH was going to training out of state, and we wanted to get medical directives in place JIC. Remember the whole Terry Shiavo thing, the woman in FL with the feeding tube? It was about that time and we were sort of disturbed.
Need to go back a page now and catch up!
ETA: (again) that even if you don't have a formal will, something in writing is better than nothing. Take it to a notary and have them notarize your signature; give a duplicate (not a photocopy) to someone you trust.
As for me, I'm starting to feel seriously pregnant and a bit uncomfortable--mostly just winded all of the time. 38+ weeks, but no real feeling like babe will come before 40. Although she's welcome any time now! Next midwife appt is Tuesday, so I might have her check me if she offers. Not that it means anything, but I can't help but be curious since I can't reach my cervix myself anymore. Trying not to think about the induction/RCS decisions I'll have to make if I go over 40. I'm sort of worried that having Aubs running around all the time is going to just delay labor indefinitely, b/c I'm not going to be able to relax enough with her doing her thing. Every time I lay down to take a nap or go to sleep, the BHx kick up strong enough to keep me awake, but of course nothing productive. Ho hum. So we wait.
Courtney, how are you feeling? Cindy?
Mal, if things don't work out with your donor and I have oversupply issues again, I could potentially help you out with milk after babe is born. Keep us posted on how that goes....
Edited by justKate - 3/24/12 at 5:10pmpost #111 of 9463/26/12 at 9:38am
Kate; Hoping you won't even have to think about what to do if you get to 40 weeks. I knew things felt way different on a Thursday when i was pregnant with Maeve. I was sure that labor would start that day and it did- but not until I got Fiona to sleep that night did things really get going. It was like my body could finally relax enough knowing I didn't have to take care of her too. Your labor will start but maybe not till Aubs is in dream land. Getting so excited for you!! Can't wait to see pictures!post #112 of 9463/26/12 at 9:44am
Kate: You are so close!! So is Courtney! I can't wait to see pics of the new babies!! I can't remember if you've mentioned this already, but any names yet?
Greta has a double ear infection right now and one of her ear drums burst from it. My poor girl. I feel bad because I suspect she had it for a few days before we realized it. She also popped her first tooth this week, so we just attributed her symptoms to that. I've never heard her scream the way she did when the doctor checked her ears. It just broke my heart. Owyn has never had an ear infection, so this is a first for us. Just hoping she isn't prone to them! I'm really shocked by her though. You'd think she'd be in some awful pain with as bad as her infection got, but she's just been a little fussier than normal. She's a generally very happy baby, so this little bit of extra fussing was unusual, but it still wasn't that bad.
We are counting down the days until our Easter break. I have an early out at work next Wednesday, then we're out until the next Wednesday. That'll be my last break from work until the end of the school year. 5 weeks after Easter break and I'll be done for the summer! I am so looking forward to it. I have to say, just looking forward to this summer off work is making me more excited about my job. I've gone back and forth all semester on whether or not I want to come back next year. Right now, I'm leaning towards staying with it. The breaks, the time off, the part time schedule... all for very decent pay considering what I do. It's hard to leave something that gives me this much time with my girls. Plus, we've recently had a lot of visitors considering schools for next year. I've gotten a lot of great feedback from families. People are coming to my classroom telling me they've heard such great things about me and really want their kids in my class. That's pretty rewarding right there and makes me feel like people are depending on me.
So, while wondering around Walgreens waiting on Greta's prescription, I found her an adorable Easter basket. I also found some super cheap Easter candy for Owyn's basket. So, I got that totally done! One less thing to worry about getting! Owyn's friend gave her a Pez dispenser the other day and she is obsessed with it. I found an Easter Pez dispenser with some refills to stick in her basket. She'll be so excited about that! This weekend, I'm taking Owyn clothes shopping. It'll be the first day Greta has stayed at home with DH all day. Owyn seems to be looking forward to a day with just Mommy though.post #113 of 9463/26/12 at 11:08am
I just put some pictures of my girls in cloth diapers/longies in for this contest. Give them a thumbs up if you have time! Let me know if you add any of your own pictures! :)post #114 of 9463/26/12 at 1:00pmThread Starter
AK - voted!
Mal - Oh poor Greta! With such little fussing I wouldn't have suspected something so bad either. R never has had an ear infection (actually, he's never been sick enough to take to a doctor for anything..) It does sound like you have a great job there with the hours and time off, it's nice to have such a good balance. A job you love and that you're great at is awesome!!
Kate - You're sooo close! I'm thinking of you and sending lots of labour vibes. Hopefully your babe will be in your arms before you even need to think of a 40 week decision :)
AFM - I had a nice weekend with my friends to celebrate my b-day. I turn 29 on Wednesday :) Today I've been doing some interview prep just in case I get a call. I'm so anxious waiting to hear!post #115 of 9463/26/12 at 2:34pm
Ugh, ear infections sound horrible. I've never dealt with that with myself or the kids thankfully. Hope Greta feels better soon.
Also, awesome feedback from the parents about your classroom Mal! I'd want you to be Fiona's teacher if she went to school! :)
Fiona has been complaining that her vulva hurts when she pees. Sometimes to the point of crying so we took her in today to see if she has a UTI. no, but she does have a yeast infection. I didn't think little kids could get them. Poor girl. So we will treat that and hope it clears soon.post #116 of 9463/26/12 at 2:36pmThread Starterpost #117 of 9463/26/12 at 3:00pmpost #118 of 9463/26/12 at 4:36pmpost #119 of 9463/26/12 at 5:25pm
Everr: Yay!!! And Happy Birthday mama!! :-) I hope you get the job for your b-day.
Mal: Ow! Do they do anything about the ear drum? Sounds so painful! We never had an ear infection here either. Thankfully! And you are very lcuky to get summers off! That will be here so soon. Eeck!
Sue: A yeast infection? Poor thing! Those are so heinous. How do you treat it in a little one? I hope she feels better soon!
AFM: Makenna got croup, yet again on Friday. Thankfully we have the steroid medicine and didn't have to go to the ER. Still scary though! Every time she gets a stuffy nose it seems to go into croup. She got a cold on Friday and I just knew. I took out the medicine before she even went to bed - hoping it would ward it off.
Cindypost #120 of 9463/27/12 at 6:00am
Everr: Yay on the interview!! Good luck! And your weekend sounds great! DH and I were just talking about trying to go on a date next month and maybe letting Owyn have a sleepover at Grandma and Grandpa's. Not quite ready to be away from Greta overnight, but at least we can lay around in bed in the morning when it's just her!
Sue: Yuck on the yeast infection, poor girl!
Cindy: Yuck on the croup too! That poor thing, she is really prone to that huh?
They just gave us drops for the ear with the burst ear drum. The doctor said it should heal, but we're supposed to get it checked on in a week to make sure it's healing.
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