Marching on through March!
Body changes and other milestones:
Weeks/Days along: 31 wk, 4d
Appointments: tuesday: prenatal/midwife (& my husband is on spring break so he can come along & meet her this time!). we had a meeting with our doula friday... started birth classes (tuesday nights)... have an appointment to tour the family beginnings birthing center in dayton, might switch to there
Symptoms: i don't have a lot of 'symptoms'... baby moves a lot...
Food: yum. cantaloupe, bagels, cherry juice/yogurt/blueberry/blackberry/strawberry smoothies, still on a cashew butter & honey kick, thinking about making some egg salad fo sandwiches, maybe baking eggs inside avocados (http://lifehacker.com/5881942/bake-an-egg-in-an-avocado-for-a-fast-and-healthy-breakfast-treat)
Exercise: wii fit, walking, yoga video
Body changes and other milestones: i feel bigger&kind of awkward. my balance is off...
Thoughts: i went and looked at a house for rent a few blocks away yesterday. we're going to try to see a few more this week... our lease is up MAY 31st!! so that will really suck, moving then, but i don't want to stay in this house, either. it is a fine house, we just don't like where it is/the carpets/how the rooms are laid out/etc. i hope we can find a good house to move to... originally we were thinking we'd buy a house, but don't want to live in ohio anymore so much, so it will be better to rent so we can leave easily. it just sucks finding places in our town, it's wee and mostly filled with college students (20,000 of them, 2k full-year residents, and the college students pay exorbitant rents, like 34k for 2 semesters, that's not even a year. there are some reasonable rents for family homes but they are few/hard to find). i was going to make some curtains for baby's room but i guess i will wait till i know what sort of windows to do them for :) otherwise, just trying to check things off so they are ready... i want to have most everything done by 37 weeks, like the car seat installed and the mattress protector on our bed and maybe we need to sign up for CPR classes. anyhow, also thinking about what we will do for our 1 year wedding anniversary--july 9th!! a friend gave us a giftcard to state parks in oh for a wedding gift, so maybe we'll use it to rent a cute cabin for a couple nights. & oh, tomorrow is my birthday!! i was thinking we'd go to the zoo in cincinnati & then fancy dinner, but we went to cincinnati 3 times last week--now we're going to yellow springs, oh, another wee college town past dayton--there's a park so we can go on a hike & the park has a bird sanctuary & nearby there's a dairy with fresh ice cream & i need to find a restaurant to go to... an adventure day! we haven't done much exploring since we moved here, too busy, so it will be nice to get out.
Weeks/Days along: Right now I am 28 weeks and 4 days pregnant and loving the fact that I can still say that.
Appointments: I have an ultrasound today at 1pm, and then a doctor's appointment on Thursday morning where NST will be booked on a weekly basis from here until I deliver.
Symptoms: This has been changing from day to day and hour to hour, but cramping, contracting and bleeding have all continued. I've had a lot of hip and leg pains the last few days
Food: No thank you. I am just not hungry anymore... until I am, then it's like I can't get enough to eat. I am still eating small, regular meals, but when I'm really hungry, I am REALLY hungry
Exercise: I move my legs and arms around as much as possible while stuck in bed. :P
Body changes and other milestones: I have given up on having boobs that are anywhere near fitting into any bra I currently own. I don't even want to measure them for fear of what I might find. My current 44-I cup bra now has me spilling out of the sides.
Thoughts: *LOTS OF NEGATIVE JUNK PAST HERE*
I have been really careful not to say this out loud or online or anywhere, but it's driving me nuts. I'm really starting to just want this pregnancy over with. I hate not knowing if my son is okay all the time. I hate not being able to see him or feel him moving or know that my body isn't destroying him.
I am angry at my own body for not being able to do this one thing properly. I am a firm believer in women's bodies and their ability to birth healthily and normally. And then my body miscarries 8 times and now I can't even be pregnant without major problems...
I know that this is my issue to work through, but my husband is acting like none of it is a problem or even showing signs that he recognizes my issues here. He just goes through life like everything is normal, but I think that's his coping mechanism. "If I pretend it's normal, it is normal."
Meanwhile, I'm the one who can't go to his grandmother's 90th birthday on Saturday, or celebrate her own 30th birthday with friends or family. It's beyond frustrating.
I guess I just needed to vent somewhere that I wish my pregnancy would either stop being such a pain in the ass or let me deliver so I have an answer one way or another.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ROXI! I hope you have a wonderful day!!
Weeks/Days along: 30w 3d (66 days to go according to my awesome iPhone app!)
Appointments: Midwife next week, every two weeks now. Birth class starts tonight! Chiro tomorrow - twice a week now.
Symptoms: Lots of pelvic girdle pain. Ouch!
Food: Craving protein. Lots of eggs, peanut butter and meat.
Exercise: Yoga, walking and a million pelvic tilts a day.
Body changes and other milestones:Belly getting bigger and I swear my boobs are shrinking!
Thoughts: many thoughts this week...
- My baby shower is on Saturday and I'm super excited to get my belly hennaed on Friday night. I'll be sure to post pictures!
- I'm feeling little Oscar move around a lot, which I love.
- Linnie, I'm feeling your pain! I've had a cold for five days which sucks. My mister's cold turned into a sinus infection and ear infection and he's on antibiotics. I've been taking emergen-C and doing the neti-pot every day to avoid the same fate!
- I love reading about everyone's postpartum needs. I had to look up a peri-bottle. Fun!
Jynx, my thoughts are with you. Sending you good thought to get through this super frustrating time!
Happy Birthday, Roxi! Sounds like some fun bday plans. You must be enjoying some nice weather. I can't wait to plan more outdoorsy stuff. I hope you have a great day.
Jen-- Sorry to hear you struggling. Hang in there. Every day baby stays put is a blessing.
Weeks/Days along: 31 w 5 days
Symptoms: Harder to sleep, lots of tossing and turning b/c of soreness (although not as bad since I got the memory foam topper); back, hip, leg pain; tired
Food: Pretty normal
Exercise: Not lately, been fighting exhaustion and a little illness since last week when my youngest was home for 3 days with strep
Body changes and other milestones: Some days my belly looks and feels huge, others not so much. The sales person at Lowe's actually commented I don't look big enough to be having a baby in 8 weeks. I think it was the black jacket I was wearing. :-) Baby's position seems to affect it too. His movements can be a bit painful sometimes now, but I'm always glad to feel him moving to know he is doing ok. Some days he moves a ton, others just a little here and there.
Thoughts: Got the curtain up in baby's room. It is so cute and makes it feel more real! I also got a few things I will need post-partum, but really need to make my list and get the rest soon. My friend sent me the best diaper bag filled with awesome stuff last week. It is just what I wanted and somehow she read my mind. :-) We are starting the month of birthdays this week. Step DS bday celebration is tomorrow, DH's end of the month, and two more of our kiddos within the next several days after that. Then just a few week break before baby is due. I hope the time goes fast, but we still have a lot to do to be ready!
Weeks/Days along: 28 + 2
Appointments: I think the next one is at 30 weeks.
Symptoms: Nothing new that I can think of right now.
Food: I'm not really into eating much of anything right now. DH had a cold at the beginning of last week and he oh so kindly passed it on to me. I'm drinking a lot of lemon and honey tea and forcing myself to try and eat.
Exercise: Yeah... this cold is not really conducive to exercise. Standing in the hot, steamy shower... does that count?
Body changes and other milestones: My comfy prepregnancy pajama bottoms just are cutting it anymore. I've moved on to DH's pj pants but I have to push those down under my belly to be comfortable.
Thoughts: Momentary whine: DH gave me his cold just in time for me to travel to CT for the weekend. Thank goodness the plane ride was only an hour. I thought my head was going to split open. On the flight back I got on and sat in the aisle seat (Southwest, no assigned seating). This business man approaches my row and looks with disgust at the open middle seat and asked if it was taken, clearly with the attitude that he thought I should move over into the middle seat. Hello - I'm pregnant and miserable and like hell I'm going to give you my aisle seat! That's what I wanted to say, but I just stood up and let him slide into the middle seat. I am so happy to be home now where at least I can wallow in self pity in the comfort of my own home.
Weeks/Days along: 30 w 4 days
Appointments: Last 4 week appointment today! Next appointment is 2 weeks from now, and I get an ultrasound at that one!
Symptoms: Harder to sleep, lots of tossing and turning, can't get comfortable. Also getting up at least 4+ times every night to go to the bathroom, and half of the time when I get up around 4am I can't go back to sleep , so I have to stay up for an hour or more before I can go back to bed... major exhaustion all the time, very sleepy and yawny. My massage job is getting more and more difficult and I am thinking every day now when I should quit. It still seems a bit early but it's getting harder and harder.
Exercise: I still get on the treadmill here and there, but not enough to call it a routine. Doing massage and walking up stairs seems like a good workout to me these days...
Body changes and other milestones: Just getting bigger and bigger, and more uncomfortable each day. GROSS ALERT-- I have always had discharge the whole pregnancy, not a ton but.... you can smell it. At first I thought I was the only who could smell it since I had super smelling sense, but my DH says he can too!! EW! WHO ELSE IS SMELLING ME!! :( Embarrassing!
Thoughts: As I mentioned in the hospital thread, I had my birth class at the hospital this last weekend and I loved it! Makes me love my hospital even more. Only 19% c-section rate, and lots of people choose not to use medication, it's a great environment for moms like me, and I think that's why we flock there instead of going to the bigger hospital in the town I live in (they have a 35% c-section rate). Everyone there is super nice and everyone seems to be supportive of a natural birth and all the nurses are trained to give you lots of techniques to use while getting through labor. Jacuzzi tubs in each room sounds fun to try as well!! I hope I can make it through without any drugs, since that is my plan!! They also focus a lot on things like "skin to skin" right after birth for an hour before any medication is given to them (the eye ointment and vitamin K stuff), and she encourages us to do skin to skin for the first 2 weeks as much as we can. They just have a good vibe that reminded me of this group and this website, whereas at the other hospitals it isn't like that. I loved it!!
Weeks/Days along: 31 weeks
Appointments: Next Monday
Symptoms: Same ol' same ol'...the heartburn has gone to the next level. Tums don't do a thing anymore. :(
Food: CARBS. All I want is carbs. :| Some fruit is appetizing, but not much. Strawberries and peaches is about it. Meat is totally unappealing. I have to pretty much force myself to eat veggies. Except there's one salad that I love. Spinach, tomato, avocado, bacon, and honey mustard dressing. YUM.
Exercise: I've been driving DD to school for the last week, so none. :| I think I'll start that yoga video this week though.
Body changes and other milestones: Nothing new really. I still look like my old self, just with a big ol' belly and boobs. And ginormous areolas (?) that look like pancakes.
Thoughts: We're getting into SO's busy season for work, so he's started traveling more again. The work is a good thing, but I hate the weeks where he's gone all week. 2-3 days I can handle, but 6-7 days make me sad. :(
Jynx - For many men (most?), their coping techniques are definitely very different than ours, and pretending everything is hunky dory and just moving on with life can be seriously infuriating when you're needing some emotional support. Have you tried bringing it up to him? I know with my DH, he's could be having all sorts of feelings, but he puts a happy face on it to everyone (including me), so as not to make us worry. Drives me nuts, and it took me years to figure it out. SOmetimes I just have to pick a fight with him in order to get any emotional insight.
As for me, MW appt in less than an hour, and then we go to every 2 weeks. I think I'm 28 wks today.
DS' root canal is tomorrow, so that'll be a lovely stressful day. Thankfully we got our taxes done this weekend, so I'm not stressing about the cost so much any more.
Food - carbs. I love em. They don't love me. It's miserable. I'm not interested in eating meat or most veggies. I force myself to do it, but I really don't wanna. I'd be much happier with a jar of PB and a spoon. I'm about to get on a scale and find out how much weight I've gained in the last 2 weeks - that's gonna be festive.
Not a whole lot else going on around here. We're doing a lot of cleaning and decluttering, trying to prep for a crazy pp. Talked to my dad this weekend about the possibility of having them pitch in on a cleaning service for month 9 through the 4th trimester, he seemed amenable to the idea. Still working on ideas for my mama blessing - think we're going to do a "Chinese Tea", and just buy in dim sum, rather than going to the hassle of prepping the food ourselves. I'm trying to figure out how to keep the steamed food warm, but I'm sure I'll come up with something.
Anyway, I need to get some protein in my belly before my MW shows up so I'm not falling asleep on her. Hope everyone is having a decent Monday!
Weeks/Days along I'll be 31 weeks tomorrow!!
Symptoms: trouble sleeping because i can't get comfy & I'm up a lot to pee in the night. I'm generally exhausted all the time now. Aside from that, nothing really new.
Food: like others have said - CARBS! Particularly jelly belly jelly beans. and continued strange cravings for non-food items.
Body changes and other milestones Larger belly and darkening stretch marks ~ I'm hoping I don't get any new ones. The ones from before are a purple-ish color now. I'm still puffy. I think this puffiness might just last the remainder of the pregnancy.
Thoughts: I have a cold. Seems like a lot of us have colds now. I'm taking vitamins, emergen-C, drinking water, tea, and steamy showers, GSE, and raw garlic, but not much is helping so far.
We went to a batmitzvah this weekend and so many people asked me when I was due and made comments like "Any day now, eh?" ~ <sigh> I did look quite large ~ in fact I will post a picture as soon as I get them off my camera card.
Speaking of pictures, DH (who has shown NO interest in photos or documenting this pregnancy in any way) suddenly decided this weekend that he would like to take me out and get some pictures of me all big and pregnant. He is a decent photographer and I am excited about a little photo session. <3
Roxi ~ happy birthday!
Jen ~ yay for still being pregnant! I think all of your feelings are perfectly normal and justified. Men deal with things so differently. When we got some scary news at our 20 week anatomy scan, DH was immediately in denial and continues to refuse to entertain the possibility that anything could possibly be wrong. That coping mechanism can be so frustrating for us women!
Megan ~ standing in the hot steamy shower is my main form of “exercise” these days too.
Janelle ~ If you have to be in a hospital, that one sounds great! The fact that they are used to moms being natural, skin to skin etc. is such a good sign. How exciting!! Oh an as lighthearted mentioned ~ changing a panty liner a few times throughout the day will really reduce smell. If it smells really gross get to the midwife asap because it might be an infection.
Lighthearted ~ I definitely have a head in my ribcage! I can clearly feel a nice round HARD bump there and feel the kicks of his little feet very low on my bladder. I know there is plenty of time left, but I would like it if he would get himself head-down already.
Sarah ~ lol pancake areolas! Mine have gotten a lot bigger too. I remember mine getting bigger right after delivery as my milk came in with DS2. Honestly I am hoping mine don’t get much bigger at this point ~ they are looking a little out of proportion to my boobs now haha! Aww sorry your SO will be gone so long! Use your 6-7 days to pamper yourself with long relaxing baths and catching up on reading, crafting….
I had an appointment last week. All the numbers looked good but I've not heard back on the glucose test.
I had been having some weird rib pains. The worst is on the right side toward the back. My dr said it was probably a foot kicking up there but did an extra dip in the urine to check for kidney issues. That's almost completly resolved now. She suggested a heating pad if it happens again.
Food is still mostly uninteresting to me. I've been trying to get more protein rather than just eat saltines like I was doing. Almonds are hitting the spot. I've also finally jumped on the Greek yogurt bandwagon. I wasn't going to spend that much on a tiny container of yogurt but is is so much less sugary and much more creamy than the cheap stuff and it supposedly has more protein.
I've been bad about exercise. Some stretches but nothing cardio. I can't even count chasing kids since even when we go to the park it is to the little one where I can sit near the entrance and not do much. Today however I went back to the gym and did some time on the elipical and some weigh machines for legs. The other day the knee with only a partial ACL felt wobbly. I need muscle to keep it from failing.
I just feel huge and I've been getting the tiring "Only one" and "about to pop" jokes. Thanks friends and family and lady at the gym. Though the lady at the gym gave me a water bottle (she works there) when I mentioned having forgotten mine so I guess I forgive her. :)
My DH is seriously stressed about his job. I just don't know what to do for him anymore. In the last 3 weeks he's only had a couple days off. He wakes up at 4 and can't get back to sleep because work stuff is tumbling around in his head. I know he's worried about having another kid and us moving this summer but he doesn't want me to worry but I do.
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Weeks/Days along: 30+ weeks
Appointments: had one last thursday, starting the every two weeks from here on out! that feels like a milestone to me.
Symptoms: heartburn still, not always but often, at night and when I bend over. Sciatic pain on both sides. It sucks. Sends shooting blasts of pain down my leg.
Food: Yogurt, almonds, granola, cereal, oatmeal. Red meat! cucumbers. oranges oranges oranges. Can't get enough oranges.
Exercise: Um... Ok, so I HAVE been doing the prenatal yoga DVD lindsay recommended from Blooma yoga. But only once a week. I can tell after I do it that if I only did it every day, I'd probably feel fantastic right now. But I don't have time or energy. And there is the slight complication that when I bend over in yoga I get heartburn, even if I've not eaten right before.
I am excited for spring and the days getting longer so I can add a little walk to my morning or evening commute. Otherwise, I'm giving myself the OK to wait until post partum to get back in shape... I can't tell sometimes if I would be more energetic if I exercised more, or if my body is telling me I'm tired so take it easy.
Body changes and other milestones: I've been getting the "Any day now" or "wow, just one" comments for weeks but recently I feel like I am actually ENORMOUS, like, I'm starting to wonder myself how I can last until May?! I've gained 31 pounds. Of course, I wouldn't mind if I just gained a pound a week from here on out - 40 sounds like a good round number for my body, but.... I know how many more pounds this babe has to put on and I know I'll reach 40 "any day now" !! eek.
Thoughts: trying to stay confident - not feel insecure about how huge I am. I feel self conscious sometimes, like, my belly and thighs are huge and my face is so much puffier. But, I'm trying REALLY hard to feel beautiful and enjoy these last 8 to 10 weeks. With all the Dr/ultrasound stuff I posted about last week, I'm just having a hard time staying positive. It's hard to block out the medical establishment. I go back and forth with being successful depending on how stressed I am in general.
I have been working too hard - traveling (on airplanes) WAY too much. Right now, I'm in DC for the day for work, then to Atlanta tonight and then back home friday. The sciatic pain is bad today and I'm sure it's because I've been lugging this damn suitcase around the airport. feeling a bit sorry for myself. I work in nonprofit affordable housing and there is just a lot going on right now. I know I need to put a stop to the travel. I'm working on that one. I'm supposed to travel again next week AND the week after. But I'll try to say no and not worry that I'm doing a bad job. Ahhh the work/life balance dynamic, how I hate it.
Plus, I really have been sad to leave DS for work travel. I think the impending second child/drastic change to our family dynamic is making leaving him right now so much harder than it normally is. I miss him every day even when he's just at preschool and I'm at the office. A lot of emotional stuff there...
Jen: I just want to send you some . It is totally understandable that you'd be feeling what you describe: both frustrated with DH about his lack of understanding, and frustration with your body and pregnancy. I hope it can bring you some peace knowing that the very fact that this baby is still in your belly shows just what your body is capable of... I know easier said than done, and I hear you loud and clear on the fear/anxiety/frustration of not knowing if he's OK. And I think you are doing great (at least what I can gather knowing you virtually!) and I just admire you and we are all here for you, obviously.
Weeks/Days along: 28w5d
Appointments: My appt last week went great! No diabetes, no anemia, weight gain is good. The midwife said she was head down and a "good size" baby. Uh oh...I might be having a big baby, so that's kind of scary to think about!
Symptoms: Hungry! I really need to do better about keeping food in me. Round ligament pain occasionally. Lots of Braxton Hicks. I'm still hoping that lots of BH's means an easier labor :)
Food: Carbs when I don't eat enough. Anything spicy is always good!
Exercise: Lots of walking. Did some light weight lifting last night. I'm trying to get my upper body ready for all of the holding and babywearing I'm hoping to do!
Body changes and other milestones: I've definitely grown a lot of over the past 2-3 weeks. It's crazy!
Thoughts: Time feels like it's running out. I've got SO much left to do!
I just wanted to do a quick update here on a couple of the DDC things we have going on.
All of the birth beads will be shipped out tomorrow :) Thanks to all the wonderful women who participated!
Every one got some random extras...I can't wait for every one to see what they got and also to see the finished products we come up with!
I have changed a few things on the virtual gift exchange. If you signed up check the last message, and if you didn't sign up - reread. http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1345159/any-interest-in-a-virtual-mother-or-baby-gift-exchange-sign-up#post_16902998
As long as we have a partner to match you with I have no problem keeping the virtual gift exchange going for a while longer - tentatively thinking mid April. That gives a month for people to sign up, be matched and exchange.
Two options for mailing: Mail your gift By April 1st OR two weeks from the day you get your partner to exchange with. Whichever date is the later date is the one you go with. For no-shows and emergencies, I will be on stand by to ship a gift.
(PS) You may not be assigned to receive a gift from the person you are shipping to. I reserve the right to do it all random like if thats ok
Weeks/Days along: 29 weeks
Appointments: Need to go back to MW tomorrow morning to pee on a stick so she can monitor my ketone levels this week. Hopefully they won't register as abnormally high again.
Symptoms: Heartburn is making its appearance on stage these days.
Food: Eh, although I'm digging garlicky labneh a lot this week.
Exercise: Finally found a regular babysitter for Fridays from 9:30-3:30 so I can take this prenatal yoga class I like and have some time to run errands.
Body changes and other milestones: Getting big! But also getting a real "glow" the last week or so, which I'm enjoying since I know that at some point soon, I'll start getting big and bulky and weird feeling.
Thoughts: Still a little concerned about the ketones thing, but otherwise have been having a great week. Feeling not too tired, my back and pelvic girdle pain has 90% disappeared thanks to physical therapy, and my toddler has been only a minor hurricane force this week. My dear friend is completing her doula training in April, so I'm going to be her first official client, which I'm thrilled about. Hoping my son continues his easy behavior for the next week, since my husband will be out of town from tomorrow through next Tuesday for work. Had a brief moment of stress this week when my inlaws were sort of pressuring me to predict when the baby will arrive. They're going to rent an apt in our neighborhood for two weeks so they can help out with our toddler when the baby is born, which is incredibly kind and sweet of them. The only drawback was when they kept asking me when they should do it - a week before the due date, on the due date, after the due date, etc. I was like, PEOPLE I DO NOT HAVE AN ANSWER FOR YOU. I have no idea! First baby came a week early, have no idea if this one will do the same, be on time, be late...how on earth could I predict that at this point? My MIL had two children without schedule c-sections or being induced, so you would think she'd remember the essential unpredictableness of birth! It all worked out, but sheesh.
Jen & Roxi - happy upcoming birthdays to you both!