I'm due in June. I'm planning to give birth at a hospital with a doula (hopefully all-natural, but we'll see what happens). The doula I've chosen is extremely knowledgeable. She owns a doula company that other doulas work through, and she is also a lactation consultant. She is QUITE expensive ($1800), but I know that when I go into labor with her at my home, then eventually go to the hospital to give birth with her, I will feel completely confident and like I am in great hands, and that is worth a lot to me.
However, I'm getting a little frustrated with her, and perhaps wrongly so. So far, I've met with her once (to meet and decide if we wanted to work together). At that time she offered to get together to go on walks with me. I told her at that time that I really had my own workout schedule and my life is completely over-booked. I'm not interested in a personal trainer, and the thought of having to schedule something like that into my already frantic life really stressed me out. That is not what I want her for! She seemed to understand.
Now, it's weeks later, and I haven't met with her. I've never had a doula before, so I'm not sure how it all works, but I have a lot of stuff I really want to ask her/go over with her. She sends me an email saying she wants to get together this weekend to go walking with me. WTF? I told her I'm really booked up this weekend and need to keep with my workout and recovery days so walking was not an option (Saturday is a rest day for me. Sunday I have a long yoga class. She wants to make sure I go on "long walks"). I haven't heard back from her. But I'm a little stressed that this is the only communication she's making with me, and seems to forget what we've discussed before.
I'm starting to worry that all she seems to be offering me for that huge sum of money is stuff I'm not interested in. I don't want a personal trainer. I want a doula! Should I stick with this lady because I am confident in her knowledge and that she will be a huge asset during my delivery (no small thing)? Or should I continue to look for someone else who isn't having me pay for services I don't want (i.e., I don't want a personal babysitter or friend to walk with me or a personal trainer)? I guess I'm just not clear on how this all is supposed to work.
Any input greatly appreciated!