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post #21 of 59

Oh my gosh Gozal! CONGRATULATIONS! Happy and healthy nine months to you! carrot.gifbroc1.gifbanana.gif

 

Stevi, pity parties every now and then are totally acceptable. You deserve some time to let those real, deep feelings out. Hugs to you, I know your time is coming soon. hug2.gif

 

Shawnamarie, I know how you're feeling, I think most if not all of us do! It's tough, but that's why we're here. For support, encouragement, and friendship during this crazy TTC time. Hugs. grouphug.gif As far as telling people in our life that we are TTC, no, we haven't told anyone yet really. I've hinted to some friends, but no major announcements. I think that would put unwanted pressure on us, and since we're younger people would start asking why it's not happening and prying more, which isn't something I'm really comfortable with. I'd much rather "surprise" everyone when it does happen.

 

AFM: Nothing really to report. Still trying to move into our new house and get settled. As of this week, I'm officially enrolled in a midwifery program! So with all the added stress, I'm expecting to O late.

 

I hope everyone is having a good week! goodvibes.gif I can't believe we had no February BFPs! Time to step it up for March. ;)

post #22 of 59

Gozal...   CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Twins!!! May you have no more worries in your future besides how to arrange two cribs, two high chairs, and two car seats!!!

post #23 of 59
WOW Gozal!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! That's amazing! A very healthy and happy 9 months to you, my dear! joy.gif

Uhm, I'm lame. I normally just check my profile to see which of my posted on threads have new messages on them... not realizing that there was a new thread here so yeah, sorry I haven't checked in. redface.gif

I have a few select people in my life that know we are TTC but only people that I know support it (Mostly close friends) NONE of my family knows. They think we should be happy with what we have. (My husband actually has 4 children so they DEFINITELY think he should be done)... When we found out about our little lost one in January, we told most of my family and some of DH's and they were, surprisingly, happy for us. (Untelling really sucked though.) I thought for sure I would get a negative reaction but I didn't. It makes me feel bad to keep it a secret from them (They thought it was an accident.. and while it was a SURPRISE, it wasn't an accident) but I just want to keep it between DH and I and not have the constant "Are you pregnant?" conversation every time we see them. It's just easier.

Okay, so FF is stupid. Just so you know. It has me Oing on CD 10. I have done EVERYTHING I can think of (other than throwing out temps) to get rid of this coverline they insist on giving me. I actually didn't have it until this afternoon (cd 13) when I found some EWCM and noted it in my chart...WTH would that give me a CL for 4 days ago?? I DO suspect I O'd incredibly early with my loss as we only BD'd on CD 7 but I don't recall any O symptoms then.... and I am DEFINITELY having O symptoms *today* (ewcm, SHO cervix) but it makes me wonder if maybe I'm just Oing earlier than I think I am. 8 years of charting... I shouldn't be this darn confused. Ugh. eyesroll.gif
Edited by Attached2Elijah - 3/7/12 at 1:57pm
post #24 of 59

Wow, congratulations, Gozal!

 

Shawnamarie - with our first, we kept our TTC a secret, even until halfway through the pregnancy. This time, I was too tired of hiding my high hopes and low lows from everyone, so I went ahead and shared. I figure, it can't hurt to have a few cheerleaders IRL as well as online. I don't think it will diminish their excitement (if we ever finally succeed).

 

Attached2Elijah - FF is indeed stupid sometimes, but I bet in a couple days it changes its mind for you. At least that's always how it is for me. 

post #25 of 59

CONGRATULATIONS, GOZAL!!! YYYAAAYYY!

 

I also think some of you would appreciate to know that Gemmine is also pregnant again after her loss last year. =) So for those of you that know her, you should throw her a PM.

post #26 of 59
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CONGRATULATIONS, GOZAL!!! YYYAAAYYY!

I also think some of you would appreciate to know that Gemmine is also pregnant again after her loss last year. =) So for those of you that know her, you should throw her a PM.

Yes! She is on another thread I am on and I literally cried tears of joy for her when she got her BFP! joy.gif
post #27 of 59

That is so, so awesome, GOZAL!!! I actually chart-stalked you a while ago, and saw your + I'm sooooo happy for you! Wow, good luck - and twins, WOW!!

 

A2E, I'm kinda unhappy with ff recently, too. Just sayin'.

 

As for telling, I usually say, "we're working on it" when people ask about another baby. It's sufficiently nonchalant. I did make the mistake of telling a friend a while back who really bugs me - I've vented about that before here. She seems to take it personally that I'm bugged it is taking us so long (kinda like, "how dare you be upset you're not pregnant yet, you've only been trying for 6 months"). I think it can help (me) to have a couple dear supporters IRL. One of my closest friends here is pregnant (started trying at the same time as me, had one early m/c and now is 16 weeks along). Sometimes it's hard to be around her, but she has also been really supportive and nice about my insecurities. So... that's who I talk to. innocent.gif Her and you guys!

 

 

post #28 of 59

Hi!!

 

Please add me to the 2WW! I completed my 2nd round of Clomid this month. Fingers crossed! Good luck everyone!

post #29 of 59
Who's gonna have a CD 14 O?!! THIS GIRL! So freakin' excited! I've only ever got pregnant on cycles where I O'd on CD 14 (except the loss, of course, which I still don't know when that happened) I also think last night was AMAZING timing... I think my biggest patch of EWCM was right before and during BD! Every thing just felt RIGHT... just like it did when I got pregnant with DD. We'll BD again tonight just to cover our bases but I feel REALLY good about our chances this month! I have felt good about this month from the beginning, I don't know how to explain it... but I'm actually NERVOUS for the 2ww for the first time in a very, VERY long time! EEK! (And FF took away my coverline from CD 10 today too! Yay!)
post #30 of 59
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Who's gonna have a CD 14 O?!! THIS GIRL! So freakin' excited! I've only ever got pregnant on cycles where I O'd on CD 14 (except the loss, of course, which I still don't know when that happened) I also think last night was AMAZING timing... I think my biggest patch of EWCM was right before and during BD! Every thing just felt RIGHT... just like it did when I got pregnant with DD. We'll BD again tonight just to cover our bases but I feel REALLY good about our chances this month! I have felt good about this month from the beginning, I don't know how to explain it... but I'm actually NERVOUS for the 2ww for the first time in a very, VERY long time! EEK! (And FF took away my coverline from CD 10 today too! Yay!)


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post #31 of 59

Mmmm, maybe I need to move to confused.gif WTF IS GOING ON?!?! confused.gif

 

Anyone would tell me, especially at this point, that i am OBVIOUSLY not pregnant, but i am still in some serious denial. @!@  This morning there was blood in the toilet, so I'm wearing a liner, but I'm not convinced my period really started (I feel dripping and run to look, but so far no more blood).  I feel crampy, but also still nauseous and weak.  I REALLY don't want to be teaching today.  :(  I want to crawl back into bed!  But today.... is Parent Teacher Conferences after school, and then my big date with sweet dh.  Dinner and theatre. 

What does today hold??  beginning of AF?  End of that pipe dream?  Or continued confusion...?  Hopefully confusion!

post #32 of 59

blood, more blood, less confusion... :(  :(  :(

post #33 of 59
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blood, more blood, less confusion... :(  :(  :(


Hope you feel better soon hug2.gif

I felt the same last cycle and almost convinced myself I didn't want another, but it was all hormones talking. I hope this cycle is the one for you!

 

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post #34 of 59

Thank you.  It is good to be understood.  My "positive talk" is in high gear.  @@  I'm reflecting on the moments of pleasure I noticed this past week - things I enjoyed and am thankful for.  Also, the phrase "maybe it's for the best."  Ha... one of my favorites is "Let's assume, just for a minute, that God is in control."  I was just praying... I can't deny the wish of my heart that this would have become a child.  But I "know" that if it wasn't God's best, then I didn't really "want" it.  Too many quotes.  :P  I'm honestly just grouchy and very irritated right now.  In a roomful of 2nd graders, poor kids.  poor me!  I've got to let this go, let my body release all of that.  And move on, right?  :(

post #35 of 59

I hate the first few days of a new cycle. It takes a few days to come down from the (failed) hoping and get back to business. What helps me is doing all the things I wouldn't do if I were pregnant, like drinking all the soda I want and tackle wrestling with my dh and ds.

post #36 of 59

Oh Gozal, that is such wonderful news! Thank you so much for sharing! I came online this morning thinking, no BFPs in February and now we are a week in March. It is time! It sounds like you are our Feb BFP. And two heartbeats! Wow. Blessed be, Mama!

 

Fertile fairy dust to all!

post #37 of 59
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Jpack its ok, I am not repeating myself. As far as I can tell, the only thing that stands out in my chart is consistent 9 day LP, no matter when I ovulate (cycle length overall doesn't seem to affect it) and overall low temps, high 96s to very low 97s pre O, mid to high 97s after.  

BellyBaby how many dpo are you?  I can't tell you how many tests I have wasted, it is so hard to wait!  Hoping your BFP is here soon!


Don't know.  only halfway charted this first month and had very confusing fertility symptoms.  This makes me even more ok with starting my af and buckling down with charting

 



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Wanted to post a quick update since the ultrasound last week:

Our little baby is growing right on schedule and has a healthy heartbeat. It was laying on its side looking out at us, so we could see its head, left arm, and left foot. It was even "waving" its little arm at us. We're just over 9 weeks along today. It seems like time is both crawling and flying by.

 

I'm so excited for March BFPs! I'm half Irish, so this is one of my favorite months. :- )  Fingers crossed!!


Yay!  Con grats!  How early is the earliest they can detect a HB via sono? 

 



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Skinnylove, that is great news!

 

Stevi, good grief, 18 days!??!!

 

I am hanging out here, not feeling any symptoms, just about 8 DPO. I am not going to test until 17 DPO, because I have just been wasting too many tests... Not feeling too optimistic, but open to it...

 

I am still really struggling with my health and weight. I wish I could go on like a 2 week retreat (maybe just retreat days with nights at home - I would miss my DD and DH) to jump start weight loss and get all my issues clarified. Cleanse. Test for food intolerances with muscle resistance, etc... Do some work around loving myself as I am, do art, write, just get grounded... Some aromatherapy. Massage. Psychotherapy. Two weeks would be a good start... I could do a lot of this stuff on my own, but I feel like I need to have a plan...

 

In the mean time I have new students and a bunch of work to do for my classes, and my volunteer work is demanding... And I have DD every day, all day with few breaks because my DH works 60 hour weeks. And my house is cluttered. And I love pastry too much. And my new cat is really cute. To much to do.

 

End of rant.



I love your rant. hugs to you, big ones.  I think taking care of yourself sounds like a very important thing indeed



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Oh, before I forget, rebekah, could you please move me to Waiting to Know? (and thanks for the hello!) I'm actually almost 8dpo, but my chart was being particularly difficult to decipher last week. FF and I are now in agreement.

anya, I like your rant. It would be SO nice to have a semi-retreat like that! 

skinnylove, that's awesome!

shawna, yuck on finals stress--and a broken thermometer! (but yay for a temp jump)

newtoTTC, your doc sounds awesomely on top of things. I hope you get (fixable) answers soon.

bellybaby, LOL at your "alien body" now. I know the feeling--this is my 2nd cycle after my m/c and by body is just misbehaving.

jpack, my chart was all sorts of confused between OPKs and temps, but FF and I finally agreed on my O date, CD23. (click on the link in the OP if you care to look)

candyshells, sorry about the BFN. With my DS2, I KNEW I was pg, but couldn't get a HPT to agree with me until 14dpo. FX for you!

stevi, yes--good grief! :/

 

om.gif <--me, trying to wait patiently...

 

 



Hehe.  Thanks.  It's all wonky!



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Very true. I'm just being hormonal and dramatic. It sounds like you are in a good place right now to be appreciative of what you have in life. Ultimately, I am as well.

 

Question for you ladies: have you told anyone in your life (friends, family) that you are TTCing? Or do you keep it just between you and your partner?



I've told a couple friends in secret because I just needed to talk to someone. But none of the grandparents or anything. 



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Hey guys, remember me? I have not been so active on this thread in a while, but I couldn't bear to leave it. This is where I made my first post on MDC back in Dec. 2010. I had already been trying for a year back then. This thread was a real sanity saver for me. I never imagined it would be such a long journey for me. TTC #1 took two cycles. Well, I've had a lot of rare and unforeseeable/random problems since. I have seen many (though sadly not all) buddies I made over here pass through this thread. I was determiend to stay until I could be a graduate. Well, when you have experienced 1 in 15,000 odds and a complicated loss, you do not feel like a graduate until you are holding a healthy baby in your arms. But I think it would also be a little much to stick around in "Waiting to Know" until October. ;) So I am inexpressibly overjoyed to say that I finally got that BFP last month and am, today, eight weeks pregnant with two beating hearts in there. I am still feeling nervous, but I think I am ready to be moved to Graduates.

 

Thank you to all who gave me their support over the year+ I have been here! Stevi, you better be next, my friend!

 Big huge congratulations! I'm so happy for all of you!!!!

 

 

 

AFM- My temp dropped a bit the past 2 days, so I assumed I'm heading for AF.  I've been nauseas all week, but I'm also assuming that if I was preg and HcG isn't high enough to register a hpt, then it wouldn't be causeing nausea, lol.  Then today it was back up a little.  I so wish I had had a better thermometer early last month so I knew my coverline, etc.

 

So I'm just hanging tight now and waiting to start or something. I started back up low carb, trying to get a little healthier again.  I've gained weight this winter and don't feel great.  I know that can affect fertility and if I was to get pregnant fast I want to be feeling as great as possible, even if I don't lose much weight before, you know?
 

 

post #38 of 59

Congratulations gozal!!! SO happy for you! And twins--how neat! I hope you have a truly wonderful pregnancy. joy.gif

 

bellybaby2012: Well, as soon as the heart is big enough to see, they can tell the number of heartbeats, I think. Because it was only about 8.5 weeks, the technician didn't want to let us hear it via sonogram. She said they don't like to focus all of that heat/energy on the embryo until after 10 weeks. So the heartbeat at that point was measured by the number of flutters. At our next appointment with the OB, she'll use the doppler and we'll get to actually hear the heartbeat.

 

 

 

Come on BFPs!! pos.gif

post #39 of 59

okay....my rant is over... Please move me to Waiting to be Ready.  This was a surprise, but now I wonder if dh would like to TTC.  I'm fairly certain it was a chemical pregnancy (dislike that term) and this is not just AF.  How gross is it to scoop out a little blob from the toilet and inspect it?  I just had to know. and that convinced me. 

 

Apology - a bit graphic.

 

Last night I was still feeling pregnant.  I was slightly nauseous and didn't want to eat anything, had pokey twinges on each side and a sharpish poking on the front wall of my uterus.  I imagined that was where it was burrowing in.  In the middle of last night, I had a bad insulin reaction, and wonder if that did it.  Or maybe the loss/hormones caused the reaction, who knows.  But I was startled this morning when I looked in the toilet and saw a heavy liquid-mass of dark blood.  About an hour later, cramping started, and I passed another mass of blood which was red.  I used a tampon then, and when I removed it a little while ago, the singular blob followed it.  I know the baby cells are too small to see, but it had definite structure to it that looked like pictures of 4weeks. 

 

Anyway sorry, didn't want to gross anyone out there, just wanted to tell it.  To my girlfriends, this is just my period, a day late.  To me, it's a loss. 

 

But I think I'm okay. ...TIRED!  No more obsessing. ;)  I have a wonderful loving husband, and a good life.  We'll talk tonight.  I'll be taking better care of myself, and keeping track of my cycle.  Who knows... at least now I believe we are fertile. 

post #40 of 59

Nicole, A2E, Stevi: Thank you all so much, that really means a lot to me love.gif I see Nicole on FB, A2E on another thread, and stalk/lurk Stevi here :-)

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